Friends with benefits kissing me during orgasm?

[Anonymous]

I've been going out with this guy who I'm crazy physically attracted to. He invited me to his house, cooked me dinner, and we usually talk about random topics and interests. He's been without a girlfriend for two years (she betrayed him) and I've been wanting out of the dating game after being misled during months in a "dead end relationship". So we decided to be friends with benefits. We don't kiss on the lips, just during sex some small lip grazes and bites. We've had two sexual encounters, and in the last one, when he was about to reach orgasm, he grabbed me for a really intense kiss. I was a bit freaked out and then after, he asked if I could give him a hand massage (while we watched tv, not even cuddling) and I felt really awkward but I did. Do these things mean anything like he has started to develop feelings for me or is it just my brain going crazy? I really don't want to deal with the drama of feelings because of how badly burned I was in the past.

[ichot]

I would make the point clear with him.. what do You want the relationship to be? what does he want the relationship to be?
Is this a purely sexual relationship or a romantic one?

you'll only get speculation from us monkeys.

in my opinion.. you are already connected down there and feeling good, why not connect up top to feel even better. Guys can get satisfaction from kissing. you may be overthinking his intentions but only he knows for certain.

[OlderAndWiser]

It probably does mean feelings are developing, as happens so often in these "just sex" relationships. But. . . are you planning on never, ever, ever getting in another relationship? Getting hurt is just God's way of getting you ready to appreciate a good relationship when it comes along. We've all been there, done that.

[Asker]

I do plan on being on another relationship, I'm just not sure that I want it with this guy, because he already told me he is not ready, its been two years for him and he doesn't feel like he is ready yet, and all that talk. I don't mind getting hurt, he is the one who does apparently. If I was afraid of getting hurt I would never have put myself in this situation. Through my past experiences I've come to understand the hurt heals with time, and its a way of always teaching us something, so I really don't mind it. I am afraid that he develops feelings and pulls away from me completely. I don't say I would never get over it but I like the current situation we're in.

[OlderAndWiser]

It sounds like he is perhaps not being honest with himself about what he is and is not looking for. Watch his behavior and ignore his words and you will know how he feels.

[93stepsawayfromhome]

"Getting hurt is just God's way of getting you ready to appreciate a good relationship when it comes along" Did you really need to force your religion down someone's throat here by stating it as a fact?

[OlderAndWiser]

@93stepsawayfromhome Thanks for the unsolicited and obviously heartfelt advice. Do you feel better now?

[93stepsawayfromhome]

Yeah, absolutely. I feel so good that I want to respond to someone's argument by ridiculing them with something unrelated, instead of actually attempting to refute what they said.

[OlderAndWiser]

@93stepsawayfromhome The asker solicited opinions and I gave my opinion. Do you really think that me stating my religiously based opinion is forcing religion down someone's throat? Do you have any reason to think the asker is so vulnerable that any mention of God is tantamount to forcing religion on her? Plus. . . she never complained about my advice so why do you think you need swoop in like a knight on a white horse to "save her" from me? Is this how you build your ego? Do you want to fuss at me some more so you can feel even better about yourself?

[93stepsawayfromhome]

I don't intend to "save her". I intend to call you out for your religiously biased opinion.

[OlderAndWiser]

@93stepsawayfromhome Call me out? It was hidden.

[OlderAndWiser]

Where'd you go? You called me out. We're supposed to get our shooting irons and meet out in the street at high noon, right?

[93stepsawayfromhome]

You know well enough I didn't intend that in that way.

[OlderAndWiser]

@93stepsawayfromhome I have no idea what you meant. You said you were "calling me out" but the religious basis of my opinion was never concealed. The advice was requested by someone else, I gave the advice, and hey took no offense. So I have no idea why you thought you needed to intervene.

[mishiii]

Creating the drama and then dealing with it is going to be a problem. However you are the one who is creating the drama. Grabbing you for really intense kiss is not crossing the line. When I'm about to come I love for a guy to take my hair and pull it. That's part of the friends with benefits that does not mean romance. That's increasing the intensity of the sexual Encounter. If you don't like him, and you live in San Francisco send them to me

[Cmasterson]

A kiss is a kiss to be honest could be in the heat of the moment, it's not a bad thing to start switching things up with sex. I personally could never picture myself not making out during sex, but thats just me.

[tellmefantasies]

Yeah, how can you NOT make out during sex. Lips are orgasmic too. They have lots of nerve endings that send happy hormones on being stimulated. Anyway, you should see if the sex rhythm changes to a passionate one. You'll know there are feelings then.

[NormalUser]

I think he went crazy during the intercourse and can't hold back to not kiss you because he finds you attractive. You should talk to him? about that? and take a better quality action accordingly :D

[AriseProduct]

uhhhm what? LOL

[TheSwedishGuy]

Seems like he's getting more comfortable around you. If that means he's developing feelings for you or not I don't know, nor could anyone answering this question know.

[JuicyBrain]

I don't think the kiss means anything. Some people say I love you during sex. It doesn't really count if you are "in the zone".
As for the massage, well, it's just nice to be massaged, I am sure you would like getting one too.

[pezzonovante88]

Kissing can be hot. Or maybe he's confused. Or maybe he has feelings.

[TheOneLol]

maybe feelings

[Anonymous]

friends with benefits is dating, without the title