Why am I romantically attracted to my sister?

[altonickle]

Me and my sister are very close. We often get told that we are weirdly close, the people then quickly add; "in a good way" or "its nice". We are 22 and 20 years old. I find it weird that other people aren't as close to their syblings as my sister and I, but sometimes I start getting desires around my sister. I don't think its purely sexual feelings. My sister means the world to me and I love her more than anything else. Sometimes when we're close together or hugging, I get the urge to just hold her tight and kiss her passionately. Other times it is more sexual, like when we go swimming and she is wearing a bikini. Then i want to get close and carress her whole body. I just want to hold her as tight as possible and love her and when I want to express that love I feel like the normal brother sister way isn't strong enough to convey my feelings for her. I want to hold her in my arms and make her feel protected and make her feel like no matter what, I'll always be there for her. I haven't been romanticly involved with anyone for a long time and I wonder if maybe I'm projecting romantic feelings onto her, becasue I have a desire for intimacy. Ugh all I want to do now is kiss her and tell her I love her

[truthbeknown]

Yeah, I think it is because you aren't dating anyone. Like it or not, you are still human and a male with natural sexual interests and desires. Since you are close to her it is only a matter of time before random thoughts pop in your head. You no longer see her as a sister, but just a woman. Of course you already have feelings for her, you love her, and you think she is good looking, so it becomes very easy to develop a little crush on her. Your mind has no one else to focus sexually on, so this is why these feelings develop. Maybe it is time to focus less on her, and maybe start thinking about finding a girlfriend. If you and sister are so close, she probably thinks you are a great guy and she could possibly set you up with one of her friends.

[altonickle]

That would be a great idea, but unfortunately I hate all her friends xD

[truthbeknown]

Maybe she has a friend of a friend?

[altonickle]

you know, you do make a good point. Maybe I should start asking friends to set me up

[ak666]

I must say I don't understand your feelings in the slightest, as I never fancied my sister in the slightest, and she's considered a good-looking girl (my friends used to always tell me).

I'm very interested in this too, how you developed such an attraction. Were you and your sister always together since early childhood, or were you separated for a while and grew up kind of separately?

Just reading briefly on this subject from a wiki article (not sure how reliable), apparently one of the causes of incest between siblings could be a failure in parenting, like a parent absent/unavailable (apparently an absent father is worse than an absent mother here for some reason).

[altonickle]

Its not really about her being attractive, although she is. I have heard about that when two siblings grow up apart from one another, that they can have sexual feelings for each other, but we've always been together. As for my parents, they are amazing. There was a time when I couldn't understand my father at all. It was hard to see any love from him, but one year I remembered how he always used to play with us when we were children. He was already almost 40 and he had three children to deal with, but he almost always was able to make time for each of us and then I could see past all the stress and frustration he was constantly under. So the fault can't lie with them either

[ak666]

The article just suggests emotionally unavailable, and it might be most important for your most formative years, like puberty. Anyway, that's just one of the main causes it listed, so could be something else. I don't know. Have you tried just dating other girls? As you said, you might be projecting some needs of intimacy to the closest person you get along with. I try not to judge or condemn so much -- I simply don't understand it.

[altonickle]

my last girlfriend was about 4 years ago (yes a very long time ^^) but I've been having some problems in my life regarding who I am and where I'm going, so ladies weren't really in the cards for me. Last year I feel like I finally found some direction and I've really discovered myself as a person, but sadly there weren't many viable candidates for a relationship. I went on one date and while we really do like each other, some of our core values differ too greatly for a relationship, so maybe this year I can try to find someone else

[rogermclain]

I know I've not had sex with sister but I caught masaturating she saw and I see in corner of eye rubbing herself wow it felt sexy