What are ways to make a guy "earn it" ?

[Sexylover21]

I've known this guy for wheats and we've been having sex often lately. He says he wants me to be his girl, but his actions show differently. Anyway, I read this article that said " knowing how much we crave the vagina, why do you give it to him so quickly? Make him limp his way home. Give him blue balls. Make him hurt, and make him beg to come back for more." will ill it make a difference now even though I've already had sex with him? My question is, what are ways/specific things I can do to make him earn it, work for it?

[Jay-Are]

I saw the article. It's plain stupid. Even though it's a guy writing about how guys are he is wrong. He just wrote it to be commercial for women.

When you follow that path it's all about games. He may fall for it. He may get enchanted by it. He may become your good boyfriend. But your relationship will be all about games. And some day he will realize that they were just games and he will leave you anyway. Even if he was serious about you.

You don't earn a vagina. You don't earn dick. It is just about two people liking each other or not. And that is something that is happening right now. So all you need to know he is showing you right now in his actions.

A guy that wants to date you will date you. You can talk about it with him which always a good thing. He may not know you want more than sex. Maybe things will slowly develop for there. Whatever it is let it develop naturally or walk walk away if you think it is not going where you want it too go.

Then there is another thing. It sounds to me this all started because of sex. I know a ton of girls that have casual sex with a guy and after a while they want a relationship with that guy. But once they get that they realize that he wasn't that great to begin with. It was just lust (nothing wrong with it)

So answer this for yourself. IS he really that great or do want a relationship just because had sex. If it is about sex then let it be about sex.

[Sexylover21]

He's good but I don't want a relationship because we had sex. I'm going with the flow. But whenever he tells me I want you to be my girl, we end up having sex so what does it seem like he wants?

[Sexylover21]

I get horny most times, so if I feel like having sex, just take up his offer inviting me over? Sometimes he'll invite me over his house

[Sexylover21]

Also, I've known him since jr high and he lost his virginity to me. He would contact me once in a blue throughout to years and ask how I'm doing. We've been hanging out the most that we ever have this year. And yes, we would sometimes go to the movies, and he invited me to a party and a wedding. But most times we have sex. It's consensual.

[Sexylover21]

I'm confused with what he wants from me, that's all. I'm not looking to be in a serious relationship, but if he initiates it and shows me he really wants me to be his woman, fi May consider it

[Jay-Are]

Okay, but if you are not looking for a relationship why do want to make him earn it. You're just going screw what you have right. If you like this situation leave it like it is. And if you want to know something just ask him

[Empiric]

Eeehh that's a really hard question to answer as it depends on the guy. You say his actions show he doesn't want you to be his girl... as in what, sleeping with other women? In that case, making him work for it will just drive him away.

Otherwise, you have to think of something he wants but hasn't had yet and make him work for that, if you really must. Personally I think it's overrated trying to play power games in relationships (well, where they aren't consensual anyway). If you like fucking, fuck, I say.

[Sexylover21]

Perks ally, I don't like playing power games either. & he has asked me to be his girl, but some guys on her say he may want that just to keep the sex going

[AthleticMom]

Dream up fantasy dates to fulfill, complete with opening doors for you, seating you, et al. Time to sign up for couples dance lessons, ballroom preferably... which opens up more of this + many socials and endorphins from the exercise... love will flourish.

[elew4too]

Honestly, it's really hard (if not impossible) to make a guy work for sex when they've already had sex with you. They simply don't value sex with you as much anymore. Taking away sex at this point would be like if your boss took back your paycheck a few days after payday. You'd be like, "Hey! I earned that! This is B. S! I'm looking for a new job." And guys would act the same way about your relationship as they do about this hypothetical job. In the future, make guys hit singles to round the bases.

[Berethor]

If you would stop having sex with him he might as well leave you, men don't need to "earn" something that they already have, you was having sex with him already so too late for that.

[FakeName123]

When you have to make him earn it, chances are he doesn't really want more of you than just sex. If he wanted, he would have shown that already.

[Sexylover21]

I agree.

[nakedalligator]

All I know is I would not put up with that garbage. It would only work on pathetic men and you're going to grow resentment.

[genericname85]

sex is not a payment or something. you should both equally enjoy it. if you don´t like it, then don´t be with him.

[Sexylover21]

We're not in a relationship lol

[genericname85]

then why would you make him "earn" what you want too? what are you getting at with your attemt to make him earn it?

[Sexylover21]

Because I don't want to bore him or appear easy

[Sexylover21]

I want to to chase me so to speak

[genericname85]

lol you literally can´t bore a guy with sex... also you shouldn´t be affraid of being easy. just because you enjoy sex with a particular guy, doesn´t mean you will fuck every guy no questions asked and thus be "easy"

[Anonymous]

Don't listen to that garbage, he has all already had it, if you start pulling that crap then he'll find new pussy, but don't be so easy either. Where did read that? In cosmopolitan? Not good advice on that one

[Anonymous]

... Why do you want to make him uncomfortable? What effect are you hoping for?

[Sexylover21]

The thing is, for instance, the other night he told me he wants me to be his woman. But he told me this while I was topless and laying down. He said he wants something serious. Yet, he won't call/text often. He'll just say for instance yesterday: Him: babe? 2:30pm Me: hey what's up 4pm Him: where r u Me: out in Sandburg Him: ok R u ok what happened Yesterday Me: wasn't feeling well Him: and R u fine now Me: yes much better And he never got back to me...