Girls, How bad does it hurt to lose your virginity?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend and I have been dating for about a year now, and I want to have sex with him, except one problem- I'm terrified of the pain. I can only fit one finger in comfortably, and I can fit two in about an inch or so, but anything further than that really hurts. My boyfriend definitely doesn't have a small penis and I have no idea how he's going to fit inside of me when I can barely even get 2 fingers in. I'm assuming it's a really uncomfortable, painful feeling. How bad does it hurt (honestly) to lose your virginity? Is there any ways to prepare yourself for it in advance or gradually loosen up your vagina a bit so that it doesn't hurt as much?

[Anonymous]

It hurt a little bit for me, and I usually can't get more than two fingers in.

I've had sex all of twice now, he's told me has a wider than average girth (I've no way of knowing if that's true or not but I bloody hope I don't come across anyone thicker!) and everytime he goes to go in, we have to be careful and slow to keep me from hurting too much.

Basically what we do, is lots of foreplay, when you get to the whole penetration part, go slow and easy. Have him rock in and out but just barely, pushing in ever so slightly more every rock in. But go slow. If it hurts, making slow down and back off a little then start again. We use extra lube for every initial penetration, even if it's been only a half hour because by the time he's going back in, I've gone back to tiny and tight.

[Opinion Owner]

The first time when he was actually in it still hurt, almost a burning sensation but that was simply from being stretched further than fingers have ever done, it didn't last long. Once he gets going you kind of forget about pain. The second time was better, no burning sensation or anything. Just the once again having a little trouble getting it in.

[kittenkat450]

You could try a vaginal dilator kit which helps to slowly widen your vaginal canal. But my big tip is FOREPLAY! Foreplay is designed to help prepare the vagina for sex. It helps to loosen the muscles and lubricate everything so there's no friction, but anything helps from gentle touching, massage, oral sex, whatever gets you going really. Losing my virginity didn't really hurt all that bad. It was like an instant little cramp like normal cramps and then that was it. Didn't hurt at all after that. I was a little sore but that's to be expected since you've never had sex before. But everyone is different honey. Honestly if he's a good guy he'll go slow and gentle and make it as relaxing as possible.

[Apriscila]

Guys don't like it to be loose. They prefer it be tight as it feels better. And yeah it is painful lol but it only hurts the first time 🤓 If your body is tense it's going to hurt more so you gotta remember to relax and let go and make sure you are wet enough. Don't be scared it isn't so bad after 10minutes

[selmo93]

It doesn't hurt. Its just uncomfortable the first time. But you need tl remember they expand the more your turnt on - the more foreplay the better

[sweettckae]

oh slow down, you sound like me when I lost mine. it doesn't hurt as bad as they say. some people over exaggerate. first of all he needs to be slow with you th first time and if you're not wet he'll need to use lube. it really doesn't hurt as much as they say.

[needhelpp]

i think if its with someone you trust just go slow ill say he will help you as much as he can you could go in to a sex shop and buy a dildo and try stretching that way

[Anonymous]

I'll be honest I was terrified of the pain too. My boyfriend took it nice and slow with me and made sure to pay attention and make sure I was ok. It hurt for me, but only for a couple of minutes