I want my boyfriend to fuck another girl in front of me, how to approach this?

My boyfriend and I have been together for 4 years and I really really love him, I want to marry him. Our sex life is amazing and everything is amazing. But recently, for quite some time now, I've been thinking about having a threesome. This all started few months ago when there was this one girl who was flirting with him and I'm pretty sure she was flirting with me too lol. Every time we would go out with her other friends, I could notice him restraining himself from flirting back, and I kind of found it very cute. Ever since then, I keep imagining how it would be to have a threesome. I masturbate and I imagine my boyfriend fucking another girl in front of me and I get extremly turned on. I just want to watch, though. And maybe get involved a little bit, but not too much I don't want get physical with her only with him. This desire is not leaving my mind and I really want it. But it has to be a total stranger. Someone who's not in our circle of friends, someone who we are never gonna see again. And perferably a good looking girl. Him and I talked about threesome long ago, but it was just a talk we didn't plan to do it. I remember back then I said I could never do it because I would get too jealous. But it's different now, because I know he loves me and I trust him. Or I don't know... well, it would be an ultimate test. He is very perveted and open minded, so I think he would agree on it. But I'm not 100% sure. I'm afraid he might react bad. If he doesn't want it then it's okay, we won't do it and that's it. What do you guys think, how should I start the subject?
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  • It would be so much easier if you were wanting to be involved with the other girl, as you could get to know her a bit (not necessarily sexually at first) before bringing your boyfriend into the picture. But since the topic has already been discussed, bring it up again during an intimate moment. Discuss your desire to have it happen. Tell him what you want to watch. If he agrees, then start setting down some ground rules for how everyone will behave and adhere to them no matter what. The rules can be whatever you two decide, they just have to be adhered to. The can (and should) include who is allowed to do what, how much attention should be paid to each other, what is definitely not allowed, the use of protection, etc. And you need a code word that if spoken by either of you, you both know it's time to end the threesome because things have become uncomfortable for one of you. Then your next step is to find a willing partner. How you go about that really depends on your comfort zone. My wife and I preferred threesomes (both FFM and MFM) with acquaintances we could see them again if we wanted to, but didn't have to see them. Get a prepaid cell phone. Only use that phone to contact her. You probably will want to keep custody of the phone yourself, but maybe not. And if this is a one time deal, cancel the account or trash the phone after all is done. At least you have the option of total privacy. Once you find a willing girl, then she needs to understand the ground rules. If you don't want her to know where you live (all of ours occurred at our apartment or home) then you'll want to get a hotel room for the night and let the experience begin according to your ground rules. I'd also recommend refraining from much alcohol use. A little is OK, but once you near the point of being drunk, those rules start to fly out the window and everyone's perceptions of events and reactions change. If he's as open minded as you say, then I doubt he would react badly. But you are right, this would be an ultimate test. If you have any more questions, just ask. Good luck, be safe, and have fun!

  • Tell him basically what you said here. You would find it hot to see him with another girl. You just want to watch. It isn't cheating, because not only are you OK with it, but you'll be right there while it happens. Tell him you want a girl who isn't someone you know, because someone who just leaves afterwards is less likely to cause jealousy, because there won't be a connection. Tell him you want this, you've been thinking about it a lot, and you're OK with it happening because you trust him.

    Now, my advice and a question or two.
    Be very careful before you allow this to happen. If you get jealous later, despite you being the one wanting this, any negative effect that has on the relationship is totally on you (unless he gives legitimate reason to be jealous). It isn't enough to just love him before this happens. You have to be absolutely sure you trust him.
    My second piece of advice is, though it has to be a girl he would want, you should pick her, and you should, alone, talk to her about it. This way she understands what you want out if it, and what you don't want.
    and my question.
    Why do you want to only watch? I get that you want to see him with her. But maybe he wants to see you with her also? Jealousy is less likely, in my opinion, if everyone is having sex together, rather than one person being the odd one out. I suppose maybe you aren't into girls yourself, which makes is OK and explains why you don't want to get physical, but you want to see another girl, one you think is hot, having sex. so i don't think i am out of line for assuming you might have some interest there.

    • Yeah I want to be the one to pick her and to talk to her alone first. Well I said I would like her to be somewhat good looking, just for visual enjoyment basically. But it's not a must, of course. I've never been with a girl and I'm not even curious about it, though. But we can touch each other and kiss I guess, but that's as far as it goes, I really don't want her to get near my pussy or me near her's lol. I haven't really made the whole plan, I guess I'll decide what to do during the action.

    • well, if being with other girls isn't for you, just enjoy the show. but if you get caught up in the moment, don't be nervous about joining in. good luck, have fun, and make sure there are ground rules going in. they are important to make sure issues don't come up later.

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  • While you are going at it ask about his fantasies. Ask if he'd ever thought about having 2 girls. Depending on his reaction you may research hiring an escort to your house. s professional that you'll never see again, won't talk to your friends and be sure to give the best service imaginable.

    • Thanks for the MHO❤️

  • If he has an open mind then it shouldn't be a problem

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  • An girlfriend do not ask her boyfriend is he want to have an FFM, but when he want to have it, or in other words, there are very few boyfriends who would turn down an proposal for FFM.

    Anyway unless you are an bisexual you should know by now that your boyfriend would get far more from this kind of threesome then you, and you should be really sure that you are okey with that.

  • The way you explained it here is pretty convincing for me lol.. But I'm biased, because I have the opposite fantasy of watch my girl have sex with other guys.. If you did actually convince him to go through with your fantasy, what would you do if he asked you to do the same for him? Would you fuck other guys in front of him if he got off on it?

    • Yeah I would. Not guyS, though, just one guy.

  • i love when girls ask this shit. guys have been thinking of doing 3somes before even committing

  • Dangerous territory but it's very fun. He'll probably be open to it, just ask, it can't hurt.

  • Nice!! lucky guy he is..

  • Do as the situation permits...

  • That is one gate if you open it you can't close it.

  • If you were too jealous before when you didn't know each other as well, and now you have been together longer, and logically the connection has probably gotten deeper, then chances are you will be jealous. You might think it is hot now, but I imagine once she is cumming all over his dick and making out in front of you, you might change your mind...

  • Ask him.

  • Damn he's lucky

  • My wife wanted this so she set up a threesome with a girl friend of hers that she knew liked me and she assumed I would like...

    • Feel free to message me if you want more insight...

  • You are into cuckquean.

  • You weird.


  • Do you have in mind the girl you want him to fuck

  • in a sense you want to fuck a girl. thats what it all boils down to... .

  • Just have an honest communication. I can't imagine he'd say no

  • I agree with TonyRyan - extremely dangerous territory you are going into, because not all guys would say "yes" (shocking I know), because I'm one of them... if you were my girlfriend and told me you would want a threesome, I would tell you to find another boyfriend

    • Can I know why?

    • Because I'm a monogamous man; if my girlfriend would want a third party into our sex activities then I would think that there were trouble in the relationship; that she didn't love me anymore, but felt quilty about out right dumping me, or that the sex had become too boring - which she should tell me about so it could be spiced up (not by another bloke or another girl). Sorry, but for me, when I'm in a relationship that means I really love the girl and that the sex is only between me and her. When I'm single and we were friends with benefits (mind you, I wouldn't want to be friends with benefits with my ex's) then I wouldn't care; heck I would participate in an orgy if I didn't have feelings for any of the girls there. But I read over your text now and see your guy has talked about it, so at least go for it. I know I would never want it and would state to my girl that I would never want it. Because when I'm in a relationship that means I really love the girl, and just that one girl

    • Thanks for your honest answer. :) I get you and I respect it. It's really not that I don't love him or that I want to dump him or that our sex has become boring. If he thinks the same as you do, I'm gonna respect it and won't ever ask for it again. :)

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  • That's all kinds of awesome! I would absolutely LOVE that! THe trick is going to be getting it on with a girl who is both attractive, and who you'll never see again. Maybe the next time you're on vacation, you can see if you find a hottie on the beach or at the pool who would be down with playing with you both?

    • Good luck! Do you think you'll have a chance to try it anytime soon?

  • Just bring it up to him, see what he thinks...