Man Asks For Threesome, With Another Man?

[Anonymous]

Ok. There's this guy and all we really are is sex partners. The sex is AMAZING, AMAZING, AMAZING. He's rather large and he brings me to crazy orgasms repeatedly. He's the only man who has ever made my eyes cross lol. Whenever we do hookup, he says things like "I don't feel like I'm enough for you." I'm not sure where he could have ever gotten that crazy idea! He keeps hinting at a threesome but he wants another guy. I just keep telling him no but admittedly I'm EXTREMELY turned on by the idea. I would never admit it to him for fear of looking like "that kinda girl." We aren't together and I'm sure if I do this with him, all possibility of such a committment would go out the window or I would be embarking on a journey of never ending sexcapades. I don't foresee a relationship bc I think he feels like he doesn't please me. I'm also not certain of his motives. I thought he was feeling insecure bc of his earlier comments but then he started saying things like he wanted to watch another man with me and I don't know why. Maybe he's just a freak lol. Then he starts begging me like "What do I have to do to make it happen?" And then I'm like wow. He tells me that ok aggressive during sex and he feels like I need more. Honestly I'm not usually agressive in bed, I just enjoy him so much that I get a little greedy lol. I'm always wanting to see how intense things can get. If I were to accept, I want the full experience and certainly want him in on the fun, not just a bystander. I'm avoiding his calls to keep from giving in. Lol Are there any of you out there who have given in to such a proposition? What are the advantages/disadvantages?

[Intraluminal]

If I read you correctly, right now you're FB, but you're hanging on hoping for more. The guy is clearly a freak, MMF threesomes aren't called the "Devil's Threesome" for nothing. At the same time, he clearly wants this, so here's my opinion of how it breaks down.

1) You do it: Case one, you're FBs, but due to this he never wants to progress to a relationship. Case two, BECAUSE of this he does want to progress to a relationship.

2) You don't do it. Case one, you're FBs, but due to your refusal, he has more respect for you and wants to progress to a relationship. Case two, BECAUSE of your refusal, he's disappointed and never wants to progress to a relationship.

There's a problem here. You know that you want a relationship. He may not know, and he may not want a relationship. As an outsider, there no way to know which way that your FB relationship is going.

My thoughts: I think the guy is a freak. As such, I don't think he will think of you negatively for engaging in a MMF. IF the guy is not a freak, but wants to try this as a one-off, then he will probably feel negatively about you, BUT in that case, he already feels negatively about you as wife material. Therefore, you can't really lose by having this experience.

If the guy is one of those who holds a woman's sexual past against her, then you're already F****. If he isn't, and he shouldn't be, then this is actually a plus in your column. You PROBABLY will never have a vanilla relationship with him, and you may end up swingers, but there is no reason you can't get married and have kids - other swingers have.

That's my best guess. Please follow me and let me know how it turns out.

Best of luck!

[Asker]

I certainly don't want it to be BECAUSE of this. I could live if a relationship never happened bc I refused... I need to think it through and make sure some part of me isn't hoping this will gain a relationship with him. He has already told me when we previously discussed relationships, that he isn't able to offer that at this point. However, during his begging, he asked "What do I have to do to make it happen... be your man?" I didn't take that serious for a second and I'm smart enough to know that the encounter will outlast the relationship. Lol. I haven't made up my mind. I do want to talk to him in person to see his body language and what kind of answers he gives. Any suggested questions?

[Asker]

I'm gonna say no bc I want to keep possibilities open for the future with him. If it doesn't happen, at least I didn't lose anything trying

[Metlahaed]

He wants it badly. you want it badly, why the hell would you suppress your urges for false ideologies?

[AmandaLynn1930]

if its something you're into then you should try it. but you have to think about the pros and cons. and you ahve to be reall comfortable with the idea. just see if its something you think will be beneficial or not.

[Strider90]

You must be really a bomb.