Should I tell my Wife about my super kinky sexual fantasy?

[Parzival]

For as long as I can remember, I've always been into the thought of watching my wife fuck/suck another guys with a larger cock. I'm a relatively confident, successful and highly education guy and feel in control of my life. Don't know where this all stems but I've noticed that it's an incresingly popular fantasy among the highly educated/succesful types. All I know is the thought of watching my wife having super hard-core porn sex with another guy with a huge cock turns me on like crazy. What I want to know is how you would girls react if your boyfriend/fiance/husband told you he was into this idea? Would you be judgemental? Would you oblige him in the fantasy in the bedroom? Want to hear about her past sexual experiences. Not sure how I should approach it. How would you react if your signifciant other wanted to hear about your past sexual experiences within the context of this fantasy? Would espcailly like to hear from girls on this.

[redeyemindtricks]

Okay, look, dude, so there's wife-sharing fantasies and there's wife-sharing fantasies.

It's totally possible for this sort of thing to happen with you still being the dominant one. If you'll excuse the crude analogy, if the dynamic is decently close to pimp/ho, then, sure, you're the one in power -- even if she's the one fucking some strange.

On the other end of the spectrum, you have this whole "cuckold fantasy" thing, where the dude gets off on feeling inferior/humiliated. In that scenario, whatever control the dude might have to exert to get his girl into the fantasy to start with, he'll exert only reluctantly... and he'll want to let go of that as soon as possible.

I've seen the first of these work a lot. The second almost never works, because, as soon as a woman actually DOES start seeing her man as "inferior", that's pretty much where the bell tolls for that relationship. Just doesn't last.

See, here, I'm afraid that you're leaning toward the second category -- the whole cuckold-fantasy thing, where you have this whole masochist thing going on.
Why do I think that? I think that because yr obsessed with this idea of a "huge cock". I mean literally obsessed -- I mean, come on, dude, you mentioned it at the start of BOTH paragraphs.

If you were approaching this from the dominant standpoint, and you just wanted to see yr woman get off in novel ways, then, that wouldn't be important to you -- and you sure as hell wouldn't slip it into the beginning of both paragraphs, like that.

So... yeah, this is probably the beginning of some cuckold thing. If you get into that, you might get yr rocks off for the moment, but, it will gain momentum and go off the rails pretty damn fast, and it will probably take yr marriage right along with it.

The only other explanation I've got for this cock fixation is that you might be bisexual. Are you?

[Parzival]

This is some sound reasoning. Yet, allow me to offer a third alternative thesis. I get the two you've laid out. But there is a third that is seldom ever discussed and if other guys sees this, and think at least some will agree. Not into the whole cuckold thing. This fantasy isn't quite that and it also isn't quite the pimp-ho dynamic. Here's what it is. I'll start by making a comparison to the show Billions. If you've watched the the new Showtime series, then it will make sense. In Billions, Paul Giamatti plays this super powerful prosecutor who puts Billionaire hedge fund managers away, and then later engages in masocistic fantasies w/ his wife. You also see this in the movie Sexy Beast. For whatever reason, people who tend to have a lot of power/control in their daily lives tend to develop these types of masocistic fantasies. It's an outlet to lose control for a bit. That's best way I can describe the dynamic here.

[Parzival]

Also, this fantasy it's the only thing I'm like into. People who have sexual fantasies don't just have one. My sexual appetites are just as wide as my appetites for food or music. Interestingly, this fantasy tends to intensify or take priority over others whenever I complete a major deal or execute a huge investment for some major gains. It really is related to the level of success/power/control I have in life. Then I'm also into just regular boring sex, sometimes I'm into ass, sometimes into hand jobs, ball busting etc. Again, my sexual appetites range. It's not just one thing. The point I'm making here is there is a third category with this whole wife-sharing fantasy thing. It's not always cuckold or pimp-ho dynamic. It's neither of these here. Cuckold does not appeal to me and neither does the pimp-ho dynamic. I don't try to assert my power in that way. Like not at all.

[redeyemindtricks]

I hear you, but, that still doesn't ring true with the big-cock-bull thing -- and, you stand a very real chance of losing yr wife, or at least permanently losing a large fraction of her respect. Look, dude, shit flows downhill and doesn't flow back up. A lot of dudes are fool enough to try pegging, or cuckold, "just that once", thinking that it can't hurt if it's just once... well, oh fuck yeah it can. A LOT of women -- I'd say most, even -- will forever be unable to see you as The Man in the relationship, if they've seen you (1) taking it in the ass, or (2) expressing ANY degree of appreciation for another man's "huge cock". It's even worse if there are overtones, and, sry dude, but, #2 there is soooo explicitly gay. Just tellin ya like it is. Again, there are different ways to present these things. I'm submissive to the core, and male submission literally makes me puke (yes, literally)... but, I can do the "prostate massage" thing, with a dude who (cont'd)

[redeyemindtricks]

... likes that. But, pegging? Nope, I'm done school's out lights off go home. Same thing with the wife sharing stuff. If you do that with the dominant vibe, then, sure, fine. Any "cuckold" vibes, or, God forbid, gay vibes? Oh heellllll no. Again, I'm done school's out lights off go home. Most women are neither as extreme nor as self-aware as me, but... if you do this "big cock" shit and then notice that yr marriage is oh so gradually slipping out of yr hands, don't say I didn't warn you. Really, you should think about why you started both paragraphs with that. Even for men who are into the masochism-as-catharsis thing, that is NOT NORMAL. One of my best girlfriends is actually a very highly paid domme, so, I have this on good authority. Some fantasies are better left as fantasies... or at least components of them, anyway.

[Parzival]

A few things. First, the gay card is an often overplayed hand. I'm as certain as it gets as to my sexuality and I'm a very progressive left-leaning thinker. In fact, I would love to be gay. If I were gay, life would be a lot simpler. So without delving too far into that, the only men who aren't secure or confident in their sexuality are conservative or traditional thinkers. I know exactly what I like and what gets me off and it's mostly women in yoga pants and sheer see through panties.. I like pussy way too much. So don't get too caught up with the whole gay thing. Most men into wife sharing aren't gay and don't have gay tendencies. It comes up too often.

[Parzival]

Second, I think you should look deeper into the wife-sharing fantasy and listen to what a guy is saying to you here. I'm using a moniker and zero reasons to lie. In fact, I feel perfectly safe here telling the truth and it's why I posted to begin with. The big cock thing either MAY or MAY NOT have to do with huniliation. For me, it has nothing to do with humiliation. In fact, with the wife sharing porn I do watch, it's often hard for me to get fully into Shane Diesel's cuckold porn because it's too focused or centralized on cuckolding/humiliation. Not into that. Here's what I am into and this is the best way I can describe it. The idea of my wife fucking a dude with a huge cock is more of a turn-on due to watching the "innocent wife" expanding her sexual horizons. And I've had this fantasy with other past girlfriends. It's more of a wanting to see my wife go crazy sexually than it is about huniliation. I'm dominate of a personality to get into the huniliation part.

[Parzival]

Third and most importantly. I was mostly wanting to hear opinions not on whether I would do it. In fact, I have zero intentions of taking this outside the bedroom fantasy. It's more about co-fantasizing. Like for example, having the wife tell me about past sexual experiences to spice up my imagination. Perhaps I didn't word it as well as I should have. Want I wanted to hear is how girls here would respond to their boyfriends/husbands if their bf/hubby came out and said: I have this wife sharing fantasy and want to hear about your past experiences. How would girls here respond to that is what I wanted to hear. Not on whenever I should go through with it. It's a fantasy... Some here have responded quite judgmentally which is unfortunate. I hope they're not that judgmental with their spouse. I know I'm not. Be open minded. You can't boil a person down to their sexual appetites anymore than you can boil them down for being into eating strawberries and liking Radiohead.

[Parzival]

Finally, you don't enough about our relationships to make judgment calls on how something may or may not impact our relationship. For example, in my case, we're both sexually experienced and met during our last year of college. We're both highly educated and have been together for 15-years. We have three kids, I'm an alpha-type and fairly successful. There are just so many things you don't know about our particular relationship to make judgment calls. I'm not saying this in negative way as if I'm offended or anything. Just making a clear factual assertion here. Nobody's relationship is that black and white. Some people may engage in this sort of thing and it could be awesome or it could be devastating. What I wanted to hear is how you (girls) would respond if your (girls) spouse shared this fantasy w/you and wanted to hear details of your sexual past. Last point: you really should do some g-searched and note now often "big cock" comes up w/n the context of wife sharing.

[redeyemindtricks]

Hah yeah, well, I don't know about the past-sexual-experiences thing. That might be loaded. She might be like me, and like talking about it (and I love hearing about all the women my husband's had, too). But... she might not want to go there. Instead, I'd just suggest exploring her fantasy world, in general, and seeing what's there. You might find a whole garden of delights, regardless of what she wants or doesn't want to actually do. Like, oh, well this one, of mine... -- In one of my recurring fantasies, I'm at a big trade show, with tens of thousands of people, and some-or-other "entertainment" act cancels at the last minute. So my husband offers me up. He negotiates some deal in secret, and then it's off I go. Eyes are bound shut, ears are plugged securely. I'm led away. I'm driven around in circles, knocked to the floor and kicked around until I lose all orientation. I could be a hundred miles from home. I could be in my own kitchen. (cont'd)

[redeyemindtricks]

I feel rough painted metal shoved under my waist. My husband's hands shove me over... a bike rack? Yes. He grabs my hair. I resist just a bit. I have a blinding orgasm as he backhands me across the face and yanks my hair all the way to the ground. My ass is in the air, my face inches from the ground, my feet inches from the ground on the other side of the rack. "Hands." I put them behind my back like a good girl. "HANDS!" His voice is enough to make me cum again. I go limp over the rack. My hands fall over my shoulders. He grabs my right wrist, wrenches it down, pulls out a bike lock, and locks my wrist and ankle to the rack. Then the left. He pauses to admire my left hand, with the ring I haven't taken off in 15 years. Oh shit... I'm the entertainment. All by myself. (contd)

[redeyemindtricks]

My blindfold catches in my hair a little and pulls up. I see out of the corner of my eye. The floor around me is littered with PVC pipes, baseball bats, broomsticks, unsanded 2x4's full of splinters, and rubber hoses. I recognize my husband's favorite welding torch. The sick fuck. And a bucket of motor oil. And some dental clamps. I can't spread my own holes... He thought of everything, didn't he. There are 20,000 men at this trade show. And there's me. And all those toys. My face flushes with desire, anger, and rushing blood. My husband shoves a clamp between my calves into my mouth. A loose wire slashes my bottom lip. I taste blood across my tongue and into my nose. I bite the clamp and he ratchets my throat wide open. "No teeth, slut." I heard him grinning. The metal made damn sure of that. He rips open my leggings, exposing my pussy and ass to thousands of frustrated, travel-worn businessmen. Showtime... xx

[redeyemindtricks]

See, I'm full of fantasies like that... yr wife might be, too. Would I enjoy being chained to a rack for five 12-hour days of fucking with whatever implements were at hand? Damn straight I would... but, the merest touch of another man's flesh would instantly kill it all, for me. Nope. Lights out. LOL I mean, at this point, we've got 16 years of trust built up. If he told me to fuck another man, I'd do it, even though it would shatter my soul and break my heart... because I'd TRUST that there was some larger scheme, there. But... that's a lifetime of trust, talking, there.

[findingdreamland]

That is not appealing for me. I would be very dissapointed if they suggested such thing. When I am with someone, i just want them. Other guys are not my interest. So i would be very upset. So depends on the girl.

[Jrizzy]

You need help dude that's messed up. Do her a favor and never suggest that ever.

[Parzival]

Judgmental much? People have their fantasy. This isn't an uncommon one. "Messed up" is a matter of perspective. Some guys like to suck on girls' boobs. I find that odd. But I'm not judgmental about it. To each their own.

[Mr2kinky]

My wife and I shared past sex details with on another and I also let her fuck and suck other guys while a watched and participated some!! It's so damn hot to me. I even still have pix m vids of her sucking and fucking other guys that I watch while I masturbate.

I watched shared wife porn with her and that's when we first did it. Seeing it in porm made us curious.

[Parzival]

It's an increasingly popular fantasy. Don't know why society is headed in this direction. You're even seeing it in pop culture now. For me it's just a fantasy. Probably wouldn't go further than just role playing in the bedroom or something. Well at least that's my mindset right now. Can't speak for future me.

[Mr2kinky]

Initially I was like hell no, will never happen. Eventually I got to where I rather her go fuck another guy before she comes home fuck me so she can share the details with me while we had sex... Made our sex so great.

[Mr2kinky]

Thanks buddy

[detlef]

"Eyes Wide Shut" is about this to some extent. Be careful. The thought is usually much hotter and less destructive than either the actions themselves, or even just the conversation. Once you hear and say those things you can't unring the bell.

That said, some couples do it (sharing the fantasies, considering making them real) and like it. I could not do it.

[cinderelli]

Instant breakup or file for divorce..

[Parzival]

Haha. Well thanks for the honesty.

[cinderelli]

No problem.. ✌

[Anonymous]

I wash my girlfriend do it it's very hot

[Anonymous]

I don't think most girls are into that kind of fantasy, but you can try mentioning it to her.