Why my boyfriend can't control himself and cums too fast?

[Anonymous]

Most of the times when me and my boyfriend have sex he cums too quick. Sometimes when i start by giving a blowjob he's already in explosion. Sex can only last like 7 minutes. I just would like him to cum as the same time as me, or after me but it's impossible. I never get satisfied in the end because after he cums he's too tired and weak to make me cum. I know it's something guys can't control for much time, but why? Is there any way to make him hold and cum at the same time as me? or make sex last more than just 7 minutes... By the way, im sorry for my English and ignore any wrong word.

[NJ_Casanova]

Are you going him a BJ during foreplay? I wouldn't unless you just do it to get him hard as that will make him cum faster. You can have him masturbate before hand as it will make him last longer. He can practice "edging" that is masturbating and stopping just before cumming/learning to control himself and the muscles that control it.

You need to control the pace and slow down or have him stop and go down on you when he's about to cum to give himself a breather and continue when he calmed down so you can orgasm together.

[Anonymous]

Why doesn't he do foreplay on you till you're about to cum, then penetrate you while one of you rubs your clit?

[Asker]

That can work i guess... thanks :)

[Opinion Owner]

Incidentally, longer term i agree that there are exercises he can do, initially solo, then with you, to help him screw you for longer, which i assume he'd enjoy too? but this is the short term solution. The part of it that can't be controlled is his motivation. Lots of guys cum fast. Lots of guys can't control it. Most guys aren't too 'tired and weak' to finger a girl after they cum. That sounds like BS.

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend lasts really long. He said most guys can control it if they really want by just holding back and slowing down when they know they want to cum. Like when he knows it's about to happen, pull back a bit and wait for the feeling to pass then carry on as normal.

[nothingtosee]

Suggestion: Tell him that, for now on, if he wants to cum he HAS to ask for permission, and he can't cum without it. Tell him, that if he cums without your permission, he will be punished. The punishment should be something like, he has to eat his cum or he has to allow you fuck him in the ass with a dildo, or he's not allowed to cum for a week. During that time, he HAS to make you cum every night, using his tongue, or with a dildo, or a vibrator.

[Mr_Original_]

Tantric sex.

[Scotsmanky16]

Squeeze the head of his penis with finger and thumb. That will delay him cumming. Practice this before sex with him and you will get the technic right.

[Anonymous]

Let me explain to you the kind of man @Omar5881 is. He's a man who knows that when you put another man's cock in your mouth, you make a pact. A bond that cannot be broken. He's a man so dedicated that he will get down on his knees and put that cock right in his mouth.

[Anonymous]

He can learn to control it. Or at least know when he is about to cum, and stop before he does. So he can last longer by starting and stopping. Practicing that might help him last longer in general.