Are there any other bisexuals out there struggling with their sexuality, and can a guy really be bisexual?

Question

I think I've recently come to terms with the fact that I'm a bisexual male. All of my life I've considered myself a "straight" guy. I've always been attracted to women, I've dated them, and I've had great sex with them. I'm not a feminine or effeminate guy, and I don't outwardly display any steoreotypical traits that generally make people think that a guy is "gay." Throughout my teen years and most of my adult life, I've jerked off to lesbian porn because I find two women having sex a huge turn-on.

All of that being said, back in high school I developed a crush on a male friend (we lost touch since then) that I never acted on. I had really vivid sex dreams about him, which I remember enjoying. I shrugged it off then as just another side effect of puberty, and since then I've never really felt that way about another guy. But I always had that nagging feeling of would I ever actually like being with a guy in a sexual way?

I recently came out of a long-term relationship with a girlfriend of mine, and those feelings from high school came back. Being single for the first time in a long time, I decided to try it out. I hired a male escort, and we went out for dinner and then back to a hotel. He had an amazing body, and the minute he took his clothes off and I saw his huge cock I got instantly hard. We gave each other blowjobs, which I really enjoyed, and then had anal sex. It was passionate, animalistic, and some of the hottest sex I've ever had. 

Now I'm just so confused. I didn't want to enjoy sucking cock, but I do. I didn't want to enjoy fucking a guy in his ass, but I do. But I still feel like I enjoy sex with women. And although I've watched gay porn and like it, lesbian porn (especially girl-on-girl oral) still turns me on more.

So I guess what I'm asking is, can a guy really be bisexual? I feel like both straight and gay people see being "bisexual" as a cop-out for those who are really gay but can't get themselves to admit it.
 
I'd appreciate opinions from both guys and girls on this one. Thanks!

AdorablyIncompetent · Accepted Answer

Sexuality is fluid. That's the most important thing I can tell you, and the most important thing to remember.

But here's a bit more to consider: bisexuality is a real sexuality and you must remember the Kinsey scale accounts for different levels of it. As in, you may be mostly into guys and have a couple girl exceptions, or vice versa. Your sexuality is fluid, and always changing, and there's nothing wrong with that!

We spend a lot of our lives trying to figure out who we are. This is something you must remember: it's a lifelong process, and you will change along the way. Whatever you feel, embrace it! And try not to feel the pressure to label yourself; sometimes you can't be defined. And that's okay!

paxriver · Accepted Answer

Some say there is no such thing as bi, but I beg to differ. I've know since childhood I was bi, still am, been married had one kid, these days pretty much into guys. Not at all confusing for me, I still like to watch lesbian porn and gay sex porn.

coolbreeze2 · Accepted Answer

you sound exactly like me, i kinda feel i am more gay than straight and feel really bad i feel that way, i have tried to be straight but it don't happen.

ryaninalaska907 · Answer

So I read what the room topic is and what he said and what everyone said also. So thought I would say on it about myself from the time I was younger I know I liked girls cause when I seen certain girls (with clothes on) I got hard. But I also felt like I also liked boys cause when I seen certain boys (also with clothes on) I got hard to and did not know why I got hard and that bothered me not knowing why. But when I was around 12-13 I was outside in the frount yard laying in the sun in nothing but a speedo (swim speedo). When this boy comes up to the yard and says hi that he just moved to the neighborhood down the street. I said hi and we started talking and as we was talking a started to get hard again not know why. We became friends and I found out he also was around 12-13 and each time we hanged out I got hard still not knowing why I never said anything though. Till one day we was walking in the woods and we came to this open spot and we was talking and he said to me when he was around me that he gets hard when around me and said first time meat he got hard and he asked me if that happens to me first time meat and when around him I said it does. He said to me that he likes girls and also liked boys but liked boys a little more and said to me lets get fully naked here in the woods and show each other full nude bodys with hard on to each other. I told hime I never did anything like this with a nother boy and told hime how I felt not knowing why I get hard around some boys. So we showed each other naked body to each other then he said he would teach me how to do things with a nother boy we sucked each other cocks and he licked and cucked my asshole and hade me do that to him and then he fucked me in my ass told him as he was my first time being fucked said to me if I liked it and I said I do like it and when it was time for him to cum he cumed in my ass then he made me fuck his ass and cum in me after all that he asked me if I like it and I told hime I so liked it he asked me if i was still confused about how I felt about boys and I said I guess I am bi and he said we have to do it lot more to see if ya are bi or gay. I told hime that was first time I did it was another boy let alone a girl so I lots my virginity with another boy.

frostwalrus · Answer

I'm bi too. I'm only sexually and romantically interested in women, but I've always been fascinated with dicks for some reason. They're just so insanely erotic and taboo. Bisexuality is a messed up sexuality, but oh well. At some point, you just gotta stop fighting it and accept it, as messed up and contradictory as it is.

johnmsk · Answer

i guess bisexual guys hv a harder time than bisexual girls. bi-guys feel more uncomfortable in society.

AimeeKyle · Answer

Both men and women can be bisexual. I am similar to you in that I have always considered myself to be straight and continue to be attracted to women. I too had some (in the same place / not touching) interactions in middle school with a couple friends and have (and continue to have) thoughts about sexual acts with guys. I watch all types of porn straight, bi-women, bi-men, etc.