Does this guy want more from our friends with benefits relationship or am I just a cum dumpster to him?

Known this guy since jr high, were on our early twenties now. We recently started hanging out the most we ever have this year. (Twice a week) and at first he wouldn't call/text much (only text after a few days every few days) and we been having sex most of the time we meet. He would say things like "could u see yourself being with a man like me" or "u could be a porn star" (while I was giving him a BJ) anyway, he talks about his ex occasionally saying how she calls him and he doesn't want anything to do with her. He invited me to his friend's wedding and I was joking at how people asked if we were "husband and wife".. Later on that night he said to me "why can't you be my girlfiend" and I just said it may ruin our friendship. I didn't think he meant it because he didn't pursue or insist upon talking about it afterwards. I'll hear from him at least once a day, but only once.. he doesn't call/text much. Why? If you're into someone wouldn't u want to talk to them often? This is what confuses me. He told me via text the other day how he wants to spend a few nights together and that he wants to sneak me in his house so I can spend the night and we'll wake up with no one home together. (He lives with his parents) am I just a fling to him?
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Most Helpful Guys

  • To him in some respect but I do think he wants you as a regular girlfriend instead but since you made that remark he took it to heart and figured that's what you wanted and didn't want to bother getting into it or discussing it. I think he took you seriously

    • To him in some respect what? That he sees me as a friend with benefits? Why won't he call talk to me often either?

    • He still sees you in that way and doesn't feel he needs to bother if it's casual like you have it right

    • So you're saying because I told him that, he wants to keep it casual?

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  • I agree with what the others say. He wants you in a more serious way. But because of your comment, he doesn't want to risk something good that he enjoys. Maybe he's waiting for you to come around and say something.

    • He's asked me before via text to "be his girl" but if he really wants more, why won't he call/text me more?

    • That's what I want answered

    • Because you said "it may ruin our friendship." He's keeping his distance a bit, or at least not intensifying the relationship, because he doesn't want to lose what he has.

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  • You tell him that you dont want to be his girlfriend and then you complain because he doesn't act like a boyfriend. Get your priorites straight and quit jerking him around. If you want to persue a relationship, then talk to him. It sounds like HE does.

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  • Cum dumpster😂😂 that's a new one

  • Hell no! Not a fling! Keep this guy if you can.

    • What makes you so sure? Why won't he take me out to places then? He would like movies and the beach but that's it lol

  • I think he's more serious than you think.

    • What makes u say that?