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Threesome gone wrong?

So me and my boyfriend agreed on a threesome (his idea he is bi) Let's say it came out to an odd start. The new guy touched my leg constantly for about 10 minutes. I have no clue what that was supposed to do. But basically they ended up kicking me out of my own bed and 69ing. When I approached them the new guy said "in threesomes someone always gets left out" (I said these words to my boyfriend days prior when we discussed it and my fear of being rejected came through... needless to say it was well founded) He lied a bunch said he was gonna kiss me etc (didn't want to kiss dick lips thanks...) They ignored me for 10 minutes and ruined that idea for me perminantly. He's now guilt tripping me into trying again after a shitty experience where I ended up getting booted out of the whole ordeal. Please can someone explain the dynamics of a threesome? Does the opposite gender ALWAYS get left out? (And he wanted a ffm one as well. Nope.)
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Most Helpful Guys

  • Threesomes can be fantastic for everyone (FFM) if the relationships are right and the girls are into each other. Someone does NOT always get left out, not by a long shot. My bisexual girlfriends and I all agreed that the three of us together is the best sex any of us ever had. You could never say anyone was left out.

    That is not what you had.

    There is no such thing as bi-sexual males. That is just a phase. Your boyfriend is fully gay, but doesn't know it yet. He wasn't interested in your being in the tryst, he was trying to avoid acknowledging that he is gay.

    The MMFs that work seem to be where the guys have no contact with each other. But the girl has to be really into that, not pushed into it. I have only dated one girl who would even consider a MMF, and only if she were drunk.

    Your best option right now is to just leave. Your boyfriend is gay and will someday realize it and when he does, he won't go back to women.

  • nakeddancer tells it well
    and my take focuses on these facts
    the other guy more than your guy wanted gay sex but could only pull it off with your kitchen pass in hand; he was willing to rub your leg until you blew him as an appetizer but you were no other use to him and a distraction for your guy away from his own dick
    So I crown the other guy as plot master and your weak minded guy as being seduced, having a little head that blinded him to your satisfaction completely.

    The new offer FFM was designed by his big head to compensate you in pleasure after this fiasco but again probably cooked up by someone else's lust = his little head wanting to be served by a new gal, if not both... he's again NOT the odd man out, in any case and your role is not just kitchen pass but also decoy to lure his prey in close

Most Helpful Girls

  • You have every right to be upset and your boyfriend needs to apologise and acknowledge that he was wrong to let it go the way it did. Honestly, I wouldn't even bother if I was you but if you want to try to work it out with him you'll need him to admit he was wrong and your feelings about this are valid.

    • It sounds to me like he wasn't really interested in a threesome at all and neither was the other guy. They just wanted an excuse to fuck each other without technically cheating.

  • That is not how threesomes work. Your boyfriend sounds very selfish and from what you describe about the ordeal, he just wanted an excuse to sleep with another person. Threesomes always require guidelines and rules. Honestly I wouldn't let your boyfriend guilt trip you into another one.

    • Oh wow I couldn't agree more. Prior to engaging in a threesome, absolute rules and guidelines have to be laid out. Threesomes can be great and a lot of fun but the way the three of you approach this was all wrong. As a matter of fact, I kind of think that it wasn't a threesome. It was an excuse by your boyfriend to be with the guy. You would never include. A male male female threesome is fantastic if it includes the girl. I love to get penetrated by guys over and over again. What you set up was a setup

    • @NakedDancer You nailed it.

    • @erandal thank you

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  • I think that if he WANTED he could of pulled you back into it in some way (ive never had a three way ) but in my opinion if my boyfriend got booted out of it id stop whatever to bring him back in the game. That to me sounds like he just wants a guilt free cheat sheet. Im sorry.

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  • get rid of that one, he is a bad egg... sounds like he just used a 3some as a way to get your approval to sleep with someone else, sounds pretty self centered.

    it is super easy to not leave someone out on a 3some so they did that by choice, it was no accident... fond someone more well deserving.

  • i just dont get it lol. im not sharing my girl with another guy, ever.

  • The opposite gender is suppose to be the center of attention

    • not in my mind. in a FFM threesome, my biggest turn on is seeing the girls together. The things is it is about balance. No one left out. Everyone has sex with everyone else. I suppose in an MMF threesome with 2 straight guys. the girl is the total center of attention, but otherwise I think any threesome that focuses on pleasing just one person in it is a failure that will see hurt feelings later.

  • I have to agree with @NakedDancer. Setting down ground rules before hand and adhering to them are an absolute must. Once you stray from the rules, the threesome must stop right then. It appears this wasn't done and thus, the failed experience. I'm sorry it happened to you. I've participated in many threesomes with my wife, both FFM and MFM. I always made sure my wife was the center of attention, regardless of the gender of our third.

  • You got a real keeper there as a boyfriend... not. If this doesn't ring any bells on you, then you deserve anything coming at you. Honestly though, you should break up. Now. No questions asked.

  • bye bye relationship

  • That's actually an interesting thought. I never thought of someone being left behind in threesomes. I have been in multiple threesomes and all of them were MMF (no male-male action) and no one was left behind. Maybe because none of us was bisexual in the act.

  • I believe there is no such thing as bi-sexual men... we are very sexual beings. And focussed on one thing (in this case dick or pussy) it was just like a writing on the wall you would left out of the game. The dude your boyfriend invited was queer as hell i bet right?

  • He sounds gay lol

  • he is so gay

  • stream1.gifsoup.com/view1/1651961/ross-hi-o.gif
    You're basically Ross!

    Your boyfriend is obviously Gay, dump that *** and find with a real man!

  • Thats not how it works... Seriously you have to set out what the tone is going to be and what you all want out of it. Not just be selfish and not communicate. Sorry it wasn't good for you.

  • Threesome dynamics depend heavily on whether the two of the same sex are bi, or not. If they weren't bi, they'd have avoided touching each other or eye contact, and all the focus would have been on you, whether pleasuring you, or fucking you.

    To me, in this case it sounds like your boyfriend less wanted a threesome and more wanted an opportunity to have sex with a guy.

  • You need a new boyfriend.

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