Is it bad to have a racial preference?

[Anonymous]

OK, so I only have this racial preference due to once ago I had a crush on a white guy (IM BLACK BTW) so I thought I had some white boy fetish just from that one guy. Anyway, that's changed now I'm at the end of freshmen year and I don't have any interest in white guys. I kinda do, but it feels wrong. For instance, NO white guys even like black girls, most think we're ghetto, hoes with every STD you can think of, or we're all dirty and don't take care of ourselves or have morals, or blame all our problems on the white race. I do none of these! So it's just really frustating for people to look at you and think of all those stereotypes. Plus it feels also many white guys are just such assholes towards some people like jeez. Or if they do like black girls they have non-black features ☹️ Which is sad, I mean I'm black but I somehow don't posses the typical black women feautures, big lips, broad nose, curvy thick body, I'm the opoosite 😂 But I find myself not attracted to white guys because of those reasons, so I was wondering does that make me prejudice, or am I just generalizing all white guys saying they're bad. I probably shouldn't care about the race of a person that I want to date and I don't! There's beauty in every race!! But I don't know why but I just see A LOT of hot white guys, and I see more wmbw couples and a lot of interracial couples in general and they're really cute. But yea. 😂

[BlueCoyote]

I don't see why having a racial preference would be a problem. Most people have a preference when it comes to height, weight, hair color, social class, biological sex (unless they're bisexual), political views, and a thousand other things. Nobody ever thought this is a problem. So why should a racial preference be a problem?
Also, having a racial preference doesn't mean to be racially exclusive. For example I've got a very strong preference for east Asian girls because I find them very hot. However, I've also had white girlfriends in the past and I had one very black girlfriend from Kenya. So preferring one specific race doesn't mean you can't be open-minded at the same time and see the person behind his/her ethnicity. It works just like with any other feature. You might have a preference for tall guys but if you're a decent girl, you will still try to see the personality of a guy and if you happen to meet a short guy who is just an awesome dude, you might still fall in love with him I presume. It's just like that with racial preferences as well. You can be into white guys and find them super hot as long as you keep an open mind and you're willing to still give a chance to other guys (regardless of who you eventually end up dating).

[Asker]

Well I think it has to do with race being a sensitive topic, like I think personally people are just attracted to certain features, that maybe they see one race possess more than another so they date that race more and just come to the conclusion that that's the race they wanna date. If any of that made sense.

[BlueCoyote]

Yes, exactly. Having a race-preference and being racist has nothing to do with one another. I understand that race is a very touchy topic in America (not really here in Europe) but that doesn't mean people should get overly politically correct about it. Political correctness doesn't make the issue better, it just hinds it behind a veal of politeness. Sometimes I feel like there's too much political correctness in American society and too little actual fighting against racism. Anyway, the difference is that when you are racist, you've got prejudices about people of a certain ethnicity or you generalize them etc. I'll give you an example: I don't find Indian people attractive. All the Indian women I've seen so far were really not my thing. I just really don't like their look. Does that make me racist? Of course not! I don't have anything against Indian people as such. I don't have any problems with having Indian friends, colleagues, employers... you name it. I'm sure there are many

[BlueCoyote]

kind, smart, good-hearted Indian folks. I wouldn't treat an Indian person any different from any other person (that would be racist), I just happen to not like their physical appearance and I think it's not something anyone should apologize for. I'm sure there are non-white people who would find my physical appearance unappealing and I'm 100% okay with that. I'm not offended. Thank god not everyone is into the same kinda things ;-).

[NJ_Casanova]

No, it isn't bad to have a preference. Saying ewh, or putting another group down is wrong. You might run into someone of that race that you find sexy as hell and change your perspective.

I have black, white and latin - FWBs.

[sexyygirl08]

Every person has their own preference. It is completely normal for women and men to like the opposite race (Interracial relationships). Growing up I had a huge fetish for white guys like super super pale guys cause that's how the guys usually are in England (I'm white btw) and when I left to America after HS and met my boyfriend (who is tanned) I was so attracted to him. We stared out as friends but we were attracted to each other. So all I'm saying is that the fetish may be with you for the rest of your life and if those are the only kind of men that attract you, then you can't really do much about that. But just remember, just because you think you have a fetish ror a certain race doesn't mean you aren't attracted to other races (probably) hope I helped you xx

[Asker]

You did. But I don't want to be attracted to them cause I feel I have no chance with them, cause most don't like black girls. Based on my experience that's what I've deduced.

[tinyclit]

It's perfectly okay to have a preference. You like whatever features you like. Not much that can be done about that and not much should be done about that. You're fine as you are. However, you are generalizing and stereotyping pretty badly to the point of it becoming a prejudice. It's easy to do and needs to be guarded against.

[QuestionMan]

We all have our preferences, as long as you're happy that's all that matters.

[Aquarius90]

no it is not bad

[Yumix]

sure it's okay, we all have our preferences.

and many white guys are also in black girls, I personally am one of them. I don't care about skin colour. sure, maybe my type is more common with other races but it doesn't mean that I generally am not attracted to black girls.

[Zombie-Killa]

You are letting other things besides reality influence your way of thinking.

[jakeofalltrades]

no it isn't

[Dred1614]

Nothing wrong with it.

[Asker]

Wait you mean having a preference or generalizing all white guys?

[Dred1614]

Having a preference is perfectly acceptable.

[Anonymous]

The problem for white people is not dating a black or have sex, the problem is if they get a child. Then it will be more likely be be black /brown with Brown eyes. In the end, there will be less white people with blue/green/lighter eyes. Less variation.