How do I tell my boyfriend that I want to start doing more sexual stuff?

I have this amazing boyfriend. We have only been together for a month, but he's really great. I told him at the beginning of our relationship that I do not want to have sex yet. I'm a virgin. I still don't want to do it, but I'm beginning to want more sexual stuff. When we are making out, the most he will do is grab my butt or boobs. He always claims that he's just grabbing my butt but he kind of teases my vagina while his hand is down there. I like it. He can make me wet just by talking to me and it makes me want more. Bad. I masturbate after I leave his house because he makes me straight up horny. He told me that he doesn't want to push it too far without knowing what I'm okay with. I'm beginning to think that I'm okay with a lot more. I don't want to give him head because I have a really bad gag reflex which makes me kind of afraid to do it so I wouldn't expect him to go down on me if I won't go down on him. But I would be totally happy with him sticking his hand down my pants. I'm not sure how to bring it up. I know it will surprise him but he will definitely like it. And do you think I should shave in preparation for this? I always keep my pubes trimmed down so they aren't long or anything but do you think I should shave it all off?
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Most Helpful Girls

  • Go for it. If you are afraid to tell him you want more give his hand a little push to where you want him when you're fooling around, he will hopefully get the hint. Just go at your own pace, there's nothing wrong with lots of foreplay either if you're not quite ready for sex.

    Lots of guys just enjoy eating pussy also, I'm sure he would like to do that for you despite you reciprocating it or not. I think there's mints you can take to help with the reflex also (google it!) if you do want to, they're a lot of fun ;)

    Xo

  • Maybe you should guide his hand to where you want it, so you have control, or maybe when he's touching you say "Don't stop" or something of the sort.

    • Guiding his hand is a great way to do it!

  • Start talking more sexual first to get a sense of what he likes. And shave lol :D

Most Helpful Guys

  • I don't know how he is reacting to your opposition of having sex, but in my case, I would feel unconfortable about it, because when a girl put any barrier to a guy, it is normal for him to be unconfortable with especially if it is temporal, because he can't guess if the barrier will be for months or years.

  • First of all, go down on him and learn to do that well:

    www.girlsaskguys.com/.../a7404-blow-jobs-tips-from-a-deep-throat-queen

    Then get ready to have sex because it's unfair and unrealistic to expect him to get closer and closer but not get the love.

    • I can't even brush my teeth without gagging so I'm not going to go down on him. But thanks for trying to be helpful, I guess.

    • You can learn to better manage your gag reflex with practice, both with your toothbrush and on him so suggest you woman up and give it a go.

    • You seem like fun to be around...

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  • The next time he feels you up, tell him not to stop. If he starts to take things too far, put the brakes on it. Tell him you want more, for your sake and for his, but you are not ready to go all in yet.

  • "Sweetheart, I'd like to try new things."

  • if your trimmed i think that's great.. slightly push his hand down your pants next time you both are making our...
    But I know if you were smooth it may come as a impressive shock to him :P

  • Why make it complidated just tell him

  • Next time he starts teasing you just tell him don't stop. But don't allow him to go any farther then your willing or comfortable.

  • Shave the whole bush, no man likes the 70's look anymore. I suggest first maybe take a shower with him, tease him, kinda hint what you what through your actions. Then when you get out, go straight to the bedroom, Light candles and shit and just adjust as you two get into it

    • I don't feel like you fully read the question. Or maybe you did, you just didn't fully comprehend anything that I said.