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Is a blow job on the third date considered slutty? Why?

So I've been on 2 dates with a guy and texted a bit in between. The first date was about 2 hours the second date about 2 as well. We are both mid 20s and single and seemed to hit it off. 3rd date he invited me to his beach house overnight so we could explore the island and talk and get to know each other without distractions. I'm sponteneous and said yes. We had kissed at this point but had our first kiss that night. We shared a few bottles of wine over the course of the night and talked for hours. We ended up making out and I have him a blow job. He's still been in contact but we have no plans for a 4th date yet as he's out of town. But he said he wants to get together soon. I actually have interest in him and I'm wondering how guys feel about bowl jobs that soon. It just felt right I just hope he doesn't write me off as not girlfriend material. Double standard.
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  • Hey. It sounds like there's chemistry going on btwn the 2 of you. I would actually NOT accept a bj from a girl I didn't like. For some reason, liking the girl is important to me (I don't know how it is for other fools). If he let you go ahead and give him a bj, I'm sure he thinks you're more than that. Personally, I would be shocked if a girl gave me one on the 3rd date, but I wouldn't jump to the conclusion that she was a slut. Maybe hungry for dick? I wouldn't know what to think.

    Anyway, your dates have been long - just another sign he's into you. I don't know if you should end every date with a bj though lol.

  • You will just have to trust your instincts here, if it felt right, then I don't see him feeling any different, and he's not going to class it as slutty, because he wants to see you again right, so it sounds like your man is smitten already , x

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  • ugh i hate these double standards. i dont think it was too slutty its not like you had sex or anything, plus if he was so perfectly fine with you doing it for him, you shouldn't be the only one judged from this its not like you forced him to let you, you know? don't worry about it i dont think he's judging you, but even if he is, just remember its just double standards, if he was such an amazing husband material guy, he would've told you to wait longer.

  • I've done 3 blowjobs stand XD one night, one blowjob.. And bye bye. I don't care if it's slutty tbh but that's definitely not a girlfriend material thing to do.
    I wouldn't say doing it in third date is slutty but many people won't agree with me.
    It sounds like you guys will have a fourth date, I really hope so, you seem like a nice girl and apperantly you're into this guy so let's hope everything works just fine for you two.

  • Blowjob that soon? Um... Guys will say what u wanna hear cause they're happy for girls to think it's not slutty to blow them on the first date. That is quite slutty. Are you going to use a flavored condom? That's pretty whorey, he'll stick around for a little while but when he wants to settle down he will find a girl who doesn't give oral so quickly.

  • It's a little borderline, but I wouldn't worry too much about it. It's just a blow job.

    I understand how you feel. Double standards are very unfair.

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  • Who cares? As long as it's not considered slutty by him.
    Some people have sex on the first date. Others have been together 2 years and still haven't slept together. Let's just not judge each other and live our lives the way we intend to...

  • Some guys would think it's slutty, some wouldn't. Sounds like he's fine with it.

  • You shouldn't worry about it. I would be thrilled and I think after three quality dates is the perfect time for that to happen.

  • By mid 20's a bj by the 3rd date is pretty normal. By your 30's sex by the 3rd date is expected and fairly normal on the 1st.

  • Probably fine be a red flag if it were on the first date.

  • It's up to you and him

  • I think you are fine. The 3rd date is about right for your first blowjob on him. He would be a fool not to keep going out with you, unless of course, maybe you didn't swallow his cum. Personally, once I know the girl enjoys giving me BJs and she eats my cum every time, I'm in for the long haul. I don't think you have anything to worry about. Hope it works out.

  • There is nothing wrong with that. Hope it works out for you.

  • I prefer not to have a "blow job". But that's maybe just me.

  • Who cares? it's a blow job!

  • i don't care or think about slutty vs. non-slutty. If I am not going to get an STD, then I am fine with whatever.

  • Depends on the guy. He may not like it because he might infer that you do that with a lot of guys or he may love it because who doesn't love a good blowjob! I would feel it out. Maybe go on a few more dates and not do anything sexual. See if he is more interested in you or just your mouth/vagina

  • Ummm thats normal and actually sex on second date is normal lol soo yeah you're fine. Im in my mid 20s too

  • Yes but I'd b like.. CooL

  • No. I think that's a great move!!!

  • Well of course he wants to see you again you sucked his dick

  • I'm 40, and I say do what you like, just be safe for the both of you.

    I'm a notorious slow mover. I never kiss on the first date, because I want to know someone before I get physical.

    That has cost me some second dates, but whatever.

    What you're really asking is "What does he think of a girl who moves at your speed?"

    You might as well own it and go at your own speed.

    No reason to deny yourself, and no reason to make him think he's with someone who doesn't move at your speed.

  • He got u to blow him after only spending 4. Hours of his time.
    You blew him so he's good. The chace is over.
    Now there's no challange. He figures he will just have a easy lay on the back burner now and keep chaceing other girls.
    I don't call back ones I screw first or second date. Or ones that give head that easy. Not keeper material. But u never know.
    Do u notice he isn't going out of his way to text much now? Or excuses. ? He sure wanted u at the lake house quickly

  • I wouldn't think any less of a girl because of that, it would have been a sign that she was into me as much as I'm into her. I certainly wouldn't see it as a bad thing.

    Some guys might think less of you because of that, but if he breaks it off because of this he's probably not that right type of guy to be with anyway, so at least you'll know he's a jerk sooner rather later.

  • All a slut is is:

    A) a woman who gets lucky more than I do (if I'm a girl)
    B) a woman who gets lucky with lots of men who aren't me (if I'm a guy)
    C) a woman who gets lucky without my permission (if I'm a fundamentalist).

    If he does write you off as girlfriend material, the loss will be his, not yours. You have nothing to be ashamed of.

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