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Is it ok that my boyfriend has a tumblr account for porn?

So I found a tumblr account on my man's ph. .. I asked him before letting him know if he knew what tumblr was and he replied "no"... then I said well I know you have one... and he stil denied it... wtf.. I also had found an envelope with all these snapchat porn names written down on it... he denied even writing the shit down let alone even having them on his account. .. we were On a break when he'd downloaded all this shit and got into it or whatever... but I honestly feel so betrayed and that he obviously has a thing for other woman in the sense that he obviously loves perving at them and sending pics etc... but to lie to me about it? Really am I that bad? I'm definaltly and attractive woman... but clearly I'm not enough even though he insists that I am... he knows how hurt I am and exactly how I feel but doesn't seem to be botherd because he thinks he's done nothing wrong... WTF... does this even make sense :( ? Tell me whatsup...
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  • Is it ok that he had an account for looking at porn? Yes, it is. Guys look at porn, it doesn't reflect their feelings towards their partner, nor does it necessarily interfere with their ability to have a long-lasting, loving relationship.

    However, the more important question is "Is it ok that my boyfriend lies to me, and will continue to lie even after I present him with the proof?" Because the answer to that is no, that is not ok.

    This won't be about you being bad, or you not being enough. This is about his issues. A guy liking porn isn't a reflection about his partner. A guy flat out lying isn't really a reflection of the partner either, it is simply a lack of morality and empathy.

    If he lies to you about this, especially with the way he continued to deny it, you simply can't trust him not to be lying about other things. The relationship is built on sand, because you have no foundation you can trust to be true.

    To me, the porn isn't the problem. Relationships can go on just fine with porn involved. It is the deception and manipulation. That is a sign of self-interest and a sign that there is not real love present, at least not on his side.

  • He is a guy being a guy. It's what we do. It is no reflection on you as a love interest. His reaction to you confronting him was defensive because you made him feel like he did something wrong.
    Instead you should have expressed an interest in his porn. Trll him that you like porn too and you want to share it with him. Tell him that it turns you in too. Get your own porn site on tumble and fill it with couples making love. Then invite your man to look at it with you. Use it as a prelude to sex with him.

    Remember, he is a guy with a strong sex drive. Do not make him feel bad about it.

    Save your anger for when he fucks other women behind your back.

    Don't forget to apologize to him for the misunderstanding.

    • I definaltly like porn and he knows that I'm so open and real with him it's just the point that he had to lie to me :( kinda seems weird... and the whole snapchat thing.. yes he was sending nudes of himself and he'd stil denied it when I confronted him... I sort of feel like he has a problem or something? We have an amazing sex life etc it's awesome I just now feel like I'm not enough... gaaah I don't know :( I really thought he'd consider my feelings:/ I'd do anything freaky for him.. I'm not frigid an I love to have fun.. I just don't get it

    • You confronted him about it. "Confronted" him. When I am pushed into a corner and "confronted" I will do what I can to keep from admitting guilt over it. You backed him into a corner. Don't ever back us into a corner... we might lie to you to get the heat off of us. He is innocent about all his porn activity. Including sending and receiving nudes. He is guilty of telling you lies. But you kinda set him up. The bottom line is... he is who he is. You must decide if you can remain with him and accept all his activity. Even if he excludes you from some of it.

    • I don't agree that it's ok to send nudes of himself or receive them from another woman... atal... no. So no Il be wiping my hands clean of him and healing my hart... It wouldn't be OK for me. to send dirty pics of myself to another guy... so whys it ok for him? Thanks for your opinion I respect that x

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  • Isn't tumbler or whatever for hooking up? I mean you guys were on a break so you can't be too mad... Feeling hurt and etc is normal... The issue is he lied to you maybe he didn't want to hurt you, but lying to you didn't help at all... I don't know it would make me question what else he would lie to you about.

    • Exactly... I'm just hurt and yea really gutted... I didn't think he was that bad... and to have to make out he didn't even know what tumblr was for lol ummm hello darling u have your own account full of milfs and other fucked up shit .. and the snapchat thing aswell..

    • And I don't really know what tumblr is about :/

    • No, you are thinking of tinder. Tinder is for hooking up. It's a dating app Tumblr is for blogs. There is a lot of porn on there. Mostly pictures though. It boring porn really. Now I can understand why you would have a problem with your guy being on ti der @asker. If you mixed the two yourself, it might change my point of view kn your story. I could understand why you wouldn't want your boyfriend on tinder.

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  • Please reach out to me- I feel we may be talking about the same exact guy here! The similarities are too exact- Please Email me at lavarinawilson@gmail. com

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  • He lied to you because after a while, you learn that lying saves you time and effort. He lied because he didn't want to have an argument with yet another woman who feels insecure about porn and who believes it's cheating.
    Women like you can never understand that porn has nothing to do with you being enough or whatever. It's about having access to something different. We are guys, we like porn, deal with it. Why don't you watch it with him instead?

    Stop trying to manipulate him by telling him you are hurt. You have no reasons to be.

    • I straight up appreciate your realness.. and yes I'd love to watch it with him.. he knows that.. I'd rather be hurt with the truth than comforted with a lie

    • I am glad you took it well. It was actually my intention but I was apprehensive of the response. It was a friendly kick in the butt.

    • Thank u so much!!!

  • You should keep an open mind regarding pornography. I'm not saying he should get away with lying to you. But, unless you are available to sexually please him whenever he desires, you shoulD consider allowing him the occasional view.

    • Of course..

  • I don't understand. Is he just looking at porn or is he sending stuff out as well?

    I was once in a relationship with a girl who used her tumblr for porn. Sort of. To be honest I only found by accident and I didn't even think twice about it.

    • Sending out aswell :(

    • If he's actually sending out pics of himself, I'd consider that cheating. The girlfriend I'm talking about just shared stuff other people posted. There is a big difference between passive viewing and sexual interaction in my mind.

    • Fully

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  • When i was with my girl i stopped going on porn, because all i wanted to do was think about her. So yes it's wrong

    • So it's wrong because you don't do it? I am totally convinced...

    • @JuicyBrain better to have my mindset Wouldn't you say... because a Realtionship is between TWO people, not a girl, two lesbians, a busy milf and a guy lol

    • @JuicyBrain I do. .. but I don't go to the extent of lying and hiding shit from him yano :/

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  • Better he masturbates to them then actually getting with other girls irl...

    We have urges to release...

    • There's an extent though

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