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Insecure about girlfriend getting a vibrator?

My girlfriend can't orgasm, never has. I've made every girl before her orgasm like crazy so it's kind of a bummer. She wants to get a vibrator to see if that will work. I'm a bit insecure about it, I boiled it down to two reasons: 1. We don't have as much sex as I would like already and it's been an issue, and I fear her getting a vibrator making that worse 2. That she will get orgasms from that but still won't be able to with me which kinda crushes me what to do?
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  • First of all, studies show that less than 25% of all women attain orgasm from vaginally induced sex. The vast majority prefer oral sex that is licking and stimulating the clitoris in order to reach orgasm. If you have made every girl reach orgasm through vaginally sex you are the absolute exception to the rule. I insist that a guy lick me to orgasm and then penetrate me. That way my clit is highly sensitized and I can achieve multiple orgasms with penile penetration. Have you tried oral sex first? Licking her over and over again with your tongue back and forth and not stopping until she achieves orgasm?
    There is absolutely no fear to be gained allowing her to have a vibrator. After she reaches orgasm using a vibrator then you can pound the living daylights out of her and listen to her scream in pleasure. Once again that would be considered the most common method of choice. Many reports including the Kinsey report give mention to what I have described above and that is back in the 1950s very few women enjoyed sex because they felt good but never on overwhelmingly fantastic because of sexual intercourse.. I have a question. Does your girlfriend reach climax via masturbation? I'd like to know the answer to that. Because if the answer is yes that is a great positive sign.. In addition I do not know how old your girlfriend is. Girls and their early 20s have not yet given up their inhibitions. They do so heading into their 30s mid 30s and late 30s. Actually girls become more sexy as they attained their middle 30s by more sexy I mean ability to reach orgasm and to want orgasm. You have nothing to worry about. I encourage oral sex and purchasing a vibrator

    • My girlfriend has never reached climax through masturbation or sex at all. She's 20 and I'm 24. The other girls I have made come has been through oral and vaginal. I have performed oral on my current girlfriend and while I was considered the king of oral to previous partners, it has less of an effect on this one.

    • I do not claim to be the Albert Einstein of sex. With that said I would immediately reply that there has to be some psychological factor blocking her orgasmic activity. And that most likely involves guilt. Rather than involve her in any form of deep psychological evaluation and counseling the first approach is definitely a vibrator. And I would not hang over hot with a stethoscope of blood pressure cuff and an intensive care setting watching her. I would give a privacy. If she fails to achieve orgasm in private the following is recommended. Many girls have the urge to urinate as they reach orgasm. This is actually actually natural and occurs in many females. I would question her about that. Give her permission to, "squirt" which is actually all that squirting really is. Cover the sheets with towels so she will not mess up the bed and allow are in fact encouraged her to Pee. And then I would gently ask if you could watch

  • I think you should do it. It probably has to do with her anatomy, so don't take it personally... that will only make things worse for you. You can try other things too like cock rings or whatever but even if you need a device at first, you'll still be pleasing your girl and giving her an orgasm.

    She is still young and she might not have a lot of sexual experience yet. Also, there's a very good chance that she can't relax enough to have a big o. Sex is very mental/emotional for a girl. If she isn't relaxed enough, she won't have a big o no matter what you do or how much you turn her on.

    And hey, it's good that you recognize WHY it makes you feel insecure. But you obviously are willing to do anything you can to please her, so I think you should give it a try. It might be a stepping stone to getting her to relax enough to Cum and then you can start trying other things again.

    Also, does she masturbate? Maybe you can watch her and see how she pleasures herself and then take it to the next level for her once you see what she likes

    Removable showerhead might be something to try too

  • Okay so a lot of girls fake it to be honest, I have only been able to come with only one guy. And the only way that happened was he ate me out, and took his time learning my body very very well.

    So getting a vibrator is probably not a good idea, she will most like cum with it and depend on it like I do. I wish I could go back and never use a vibrator cause it's probably the only thing I can cum with, I've desensitized myself and have been told in order to be able to come easier I would have to stop playing with myself for 3-5 months ugh! I would seriously find a way to talk her out of it

Most Helpful Guys

  • Let her. Has she ever experienced an orgasm? She needs to discover what works for her and then she can share it with you. If she starts using it to "replace" you then worry, but don't assume it's going to happen. And don't take it personally that you can't make her orgasm either, all women are different.

  • 1. you keep the vibrator and you both have fun together when you're having sex. (dont keep it locked away, you know what i mean^^)
    2. i know it hits the pride, but as stated in solution 1 you can use the vibrator to help you out.

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  • Maybe offer to get her a vibrator or something for you to use. On her. Play it off as a "control/dominant" thing. Its your toy to use on her. Therfor you are in control of her orgasm (if it works) and maybe you'll end up getting more from her. 😉

  • Let her experiment! A toy never compares. And some women can't, i can't. doesn't mean that she doesn't enjoy it

  • I don't see it as a bad thing. Its not like she's renting another man's penis. She just want to experiment to find what gets her excited. If all is well and she finds a great way to orgasm, you will benefit from it to and hopefully from there your sex life will get better. Don't stress :)

  • Get your ego out of the equation. If you care about her, buy the vibrator for her and use it on her. She's going to appreciate the attention, whether it comes from a toy in your hands or from your dick.

    • ^ Exactly! Thank you!

  • first of all talk to her about it
    you could even try using the vibrator during sex that way it might make things easier for the both of you

  • Listen, you have got to make her have an orgasm or it will never work out.

    First, do NOT let her get that vibrator until you have exhausted all avenues. TRUST ME.

    Secondly, start researching on the best tricks & ways to go down on a girl. 70% of women only climax from stimus on the outside. Kick back and prepare to be in for the long hall, could take awhile, enjoy it.

    Lastley, make she is so turned on she is begging for you! Try teasing her prior, maybe even pop in a DVD or role play.

  • some girls just have a harder time orgasming from sex. i would just try it out. im sure you will enjoy it more too, seeing her be more pleasured

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