Is it okay if I don't let him cum in me?

Question

So I just got on the pill last month and my boyfriend ( of over a year and a half) has been wanting to cum in me when we do anal. I understand that the chances of me getting pregnant that way are slim, but he did it once before and I was miserable until I got my period. I am tokophobic so I was really anxious for days. 

Now that I am on the pill, though, he wants to try again. The thought of it still makes me uncomfortable and I tell him that, but he keeps assuring me I won't get pregnant.

My question is, is it okay for me to continue to say no or should I just let him? I try really hard to make up for the fact that he pulls out, like doing anal, I swallow every time, and give him blowjobs. But I still feel guilty for saying no.

Thor696 · Accepted Answer

Am I the only guy on the planet who is disgusted by anal? I'm not judging here - but it's not for me.

I HAVE done it... twice.

First time my girlfriend was like... "I'm drunk - take my ass!"

It was like a medical procedure... the next morning she told me... "Yeah that's not for you boy." I was like... "Okaaaay... I'm putting it innnnn... oh wait! Does that hurt? I can back out! OMG... OMG..."

The second time was when my wife did it covertly. We were under the covers - I fell out of the "regular" place and she shoved me in the other oriface. It took a few seconds for me to realize that something wasn't right in the Wonderful World of Oz. I said.. "Am I in your butt?" and she says... "ohhhh yeeeessss!" So I just went with it and tried not to think about it.

But I don't want to repeat it. And the thought of ejaculating in that spot is... uhhhhh!

theguyisback · Accepted Answer

Here's the deal..

1. During sex he releases precum residually throughout.. Precum has sperm in it. So it doesn't make all that much of a difference in the long run.

2. You're on the pill, you are as protected as anyone could be without involving permanent serigical procedures.. Pulling out isn't doing any favors.

3. You can maintain a long term relationship without ever cumming together vaginally.. It is a man's deepest strongest primal instinct.

Just do it 👍🏻 you won't regret it, I promise

nikole00000007 · Accepted Answer

Honestly if he loves you I think if you say no then no means no... I don't think he should keep asking if you're not up to it. But don't like lead him on to where he thinks he's going to get some then tell him no. I think you should talk to him about it... Tell him that when you say no it means no and if he can't understand that then you should consider the fact is he really the best guy for me... I know no one wants to think if they're boyfriend is really the guy for them or not... But you'll always find someone out there that's willing to love you for who you are and just wants to make you happy. He needs to repeat your decision.

Bubblecake · Accepted Answer

if you dont want him to cum inside of you then he should respect that! Do not let him con you into something you dont want to do. Better safe then sorry

BellePepper · Accepted Answer

I don't think it's bad at all. It's YOUR body. YOU are taking the risks. Lay down the law and if he keeps harassing you about it, breakup with him.

SarahsSummer · Accepted Answer

You can't get pregnant with cum in your bum however, you can get very sick if you suck a dick that has been in your bum

DodgersGM · Answer

It's your body and your call. Nobody else gets to decide.

oldanddecrepid · Answer

Not at all... guys need to respect what the girl wants to do when it comes to sex. It is her body we should not force the issue nor should we abuse it by making them feel bad about not wanting to do something. We should just accept it!

psychomonkey · Answer

What the fuck does anal have to do with getting pregnant? Do you need another sex ed class?

Jubal_Hershaws_ghost · Answer

Fuck that... you're a saint.

tyber1 · Answer

You can't get pregnant doing anal...

Ihav2fart · Answer

lol your boyfriend sure wants to chance it.

orphan · Answer

if you get pregnant while on strict birth control, then maybe that kid deserves a shot at life.  although, if you take your pill with diligence, this is a near impossibility.

Flyest_Esay_Alive · Answer

Just let him, i feel his pain of you not letting him cum inside you, its like your killing his orgasm & he's not enjoying sex at its best

AngryHorny · Answer

Sex is supposed to be fun for both of you. No way you should do anything you're not happy with. yOur boyfriend is right, you won't get pregnant. But that's no reason to do anal.

legslover031110 · Answer

to put in in a good way... if you dont feel comfortable him cumming inside you, then dont let him. when you and only you feel the time is right for him to cum inside you... then let him. if he truly loves you... he will wear a condom. or even just dry humping you

jakeofalltrades · Answer

first you can't get pregnant from anal. but if you still feel uncomfortable don't let him

Evil_romantic · Answer

If it makes you uncomfortable, then its okk to refuse.

Amur8711 · Answer

Don't feel guilty, it's your body, and I myself wouldn't want to make you worry about that for days.

ajaximus7922 · Answer

I think he is a bit selfish, only wanting to cum inside you without you being comfortable. If he wants to get off inside, and you are not comfortable with that, he should use a rubber.

Anonymous · Answer

NO you MUST let him!!! Lol jks. Your body, your right. If you don't feel like it, you're allowed to say no...

Anonymous · Answer

lmfao no the chances of getting preggo that way are not slim... it's ZERO CHANCE u so dum dum

Anonymous · Answer

If you don't want it, then tell him no. If he can't handle that, then he's with you for the wrong reasons

Anonymous · Answer

If your on the pill you can't get pregnant while on it and certainly would never get pregnant doing anal on the pill or not no matter how many times he cums since there is no connection to your reproductive organs, I'm sure the Bj's are keeping him satisfied for the moment