My boyfriend is mad at me for not sending nudes?

[Anonymous]

Ok I have sent nudes in the past to my two other exes (I'm aware of the risks/consequences but I never showed my face in the nudes.) Now my current boyfriend who I've been dating for 3 weeks is begging me for nudes but I don't want to send nudes anymore because I know that it's wrong and I don't wanna get in trouble. I told him that I don't want to send nudes and then he got mad and called me a bitch. He hasn't talked to me in 2 days. I have only dated 2 guys in the past and they both asked for nudes but never got mad at me for not sending them. Do all guys just want nudes from girls and that's it? What should I do about him? I'm 19 by the way.

[bethshepherd]

This guy is not a nice guy and not worth bothering with. He does not see you as a person but a thing to be used, a convenience. To him you are a thrill, sex, no more. Someone to manipulate into doing what he wants and giving him what he wants. What is in that for you? Nothing. No decent nice guy would ever ask his girl to send him nudes, but after only a few weeks it is even more revolting and horrible. The thing is that if you think you will send him the photos, even if it is just to keep him sweet, he thinks you are behaving like a slut so he talks to you as if you are one. He is trying to train you into being an obedient convenience, with no thought to what is fair to you or what is nice by you. Many guys will not understand why women are reluctant to send pics, but it is far more than just sending pics, it is the fact they can end up all over the internet and they make it look like you are a desperate slapper. The guy then totally loses respect for you and interest in you, so you have lost him anyway.

[Anonymous]

Hey, I'm sorry to say that he doesn't sound like a very nice guy. If a girl chooses to send a guy nudes then that's her decision, but in no way should that ever be an expectation. I never sent my ex nudes even though we dated for 8 months and knew each other really well. He never asked for them either because he knew better than to do that. You obviously know the consequences of sending nudes and shouldn't do send any if you don't feel comfortable. I honestly don't think he had any right to call you a bitch or treat you so rudely. You can do so much better than that. Just think that his true colours showed after only 3 weeks of your relationship. That's totally ridiculous and you deserve someone who treats you well and respects your decisions :) Hope you take my advice and find someone else to make you happy! :)

[Anonymous]

Bye, Felipe!

He sounds like an ass. If you said no, that you aren't comfortable with it, he should respect that. I hate pushy people. I never ask for nudes and push them in to it if they don't want to.

I sent nudes (like you, no face) when I was around 18-20. I do regret it, since after I did the guys became distant about a week after they got it and then disappeared. I don't think all guys want nudes (well... they might want it, but they aren't all asshole pushy dudes). If the guy asks and seems to respect your decision not to, then he would be cool in my books. Someone who calls me a bitch for not feeling comfortable gets dumped.

[REALisRARE]

Leave him. Any guy that would call you a bitch for not doing something that your uncomfortable with is a waste of your precious time. Life is to short, time moves too fast for you to be disrespected like that. Are you a dog? Absolutely not. No need for you to put up with that. Send him this picture and call it a day
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[poopedmypantsagain]

In my opinion you are correct to not want to send any out.. and he should respect that from you, a relationship no matter if a long one or a small one should be based on listening to what the other one want.. in this case it is your body.. not his to do what ever, and sorry to hear that he called you a bitch for saying no to him, sit down with this MR.. you should do as I say guy and tell him straight.. I do not want to do it.. period.. if he still gives you a hard time over it.. tell him I found you I can find an other guy who will respect my wishes.. and do not ever.. ever call me a bitch again

[Octavius]

Don't contact him again. Seriously he only got three weeks in before he started treating you like this? Most wife beaters at least pretend to be a good guy usually for like 6 months before this kind of pressure and verbal abuse begins.

Just block his number and ignore him. You can do better you really can. No not all guys want nudes nor do they all treat women like this that don't want to send them.

[tigerhappy44]

I guess my question is: why do you feel it's wrong now but before it wasn't? I mean in one way he may be thinking that he's not equal to your ex's because he hasn't gotten nudes unlike your ex's did. Just a thought

[BellePepper]

LOL! sounds like your boyfriend might have disposed of himself for you. I'd send him a breakup text for good measure and then block him everywhere.

It is YOUR choice to share nudes. It is not his right and it certainly isn't right for him to call you a bitch. That's completely unacceptable.

[jennifer_bloom]

you should break up with him. He shouldn't call you a bitch.

[Michelle272009]

If you don't want to do it then don't let him bully u into it. I don't blame you for changing your mind about it. It is very risky and you have a lot of life ahead of you. If he is going to stop talking to u or not want to be with you over this then don't u think that's a good sign he isn't in it for the right reasons. Don't give in.

[SansiSavvy]

He has absolutely no respect for you, this should be a big red flag

[MadeInAmerica]

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Wow bitch huh? Kinda extreme and the silent treatment. Time to let him go in a hurry.

[Red_Arrow]

Totally agree with you, but hate having to send you a heart. lol #HateTheUpdate

[Aleera]

hahahahaha "Time to let him go in a hurry."

[Wanderingthoughts]

I think you've already done the right thing

[misscocobutter]

He doesn't respect you, he has no right to call you a bitch for that, and no right to demand nude photos. If that was me, he would no longer be my boyfriend, he doesn't deserve you

[9mfeo]

Dump him. He's terrible. If you don't want to send nudes, you don't have to.

#ThisUpdateIsTrash

[ad48hp]

What do you mean by this update, every update here is shit.

[Tomblebee]

@ad48hp What update?

[WhatTheHellAmy]

Forget about that bitch.

[Sixxfan1313]

If he's going to get mad at that and call you a bitch for not sending a naked picture of yourself then he's not worth being with. If you're uncomfortable with something he should understand and not react in such a rude way. Seriously man.

[ConnorH]

Break up with him, it's WAY too soon to be asking for nudes. He's just after your body.

[karahiri]

He's a fucktard. Dump him. Decent people don't pressure others like that- regardless of your past decisions.

[Imafreespirit]

You deserve someone better. You don't have to send nudes. If u don't feel comfortable doing it, no one has the right to force u or call u a bitch because of that. A guy that is worth ur time will respect you and sorry, but this guy clearly doesn't

[glamgamergal]

I love thst the guys here actually understand

[BertMacklinFBI]

what a weak little man

lol

[Random_chick_2384]

What an asshole! Leave him now.

[dogenaut]

Girl, dump his ass. A man would respect your decision whether you want to send them or not.

[abundantlyrich]

Ignore him. he doesn't respect you.

[LifeEqualsLove]

What a jerk.