Blowjobs freak me out?

[Anonymous]

This is pretty embarrassing and I can't believe I'm actually admitting this, but blowjobs/dicks freak me out and I'm really not sure why. I'm 16 (not the right age on my account) and I've been with my boyfriend for a while, but have yet to give him a handjob/blowjob even though I know he'd really want one. He's a gentleman and I think he knows it makes me a bit uncomfortable so he never brings it up (only jokingly once in a while) and never asks me for one, but I feel like I owe it to him. I'm just really freaked out by the idea of putting my mouth on it, or even by touching it honestly and I'm not sure why. I have a bad gag reflex (it's triggered at the most random times) mixed with a fear of vomiting and I'm terrified trying to give him a blowjob (even if it's just the head in my mouth) will make me sick. How can I get over this? I've always been a bit uneasy and anxious about physical intimacy like this (not making out/cuddling, just sexual stuff) and I'm not sure why. I even get nervous when he wants to go down on me and I have no idea why because I definitely want him to. Is there something wrong with me?

[Anonymous]

Start
With
Handjobs.

Most of your fears seem to be around how you might react during a bj. But you've not done anything with his dick.

Start with hj. If he's circumcised, you might want to have access to lube - it's certainly possible to give a good hj to a circumcised guy without it, but it's -easier- with. You're not looking to use advanced skills here, you're looking to make him groan and cum and to be like 'haha that was kind of hot actually and pretty easy'

Get comfortable jerking him off. At that point, if and when you're ready, you can start -incorporating- your mouth without feeling like you might not be able to continue. Because all you are offering is a hj and anything else mixed in for a few seconds is bonus. You could give him a hj while giving it the odd kiss. You could lick around the head a little and that's it.

So let's focus on hj for a minute. What freaks you out about -that-?

[NJ_Casanova]

"Freaked out by touching it"? I think they are bigger problems than just touching it. You don't have to deep throat it... Just think of it as an ice cream cone. Tongue and lips not teeth and you'll be fine. Take your time, your still young and have plenty of time, If/when he goes down on you, you'll understand the pleasure he gets and most likely want to reciprocate the pleasure.

[OctoberBaby26]

There's nothing wrong with you at all. Try practicing with a banana or lolipop. Try seeing how deep you can go before you'll feel like throwing up. Keep practicing, it'll help. Also, you maybe a little uneasy about the whole affection thing maybe just MAY BE because your family members or w. e wasn't very affectionate with you when you were younger (idk u so it's just a guess) that does tend to happen to people. But the more you try and make an effort the more you'll get used to these things. If your boyfriend isn't rushing you to do it to him then don't rush yourself just get comfortable and tell him you want him to go down on you but your scared. The more honest you are with him about the situation the better the outcome I promise! I was in the same situation before when I was your age. Just relax he'll make you feel comfortable. Don't force yourself.

[mmjane22]

Nothing wrong with you, you're just scared of something you've never experienced before. I think the best thing you can do is talk to him about it -- you say he's a gentleman, so he'll probably understand and can work out a way for you guys to work up to that kind of thing. Like groping over clothing, grinding, maybe you could watch him masturbate and see how he pleases himself so you have some idea of what it would be like. It's great that he's not pressuring you but if you really want to please him that way I'm absolutely certain he'd be willing to work with you :)

[Wanderingthoughts]

No your just nervous because its new territory. If you do do it make it clear that he is not allowed to cum in your mouth.
You should probably start with stroking him get used to the idea of touching it.
I'm nervous for you good luck remember no cumming in your mouth! The first time I let someone cum in my mouth was a week ago. Best of luck to you.

[parisfox]

NOTHING is wrong with you. It just sounds like you're not ready for sex and that is completely normal, you're only 16. While yes, some girls your age are already experimenting, you should feel no pressure at all to do something your body is telling you not to.

[Cozybcuz]

Just take it slow and just get use to it and eventually you will realize that there is nothing to worry about

[Intraluminal]

Well, you don't owe him any sexual behavior of any type. Probably the whole idea bothers you because you're too young. Don't rush it. Wait.

[ThatBeachGirl]

Do whatever makes you happy. There is no rush.

[skeptic007]

your subconscious about him and yourself thats why

[mariusdalt]

Nothing wrong blowjobs are awkward and difficult i'd imagine don't stress about it

[Skyrunner2000]

Thjs is a big turn on for guys

[frederikwinter]

You are not sexual driven. Maybe a late comer, hopefully for him and for you

[Saweenie]

I think it's perfectly normal. I'm 21 & still think it's a bit gross. It's something I personally have to work up to each time. When it comes to any relationship it's good to take things one step at a time. Some steps may take longer than others.

[Anonymous]

Let me explain to you the kind of man @Omar5881 is. He's a man who knows that when you put another man's cock in your mouth, you make a pact. A bond that cannot be broken. He's a man so dedicated that he will get down on his knees and put that cock right in his mouth.

[Anonymous]

I'm the same - I can't stand a dick in my mouth, just the feel off it and then if he tries like humping and forces it in - just no! If you're in a good enough, trusting relationship he shouldn't expect anything of you and if you're not comfortable with it, then don't do it.