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Kissing doesn't feel good?

Alright so here it goes. KIssing doesn't feel good to me. Not thatit feels bad or gross or anything. I like it, just for the feeling of closeness alone i suppose. But it doesn't DO anything for me you know? People kiss all the time and say it feels wonderful: fireworks, butterflies, at least some sort of rush. Something! I just dont feel it. So i have a boyfriend, yeah? We actually admitted to each other that he and i both feel this way. And its not just us! He talked about how with his other girls in the past, he's never felt kissing was great either. Now please dont say "oh he's just not the right guy for you" or "youre not attracted to him" or "it will never work." We are in love. Ignore the fact that my anon post says "under 18" cause we're not 12 year olds in love haha. We're both almost 18. Please dont say our love isn't real or mature either haha. It is. He is my one and i am his. And no its not a lack of sexual passion or attraction either. You'll have to take my word for this one hahaha. With those things in mind, how can we get to a point where it is enjoyable for both of us? It seems like people can hook up in the blink of an eye and just make out and find that super enjoyable. Help. How do we find that feeling when we kiss? How do we kiss well and make it feel amazing?
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could you describe what is supposed to feel like?
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  • I know that you said to refrain from answering and saying it's simply an issue with your age but I'm sure that's what it likely results from.

    Not that that has to mean in any way that your love or relationship is any less 'real'. But for one, not everything is universally enjoyed by everyone. Some don't like receiving oral, certain positions during intercourse. Or like in your case, some are not a huge fan of kissing.

    I'll relate it back to your age from more of a sexual maturity point of view. Kissing still may be somewhat novel to you two or your body has yet to simply catch up with your behaviours. Give it some time to mature and adapt. You may grow to like it. :)

    • that does make sense haha. I just feel bad that i can't make him feel like other couples our age get to feel:(

    • awe don't feel bad! It's not your fault or anything. Try not to focus on the kissing being mediocre at best. Enjoy being close together in other ways, like just cuddling throughout a whole movie at one of your places, random kisses on each other's cheeks/necks or pecks on the lips. Enjoying kissing will come on it's own, just give it some time. :)

    • haha yeah! I love it when he kisses me on the neck, that totally gets me going, but lips, just nah

  • I don't think it's supposed to "feel" good. I think it's a doorway to other things. Like, sex usually

    • so its not supposed to feel good in of itself?

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  • Don't worry ur not alone.

    • really? i was so worried

    • I absolutely love my girlfriend and feel physically attracted to her and for me kissing would be the same as hugging her. except kissing turns us on but hugging not so much

    • is there anything special you do when kissing to make it feel good?

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