How to cope with lack of sex in a long-distance relationship?

[Anonymous]

Hi! I've been in a committed relationship for about two and a half years now and have been long distance during the times that I'm away at college. We don't live too far from each other, so we get to see each other some weekends when neither of us is busy, but I'm starting to get a little bit restless. I love my boyfriend so much! But before him, I was never a relationship-type person. I was extremely promiscuous, but only because I have an extremely high libido. I want sex every single day for most of the day pretty much haha and when I was single, I was able to get it anytime I wanted. I would just send a little text and boom, sex was at my door, but now that I'm in a long-distance relationship, I don't get sex very often. When we're together, it's great and I love our sex life, it's just the distance and the lack of sex that I'm struggling with. I masturbate, I use toys, I sext my boyfriend, we talk on the phone, but lately it hasn't been enough. I feel like I'm going crazy and I really just want to be fucked hard, but I don't know what to do about it. Pleasing myself just isn't enough and I would never ever cheat, but I'd be lying if I said I didn't think about how easy it would be to just get a guy to come over and I miss having that freedom to be able to do so. Anyone have some advice for me?

[abramsdriver25]

This is a tough one. I was deployed to Iraq for 12 months and at the time, I was newly married. We used Skype as much as we were able to but the nature of being over there didn't allow that to happen frequently. I was going to suggest toys and home made videos of you guys or if you're both ok with it, porn. But it seems you need more than that. Is your boyfriend opposed to having an open relationship while you two are separated? Obviously you both would lay down ground rules as to what is and isn't aloud. That's about the only thing I can think of. No matter what, always be completely honest with him though. That is the only way it can work.

[AustinMan]

Can you meet halfway at a motel for a few hours of the hot, nasty, and I'm guessing rough and kinky sex that satisfies?

[heywat]

When I get this way I head to the adult sex store to get a new toy. Sometimes it means trying a new stimulating lube or a vibrator. Get a few movies

[OmaiBakaDayo]

op is a man. 80% liklihood.

[Asker]

100% female haha

[Joc4Position]

Maybe monogamous relationships aren't for you. You sound miserable. Don't place that burden on yourself.

[Asker]

Polygamy doesn't even sound freaky to me tbh.

[Joc4Position]

I didn't say it was freaky. I just said if you don't like being in a monogamous relationship or if you need sex a lot and the guy isn't giving it to you then why are you still in such relationship? Make no sense.

[johnmsk]

Two or three way I see as options for you :
1. Convince boyfriend for an open relationship so u can hv casual no string sex when u want it. He can hv it too with others.
2. get rid of him and be single and enjoy sex life that fulfil you and fulfil yr desire and urges
3. Would sex toys with phonesex or cybeesex help?

[Prince_teddy4u]

in my opinion or Skype or any other video sex calling

[masterkamasutra]

being practical, before it become big frustration, shout it out or get a dick for you, you sounds you need it so much.

[Dantheman101]

Lots of delve pleasure or you got to end it

[Anonymous]

Asking him for an open relationship

[Anonymous]

Well, you either have to cope with it or break it off. Personally I don't see why you should break off if you're seeing each other in the weekends though. There are other LDR couples who see each other much more rare than that.

Have you tried webcamming? Can be a great way to alleviate some tension and to watch each other, much better than sexting.