Do you think it is trashy when people have children out of wedlock?

[Anonymous]

It's better than abortion, but I still find it despicable.

[Afro-dite9]

Ohhh look another jerk judging someone who sin's differently from himself👏👏👏 Don't judge someone's situation that you know shit about kid😒So what sleezy thing's do you do when know one is watching? because we're all guilty of something. Sure belittle other's to make yourself seem more superior. Most people in today's time aren't married and have tons of kids with no issues vs divorced couples going through bs 24/7. Marriage doesn't save u from anything special. The same thing you put into ur marriage you can put into your non martial relationship. It all work's out if you want it to work out. Point blank period lol people get married everyday and don't respect/honor their union.

[Wizbit]

What is your definition of wedlock? Do you mean only couples who are married or does that include long term couples who choose to co-habit but not marry?

Wedlock is an outdated concept. In the modern world where religion takes much more of a back seat it's not fair to judge on outdated standards.

My daughter was born in wedlock (the conventional married kind) and I ended up a single parent. How is that any better than an unmarried couple having a baby and remaining together, or an "accident" from a casual fling? Marriage doesn't protect anyone from anything.

[Asker]

you're outdated

[Wizbit]

How am I outdated?

[Asker]

you're attitude

[Wizbit]

MY attitude? You think any child not born to a legally married couple is "despicable" and my attitude is outdated? Please explain how. I'm sure I wasn't even rude, although I can't guarantee that will continue.

[kaylaS91]

I don't support it and do think it'd be best for the parents to be married as I do believe that marriage provides a better sense of stability, ideal for a child's development.
Children out of wedlock being trashy? Not necessarily. There's nothing really harmful in the couple not being married as there's no reason why they can't have still been together for years simply without getting married.

Sounds a bit excessive for you to compare a situation that is simply lacking parents who are legally joint to abortion, or the killing of a fetus.

[samhradh_leannan]

Marriage is not the key ingredient for raising children well, but a stable home environment with parents who are committed to each other is crucial.

[JRICHARDS1996]

It is less than ideal but as you stated, it is better than abortion. And I admire the parents for bearing the responsibility of parenthood at such a young age. My mom had me at fifteen so I have a soft spot for these things. Plus, I find the stigma that children like myself who were born outside of wedlock face to be very difficult and unfair.

[ClassicRocker]

I'm not religious so the institution of marriage is nothing more than a social construct to me. It seems more like a legal/symbolic ceremony than anything else, so I'd prefer not to attach morality to it.

[BellePepper]

Something liked 60% of pregnancies delivered to term are unplanned. That's more than people messing up. That's just life. If you don't like abortion then don't complain when people have their kids.

[justbanANNAz]

not sure how i feel on that one.

[Sami365]

Nope, its just the norm. Hell, that might even happen to me. I might never be married because I don't like the idea of it, but I'm definitely having kids.

[Asker]

uh why

[Sami365]

Because marriage just makes it more expensive when shit hits the fan and you split up. I've always wanted to be a mother, so I will have my own as well as adopt, but a guy would have to be /very/ patient and persistence to make me a married woman.

[KBob93]

I really would rather it not be that way, but it's not "despicable."

[Kylesar]

Why the hell would I judge other people's actions? If they're ready for a child then let them have one.

I shouldn't have to be married to have a child.

What's best for a child is a stable home, not a married one

[gapminder]

I think it's totally trashy. I have several family members that have done it and that is why I feel this way 100%

[jakeofalltrades]

no thinks happen

[jakeofalltrades]

*things

[admles]

Nope.

Marriage is just a piece of paper.

[Indigocloud]

No. Marriage is pointless and doesn't prove anything

[jamoneselmejor]

no, conservative.

[Minato157]

Why would it even matter? My mom had me at 22 or smth and outside of marriage but I never cared and neither does it matter.

[Anonymous]

No, Its not the 'norm' any longer eventhough I do prefer marriage before children

[Asker]

Whyy?