Why does he like to tie me up/blindfold me during intercourse?

[Anonymous]

I've wanted to ask this- I have already asked him when we have sex why does he like to tie me up and blindfold me, and he said it just adds excitement. I really love it but I wonder if he wants to pretend I'm someone else with me having the blindfold on, or if that is just crazy. I like it but I've also never ever experienced this other than with him. I guess I just have zero interest in doing the same to him and can't figure out the excitement for the giver (him).

[GexLove]

I personally have had my wife wear a mask for a short periods of time when we were intimate and shy. It helped to figure some things out. To answer this girls question: It's probably because he wants feel like nobody is watching him. This way he is free to stare without guilt or fear of getting caught staring. Us guys, we want to see your body. We want to touch and examine and explore. The problem is that we have programmed ourselves to not stare because it's disrespectful. When the the time comes when it's allowed It is hard to pause that programming and look for as long and hard as you want. It's rare when a girl will understand that detail in a guys subconscious mind. It's also very rare when a girl will encourage him by saying something like "It's okay, you can check me out. I like it. I won't make you feel bad. Go ahead look. It's okay." I also have learned that it's extremely difficult for a girl to to pause her own self programming even when she knows she is in a safe place. She most likely is worried about him seeing imperfections when looking too closely. So when the intimate time is happening, he can feel her eyes on him as he looks longer at those areas. If she is not fully setting him free to explore and stare, it can trigger him to default back to his self programming.

[MrOracle]

He likes being in control. He enjoys having that much power over you, and to have you focused totally on every little thing he does, or the anticipation of what he's going to do next. He can tease you, fulfill you, punish you, or pleasure you, and he has all the power - and for someone who enjoys being dominant and in control, that's very, very attractive.

[Miss_Behave]

It's a dominance thing.
We tried it a couple days ago and I love it.
It gives him control over me and it shows how much I trust him to let him have his way with me.
I think it's super hot and sensual.

[Charcicci]

I doubt that he pretends you're someone else. I think it's just a fantasy like any other. Something to spice things up a bit and add something new to your sex life.

[ksoma]

some people (guys and girls) like to dominate in the bedroom. some people (guys and girls) like to be dominated.
all he is doing is showing some indications that domination appeals to him. that isn't bad, many people get into that, but if it isn't your thing, it isn't your thing. and if he wants to increase his dominance past what you tolerate, or for whatever reason you do not want to go along with it anymore, make sure he stops.

[WhatTheHellAmy]

It's his fetish. Most people have one I think lol

[TadCurious]

He probably got the idea from 50 Shades of Grey.

[ksoma]

yeah. BDSM, from its most minor to most extreme, has been around a lot longer than a crappy book. so, no, he probably didn't.

[foreverloved14]

I talked about this with another guy. He just wants dominance and it's soooo hot.

[Seanthebullet]

Maybe he's trying to record it.