Are fat women easy?

Question

Some years ago when I was 17 and still a virgin I was told by another guy that I should offer a fat woman sex because they are really desperate. And years later a work colleague said that he knows a guy who has a reputation for sleeping with fat women because they're easy. I personally have never slept with a fat woman but is it true that fat women are easy?

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I'm a fat woman, and its definitely not true for me. I honestly think for many of us its the opposite. I'm extremely guarded. You'll have to put in work, and even when I can tell we have mutual interest and actually like one another, I'll still run away. I'm working on that, but that's the reason I've only slept with one person (a woman, in a very emotional, lesbian friends with benefits situation) and haven't been in any other relationships.

People love to make blanket stereotypes about everyone. I think the attempt at logic behind this one goes something like, "they have low self esteem, so its easier to take advantage of them," along with "they don't get much attention, so they are open to any male attention."

First, not all fat women have low self-esteem. I would say I have confidence issues somewhat, but my self-esteem is pretty high. And I've known plenty who have tons of confidence as well as self-esteem. On the flip side, you can have confidence in your looks, and lack self-esteem, and I've known a lot of slimmer women like this, which I'll get to in a sec.

Second, I've been confused by some of this. If we're easy, isn't the implication that we get around? Doesn't that contradict with the idea that we get no male attention?

Being a woman since forever, with plenty of thin friends, I can say there are shit tons of thin women with low self esteem, and plenty who are "easy" for a variety of reasons. I haven't noticed that slim women have a monopoly on self-esteem at all actually, so I'm not sure why the contrast is drawn here, as if fat women in comparison have less self-esteem. I've known far too many thin women with low standards in men, in abusive relationships, who can't stand up for themselves or demand to be treated well, and who are easy, whether its because they own their sexuality and want to be that way or because it's a symptom of low-self esteem. It's sad, but thats our society. Truly loving yourself isn't that encouraged.

I think a lot of women struggle with the same issues, whether they're fat or slim. This seems more an issue of the guy's confidence, perception, and selection. It's likely that he is going for women who have low self-esteem and/or are easy, who happen to be fat. There's different. He's probably looking for personality, demeanor traits and certain responses that signal the result he would likely get, even if he doesn't realize it. Other guys do the same with thin women.

CœurRosé · Accepted Answer

I think if anything, plus size women are even more difficult to date because they know of hardships better than anyone and so it makes them not as trusting of relationships or the opposite sex. I guarantee at least once in her lifetime she's been teased mercilessly and there might have even been instances where she was asked on dates as jokes.

sparkles10 · Accepted Answer

Lol no. Some women are easy based on the fact that they want to feel wanted not that they are desperate for sex. But all kinds of women feel this way- smaller, bigger all of them. I would hope you wouldn't be having sex with a bigger woman based on that assumption your friend has made.

Lys_Dis · Accepted Answer

No, and that's horrible to say, im "fat"(I guess. Now a days I don't really know) and I am NOT easy nor am I desperate. I suppose this works for women that are insecure about there appearance but not just because they are "fat".

Guys are real dicks sometimes

Berethor · Accepted Answer

Yes there are many fat women who are easy because they are desperate, so if you looking for easy sex, you on the right path, but if you looking for serious relationship, what the point in getting an women who is both slutty and physically unattractive? it's kinda the worse from both worlds.

Baskervillian26 · Accepted Answer

I don't know if they're easy to bed but they're easy to see.

ScorpioMoonChick · Answer

Eh, I wouldn't say that they're easy, per se.. Vulnerable is the better word. When I was fat, I thought that I should just settle for whatever came to me, since I had no self esteem.

selmo93 · Answer

I wouldn't say so. They just have lower self esteem...

peachblossomluck · Answer

That's a hard call because some bigger women have beautiful faces and hair, style, and look after themselves well. If you're talking about drunk bar skanks or something you may be right?

Wulfheard · Answer

Some are, but most aren't any easier than your average size girl. Some (like my wife) are even harder to get into bed than average. Many fat girls have body issues because of the cruel way they have been treated by others. They have been bombarded by society with the notion that their bodies are unacceptable and unattractive so naturally some of them would be leary about any guy showing interest in them sexually. And then their is the misogynistic practice of "hogging" (look it up) which is still alive and well in many low life male social circles. An unsuspecting fat girl getting caught in a "hogging" competion between a bunch of scumbag guys will almost be garrenteed to be emotionally scared for life. She may never get over it making the notion of "the easy fat girl" laughable at best. Most intelligent fat girls know they are fat and they know how most of society views them. They know they are considered the low hanging fruit so they put up a shield that is hard to get through for us guys that love them.

Felinegirl · Answer

Ugly women are easy. In todays society fat is seen as ugly. Anyone in low demand will eventually lower their standards.

Lioness · Answer

Are you that desperate you have to find "easy prey"? Is that why you are asking such an offensive question? No, larger ladies are not easier and shame on you for asking this.

Mustachekitteh · Answer

Well that's not very nice. Taking advantage of women that are fat. If anything I would think they would be harder. Since they would be more paranoid about how their body looks to others.

zorro8888 · Answer

It comes down to their own sense of morality/standards, not their body size.

Supergirl0812 · Answer

I always hear that too, I've heard that a good looking guy can easily get a bigger girl because she will feel like no one this good looking will want her? Not sure if it's true but I have a bigger girlfriend who says it's true and it's happened to her

Dulcedulcexoxo · Answer

No, I think larger women if they seem "easy" are just putting the BS aside that most women play. They want release just like you want release, I think bigger women know what they want. Now, dating a bigger woman would be hard, she knows the BS and how mean men are, so she won't just be a " f*ck buddy". And a man can't sleep with a woman he isn't remotely attracted to, sooo...

dominiquois · Answer

NO. Some of them are harder to get than thinner women because they don't want to be humiliated.  The ones that have no self-respect or self-esteem are easy to get.

AhGojira · Answer

Have you ever been cock blocked by a jealous fat friend? lol They can be bitter jealous witches. They can also be the nicest people in the world... It depends on the person.

xslope · Answer

Nope. All women are above average if you ask them. :)

ConsultantIsBack · Answer

That is the stereotype ya

genericname85 · Answer

i don´t agree to the term "easy" because everybody that wants sex with you is "easy" for you. i do think though, that overweight unattractive people tend to be more desparate than attractive people thus are more likely to agree to sex.