Should I let my fiancé's friend record us having sex?

[Anonymous]

When my boyfriend ( now fiance ) were in college we made a video where my dorm roommate recorded us having sex. I admit I was a little wild in my college days but then again most people are. It was a lot of fun and the video came in handy to my boyfriend when I was not around. Not to mention he LOVED making it with another girl in the room. Here it is 2 years later and the 2 of us have finally made the commited to eachother. A few weeks ago he brought up the idea of making another sex tape. I was onboard with it and somewhat excited until... he said he wants his guy friend to record us. Im not sure how I feel about that. I know it seems fair considering my girlfriend recorded us last time. I asked if he want to just set up a camera in the room and he did not want that because you dont get the full effect. For some reason I am ok with another girl seeing us have sex but I have a little reservation about another guy watching me have sex or just being naked in general. Do you think I should go through with it? She I be worried about another guy seeing me have sex?

[Jason888]

If you enjoyed it last time, I suspect you will enjoy it again. Once you get started, you will probably feel pretty comfortable. I would just establish some ground rules. Guys can get pretty excited when watching live sex. Does the videographer plan to masturbate while doing the video. That could certainly make many people uncomfortable. We had a male friend make a video of us and my girlfriend was fine with it - even when he began to show his appreciation. But we talked it out beforehand. That is not for everyone.

[NJ_Casanova]

I think it is a bad idea to have the guy friend do it, especially if you don't feel comfortable. A girl would make a more tasteful video, the guy would probably zoom in on you and your bits a little too much. I think your reservation has merit and you should find a girlfriend that would do it for you.

[Asker]

I agree, I feel like if a guy did it that it would just be a video of my boobs bouncing around.

[NJ_Casanova]

No, it would be 10% boob, 10% ass, 80% vagina close-ups with a close-up of your face when your cumming. Plus the guys would be taking about it to everyone and probably strange to be around.

[Selena7777]

I think there is some sexual turn on for him doing this. However, aren't you concerned about what these friends could do with these sex tapes? I think setting up your own recorder is best unless you get off on this type of thing.

[Cmasterson]

I think only if you're comfortable! I wouldn't do it solely because if I'm not comfortable then I will end up not enjoying it and resenting him feeling like I was pressured cos of the last time.

[isitillegal]

if you really don't care what happens with the footage after it's been recorded like end up in the wrong hands, then go for it but if you care DON'T DO IT

[SarahsSummer]

If you are not comfortable, the video and the sex won't end well. I'd think your fiancé would like knowing you don't want to show your body to other guys.

[Lioness]

That's a slippery slope.. may want to abort before you get into a threesome with said friend.

[EclipseoftheHeart]

I think you just like the thrill of it which I personally find a little weird, but to each their own and whatever charges their appetite for exhibitionism. I guess girls can be flashers too.

[ksoma]

If he is OK with a girl being there, and you are OK if it is a girl, push for that. If he really wants it to be his friend? tell him no. Or at least not now, maybe in time.
Sex is nothing you should ever feel like should do, in some way. It comes down to want, and agreeing on wants. If you want something and he does not, while you have every right to hope he'll change his mind, it should be something off the table. And the same goes for you.

[Bea123]

no! dont let him record you! hell put it on the web and make money off it!!!

[ksoma]

only if he's a terrible person. most guys, even after bad break-ups, have the decency to not do horrible shit like that.

[Caliopie]

I would be upset my man would want that

[ksoma]

why? it was something they did before and were both OK with. I totally support her saying "no" if she is uncomfortable, but I think it is silly to be offended at the suggestion when something similar had been done in the past.

[frozenhorizon]

If you feel uncomfortable about it, don't do it.

[I_am_repulsive]

If that's something you both want to do, then sure, but I'm not comfortable with another guy being there, watching my SO and whatnot even if it's my closest friend.

[ConsultantIsBack]

If you both are into that sure

[Shaft50]

I suppose it comes down to a matter of trust... obviously he was comfortable in his relationship with you and the trust you had in your friend to do it back then... it may be a case that you need to get to know his friend more to establish some trust with him... was your friend a bit more dynamic in her filming technique?

[sp33d]

Well it's qualitatively nothing new, so it doesn't matter. If they think of a new position and demonstrate it, then there is point to it.

[TotallyAlmost]

I'd have serious questions about committing to a guy who wants another guy in the room when you're doing it. Time to double and triple check his heterosexuality card.

[Mr2kinky]

Well my wife and I were super wild in college. We recorded ourselves in a 3some with another girl, a 3some with another guy, and in a 4some with a couple... We both loved it. And still use it to spice up our sex and when masturbating.
I say go for it, but only if you are really okay with it.

[Mybeachlife88]

F them both

[hard_like_stone]

nope baby its disgusting

[Hain710]

Its upto yeww what is good for basicaly iys depend on feeling heart agrement etc

[Anonymous]

Yeah sure why not