Why do all sex positions feel the same for me?

[Anonymous]

I've kind of accepted now (like a lot of women) that I can only reach orgasm through clitoral stimulation. My boyfriend always makes sure when we have sex that I come many times through foreplay etc. and I still really like penetrative sex because of the closeness I get with my boyfriend and I get turned on watching him. However, a lot of my friends who don't come through penetration say that they still like the physical sensation (they just don't climax.) For me, however, I just don't get that. My bf's penis size is average and we've tried most positions- all variations of missionary, spooning, doggy, cowgirl... but they all just feel the same to me- limited physical sensation. Does anyone else experience this and if so, what do you suggest to improve? NB. I still REALLY enjoy sex, don't think that. We have great foreplay and I come more times than he does. Penetrative sex is great to be close with my partner. However, I'm sure that if I had sex with someone I had no feelings for and just focused on physical sensation, it would suck.

[MrOracle]

My recommendation is this: have him learn to finger you by rubbing your G-spot. If you are laying on your back, he should, with his palm up, insert two fingers about 2 inches deep and curl his fingers upwards. If you are aroused, he should feel a hard/firm lump there that should feel fantastic for you when rubbed. It will probably feel really intense to you - maybe even "too much" at first - but if he can finger you to the point where you can orgasm regularly that way, and you're comfortable doing so, then you're most of the way there.

Assuming you get to that point, you can have sex in position where his penis rubs against your G-spot instead of his fingers, and it should still feel amazing for you.

I've done this with multiple women who rarely/never orgasmed during sex, and all of them eventually got to the point where they orgasmed regularly during sex - several were multi-orgasmic in fact. But the key was getting them used to g-spot orgasms in the first place, and the best way to do that is by fingering.

[Anonymous]

My guess is the way you are built, you don't get much in the way of g-spot stimulation. That's not the end of the world by any means - my partner does, but prefers general vaginal stimulation plus clitoral to focusing on the g-spot, its an alternate, not necessarily better erogenous area.

If your g-spot were a major focus for you, then the extent to which a given position pressured the front wall of your vagina would make more of a difference.

My partner sometimes does orgasm more easily in missionary without direct touching of her clit because in that position the base of my pelvis can rub it.

She has occasionally orgasmed without any clit stimulation too, but that's not some magic thing we pursue.

Most of the time, it's rear entry positions, with one of us directly rubbing her clit during penetrative sex. A good time is had by all.

[Rainie_]

Some guys are better at finding a girls g-spot than others and I guess some guys dicks are angled better? Best position in my experience to get to my g-spot through penetration is legs over his shoulders in missionary, or if I ride him and he fucks fast from below.
And also if you want to you can use your own fingers to stimulate yourself while he's fucking you, can work in doggy and spoon and cowgirl as well. Also in cowgirl you can pause for a minute and lean back a bit and play with your clit, should feel really amazing.

[SakuraCherryBlossoms]

Have you tried just fucking without doing the foreplay first? Maybe you'd feel more sensation if you didn't orgasm first. When I masturbate and just do clit play, when my orgasm comes the vaginal muscles still contract. So, maybe all the orgasms you had in foreplay made your V muscles work too much to get much pleasure from fucking.

[SarahsSummer]

I always O from riding him. Have you tried to have him hit your g spot? By riding, I can find the right angle but also, from missionary, Either a pillow under your bum, him arching back or both usually help hit it for me

[Jack_S]

Im sure youve tried, but If your boyfriend is fit or lanky, get him to focus on grinding against your pelvis. Guys forget this can be pleasuring for the woman because we get so caught up in the strokes

[Sultanhurrem]

Amazon kneeling position is the best position