I dont mind him watching porn but it upsets me when he searches for naked pictures of a specific girl in this tv series he occasionally watches?

[Lmninetyseven]

I only see my boyfriend at weekends and we have been going out for 2 years. When im not with him he watches porn, this used to upset me because he was getting off to other girls but i understand now that they are insignificant and he's only watching it to help him get hard alone. But recently i found out that he has been searching for pictures of a specific girl from a tv series and looking for nude pictures of her. This has really upset me because she obviously isn't just an insignificant girl to get him hard, he obviously really likes her and she looks like me but when i first met him. Since then i have put on a little bit more weight but he says he prefers me this way (its also his fault I've put on the weight because he makes me eat junk food when he eats it because he wanted to put on weight in order to bulk up) i liked the way i was before but he said i was too skinny but now i feel horrible, he says i look better this way so that made me feel a bit better and i was starting to get used to my new size but now that I've found out he likes this girl who is the same size i was before and is better looking than me i feel so horrible and dont want to eat. I have never ever had an eating disorder and i was never anorexic (only thin/athletic) but now I am more curvy and feel like starving myself. I don't know what to do because i really hate my body right now. Im a size 10-12(UK) and used to be 6-8 (UK). I dont want to say anything to him because if i do he will just say shut up and stop being stupid but it is really bothering me because he said he liked me like this but then he clearly liked the old me better if he's looking at a girl that looks the way i used to. What if he leaves me for someone thinner now that he has bulked up and i'm just chubby and plain.

[AdamThomas]

It's no big deal, it's just the same as porn. She just has a look that he likes. When he watches porn most likely he'll watch certain pornstars over others. It says nothing about his attraction to you.

As for the rest, he didn't make you eat crap, you chose to eat it. When I was losing weight and everybody around me was eating pizza, trying hard to convince me to join them and go out drinking, I just said no and stuck to the plan. Why not just work to lose the weight? Most likely you have nothing to worry about and he won't leave you, but being slimmer will help your confidence in the same way him being bulkier helps his.

[genericname85]

he doesn´t like you less, just because he likes to look at nudes of some specific celebrity... i mean most people have a favourite pornstar to look at too but that doesn´t mean that they feel anything for them or that they feel any less for their SO because of it.

[popsickle]

i never understood why western men are so possessive of porn, like its a necessity when you have a relationship and that there's something wrong with a girl who is getting insecure by it. different if both watch it together or if both are cool with it but it seems normal and understandable to be upset if he is so particular and its something u are not in a monogamous relationship. do u think u can overcome the insecurity u feel or do u think it will be too hard? be honest with urself.

[vonasaurus]

uh, she's a celebrity and therefore unattainable/just spank-bank material for when he's alone. it's not like he's going to do anything with her.

also, size 10-12 is nowhere near chubby. you are insecure and should probably get help for your issues. that said, if he truly can't appreciate you with some extra cushion, then he doesn't deserve you.

[Katie384738]

I wouldn't be with a man who did that period. People can make excuses and say she's not real or whatever else but that's nonsense. A good man shouldn't be looking at anyone except his girlfriend for sexual pleasures.

[OlderAndWiser]

The problem is not the porn but your insecurity about your attractiveness to him. "He makes me eat junk food." How does he force you to do that? Does he threaten to beat, stab, shoot you? If you accede to his pressure to do things that make you uncomfortable, then you are the problem. Take control of your body and make yourself what you want to be. If he doesn't want you the way that you want to be, then it is time to reassess the viability o your relationship.

[Jayded1]

Dear god no. I want to see every girl naked. Its not liek I want to fap to them, I just want to see, curious.

[orphan]

find a real problem to gripe about

[Dr_F0X]

just be sure if any thing happen at any time you can back to your own way again

[Ialexwonderful]

let him alone, let man do what he wants

[Dantheman101]

Tell him not us that's he disrespected you

[Anonymous]

dump him it's a perv and a disgusting horny dogs that don't care about you and your feelings at all

[Anonymous]

I'm headed straight for the castle, straight for the castle