What is considered cheating?

At what point does it become cheating?

What is considered cheating?


Hug (lol get over yourself jealous fgit)
Vote A
Kiss on the hand
Vote B
Kiss on the cheak
Vote C
Handjob, fingering
Vote D
BJ, Cuttlingus
Vote E
Fuckin... intercourse
Vote F
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  • while some of these are obvious cheating (at least to me), it depends on the intent of the person doing it.

    for example, if my boyfriend hugs a friend (who is female) in a friendly way, it won't bother me. but if he does it in a way that's more than friendly, then yes, that would bother me.

    another example: a kiss on the hand is generally seen as polite/chivalrous. however, if a guy who's not my boyfriend did it to me, it would make me very uncomfortable and i'd likely stop it in its tracks before it happened if i saw it coming.

    cheating is a deal-breaker for me; at least end the relationship first and let the other person keep his or her dignity.

  • It's all about intent. If I know I like a guy and then hang out with him whenever possible and start hugging him (with lust felt allll over my body) I'm being deceptive and definitely flirting with the possibility of cheating.

    The thing is, a hug can be explained. Holding hands? Why would my partner hold hands with someone else, that's just weird.

    But it's not about what can be explained away.

    Doing things with bad intent is cheating. Hell, people can cheat over the internet/phone with things like sexting/sex Skype

    • Ohhh you cheatin with me huh? WHATG A SLOOOOOOOT

    • I'm sorry :'C I'm a sloot whore

    • lol why are you calling yourself a whore? You are a sloot

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  • Personally, i think it's Anything which you feel you need to hide from your SO, because you are already there if you have to be deceitful by hiding something. The person has ulterior motives if they feel the need to keep it from their SO.

    • Perfect answer!

    • i totally agree!

Most Helpful Guys

  • The gif. . . hilarious, unnerving (she seems to be ingesting a fire hose there toward the end)

    The word "cuttlingus" . . . fantastic

    Cheating? In my book it's anything more than an email or phone call *which I've been informed about*.

    • lol fail on the cunnilingus... anything more than an email or phone call? you mean hugging is too far?

    • Depends on the hug! There are hugs and there are huuuuuugs. Most hugs would be okay, though. :) Hugs can be totally non-sexual. Cheating behavior has to be at least somehow sex-related, in my book.

    • Interesting question. Thanks.

  • It is cheating as soon as you do something that you can not do openly in front of your spouse.

    • Lol otherwise... its termed as what?

    • Great definition

    • True this.

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  • Though I wouldn't be happy if my girlfriend gave a blowjob to another guy behind my back, real cheating is only intercourse for me. However, different people have many different views on this.

  • It becomes cheating once you're betraying your partner with someone else whether it'd be in person or online etc.

  • That's a huge leap from "kiss on cheek" to "handjob/fingering". Cheating usually starts with making out, which isn't on your list.

    Cheating is mostly in the intent for me. If boyfriend was sexting someone he'd never met that would be as big a betrayal as if I caught him up to his cock in another woman. It's cheating I'd trust is betrayed and the partner is hurt.

    • Good rule of thumb is that if you wouldn't do it right in front of your partner it's probably cheating, or at least a breach of their trust.

    • @Sara413 thank you. That's what I was aiming at

  • Kissing hand or cheeks is often times cultural, of course it can be a sign of affection, but for sure fingering is cheating. If you have to get emotional or physical gratification from someone other than your SO, then it's cheating

  • Kissing I guess, but its forgivable depending on circumstances.
    Having a sex is unforgivable cheating.

  • It is very common for my friends (who are both male and female) and I to hug as a greeting, as well as for family, so I definitely think that it would be ridiculous to see hugging as cheating. A kiss on the cheek is something a lot of family members do to greet each other as well, and a kiss on the hand is a simple greeting to some people, especially more old fashioned ones. I think once it actually starts to get sexual then it is cheating. Hugging, in my opinion, should never be construed as cheating, but perhaps in some situations the kissing things could be to certain people. I think it all depends on the situation.

  • -I see nothing wrong with hugs. I'm an affectionate person.
    -I see nothing wrong with kisses on the hands and cheek. Hands could be pushing it because that's not used besides really expressing a man's interest in the woman. But it could be friendly kisses nonetheless.

    The rest are clearly cheating to me.

    I do think though that people who have an issue with their SO being around the opposite sex or showing any kind of affection--though nowhere near anything that could be construed as flirtation--tend to be insecure.

  • To me, it's cheating as soon as you're doing something that you wouldn't do in front of me.
    So if you are hugging a naked chick and you're naked, and it's a lingering hug, yes cheating.

    This includes getting other people's numbers with the intention of sexual or romantic. Flirting. Sexy dancing. Lap dance. Exchanging nudes. Mutual masturbation. Kissing. Anal. Oral. Coitus.

    Cheating isn't just sex. Cheating is often way before that point. Before they even meet up.

  • A kiss on the cheek can be totally innocuous or it can be cheating. Depends entirely on the type of relationship they have with the person they kiss as well as cultural factors. It's no big deal for someone to greet a close friend with a kiss on the cheek if that is a normal way that they greet people they care for.

  • Anything that steps over the line of friendship is considered cheating.

  • Hugging that's fine.

    But cuddling, kissing, any sexual activity including sexting, heavy flirting (baby, babe, etc) is cheating.

  • Anything starting at finger and more

  • anything that you dont want your SO to find out about

  • Cheating always starts with intent before anything physical even happens. Beats me how people go around claiming they 'accidentally' cheated.

    • I have accidentally fallen on a penis many times. Have you?

    • Lol. My mind can't count how high.

  • There's emotional affairs and physical affairs. Anytime the motive is to win someone for intimacy is cheating. It's the intent or motive

  • I would say french kissing, but that wasn't an option. So i went with HJ

  • That gif though 😂

  • did she spit it out at the end? spitters are quitters!!!

  • ya kissing and on, inappropriate intimate contact

  • Kiss on the mouth

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