Girls, would you stop dating a guy if you found his fleshlight?
A. I would stop dating him
To any potential commenters that may claim double standard since gals can use dildo/vibratory and not get judged but guys can't use a toy for them'... yes yes it is a double standard just like guys can be promiscuous and not get judged as a slut/whore/skank/cumdumpster/lacking respect for himself but gals can't and instead are seen as damaged/used up goods. I don't see much male outrage at the slut/stud double standard if anything I see defense ie master key/sh*tty lock and pseudo biology rationalization. So yeah I'll stick to a societal double standard considering I don't see much outrage for other double standards when males are at the advantage.0 0 0 0Hey, as a male virgin I've actually always been somewhat sympathetic to slutty women since I know they face a similar social stigma and double standard. In either case, I don't use a Flashlight because it would make me feel like a loser. I'm already a virgin struggling with some insecurity issues as a result. Do I really want to add to it by using a sex toy? I just can't. It is the same reason I try to avoid porn.
You know. Straight men aren't trying to marry other men. So we don't care if he fucks around. We are trying to find miss right so we do care if a women sleeps around. Not to mention that women are the ones who create the double standard. No man calls another man a player or high fives him except other man whores or douche bags. So get out of here with that shit. Women want to sleep around? Sure go ahead. But don't go getting offended when other men don't want to date you because of it.
@JRICHARDS1996 It seems suited to resolve why you would feel like a loser for using a fleshlight or viewing porn. In my view it's simply a masturbatory aid and masturbating and aiding such is not being a loser. It seems really suited to work on the insecurity issues ala not tying your self-esteem/self-worth to your sexual prowess.
It wouldn't creep me out. I guess a flesh-light is no different than a girl having a dildo/vibrator, and desperate times call for desperate measures sometimes, especially if we'd been dating for just a few weeks.
The only reason it might bug me with my boyfriend would be as to why he would feel the need to use that if he knows I'm DTF 99% of the time, unless in class or studying for a big exam. :P1 1 0 0i would find it amusing because i have no sex toys and i've never actually seen a fleshlight except pictures online. i would totally give him a hard time about it. but i wouldn't care haha
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i think you're going to get a negative reaction... it's more ok for a girl to have a vibrator, in part because we recognize most women could have sex with 20 guys a month easily.
but if a guy goes that far into the self help category, it implies he either lacks the skill or the will to get a woman at all.0 0 0 0- 0 0 0 0
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13 5It would bother me and creep me out a bit, but it wouldn't necessarily be grounds for an instant breakup. (I don't use sex toys so there is nothing hypocritical about my opinion.)
0 0 0 0Eh I have a few vibrators I'm not worried
0 0 0 0Um.
I don't care. It really shouldn't be a big deal. It's just a masturbatory aid.
Haha.
:\0 0 0 0It wouldn't bother me.
0 2 0 0I would just laugh!
0 0 0 0What if the girl has toys also? Some mutual fun?
0 0 0 0What, girls can use dildo/vibratory and not get judged but guys can't use a toy for them? If some girl broke up with a guy over that she outta be ashamed
0 4 0 0I would roflma but hey what do I care... he isn't risking getting diseases outside of a relationship
1 0 0 0I'd ask if I could use it on him. I like to watch! (:
0 2 0 0That early on?
and then he could use my vibrator on me. fun for us both!
oh. I didn't read the details. just the question.
I don't think I would care if he doesn't use it when i'm available :D
We got dildo so guys can have toys too ^^0 0 0 0Sounds gross. :/
0 0 0 0I don't care lol. I don't think it's any different from a chick using a dildo.
1 1 0 0I doubt they'd care at all
0 0 0 0You mean pocket pussy OP? It's a ritual, fuk em if they don't want it lol
1 0 0 0Not unless he gets pissed at my collection of sex toys.
0 0 0 0She probably has toys for her.
0 0 0 0I'd probably wanna use it on him
0 0 0 0It's not much different to my vibrators
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