Guys, Do you think fat women are worthless or unattractive? Please be honest?

I'm a fat girl, well obese to put it. I am losing weight (50 lbs down) but I've always seen people say that fat women are disgusting, worthless and don't deserve love. I have been losing weight because I want to be loved, don't want to be worthless and it's obvious that a lot of men don't find fat attractive. I know I'll be skinny again soon because I'm tired of being like this. I'm just tired of men lying saying that weight doesn't matter or that they would date one, when they never will. So, do you really think fat women are unattractive, worthless, disgusting or their weight defines who they are. It'd be nice to have honest opinions. Thank you!
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  • Worthless, no. Unattractive, to me, yes.

    Its not a matter of me being shallow, rather, its a preference borne solely of health concerns and lifestyle choices. I'm a fitness trainer and though I have the face of a troll, I'm pretty damn healthy (aside from the monthly cigar and beer). I'm also a worry-wort and I tend to worry the most over those I care about, relationships obviously included. And I'd rather not get into a relationship with someone that doesn't treat their personal health as a matter of concern -- I'm NOT saying you are that type of person because you're actively losing weight.

    Bravo and keep it up! Words cannot describe how happy for you I am! Few people make the decision to get healthy and fewer stick by it!

    Fat in and of itself is not unattractive. A six-pack and a toned body, likewise to me, is not attractive. Anyone can get to either state given time, the right diet, and the right exercise level.

    But treating your body like a machine you intend to run for the next 60-70 odd years (i. e. with respect) is HIGHLY ATTRACTIVE. Learning to make a habit out of basic physical fitness is highly attractive. Working towards some sort of goal, physical or otherwise, is highly attractive.

    But you wanna know what's even more attractive than all of that? Self-confidence and self-awareness. You have the self-awareness that you should lose the weight you feel is unhealthy and you're self-confident enough to shove off another's opinion. No one's opinion of yourself is more important than your own. No one's... not mine and certainly not some jerk's that called you "worthless."

    You are the master of your own fate and you are damn attractive because of it. Don't let anyone, ANYONE tell you any different.

  • worthless of course not but attractiveness depends on the person but in general it shows ( to me ) lack of self respect or love or what ever you want to put it, it hard to say it without being a little tough but i mean even you say you dont feel good being like that. when you work on yourself and love yourself and take care of yourself you will apreciate who you are and would worry less about what people think because you know youve done everything for yourself. plus after you get to a good body weight you yourself will feel happier and just diferent
    . hoped i help a little lol
    -good luck-

    • No you weren't tough at all. Thank you!

    • no prob hope everythign works out :D

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  • There are men out there who have a fetish for every body type. There are a lot more who fetishize for a firm body so you're headed in the right direction.

    The thing is that unless you get some therapy to go with it, you'll just be a very insecure curvy girl. You need to change what's on the inside as well. Godspeed!

  • I won't speak for other guys, but I can speak for myself.

    Read the MHO for the following question:
    www.girlsaskguys.com/.../q1369566-guys-do-you-care-about-a-girls-weight

  • Well i personally think that those that don't take careful hygiene are disgusting but that could be said for anyone...
    now to your question, im African... we LOVE bigger women... maybe not me personally but its still in the genes lol. so worthless and don't deserve love? hell no... they deserve all the love, (cuz they got a lot go give back ;) get it? )
    I mean... there is a difference between chubby, chunky and fat... i mean if you have 3 chins and can't see your feet... yea... you might be pushing it a bit..

  • " I'm just tired of men lying saying that weight doesn't matter or that they would date one, when they never will. "

    You wouldn't believe us even if we did.

    But if it helps any I'm a fatty too, and I've been alone a very long time cause this is a two way street.

  • If you are "tired of men lying saying that weight doesn't matter or that they would date one", doesn't it mean you know the answer to your question? If so, why ask, "do you really think fat women are unattractive, worthless, disgusting"?

  • unattractive? Yes.
    Sorry. It is the truth.
    The same thing is true for over weight guys. Unless he has a lot of money or something else to offer, fat guys are just as unloved, because women do not find our fat bodies attractive either.

    Disgusting, worthless, and undeserving of love? No, no, and no. The only fat people I think are disgusting are those who seem to glorify in their weight. No one is worthless, and everyone deserves love.

    Yeah. I'm a big guy. No woman wants me as I am. I am not going to sugar coat things. Overweight is not appeal, and the more one is, the more unattractive it is.
    Weight does not define who we are, but while everyone deserves to be loved, the people who love us deserve to have their needs met to. Until I lose some weight, and can look appealing to women, I'm not even going to try to get their attention. I recognize that my weight makes me undesirable, and I have decided to not be offended by that.

  • My parents are big. I've gotten semi-big, but am working to burn it off. But I'm still attracted to big women sometimes. Even while I have crushes on thin women and curvy women. Go figure.

    Best of luck!!!

  • I don't think they are worthless or disgusting or that their weight defines them. I just think they are unattractive. I am not going to treat her like shit, I am just not interested in having sex with her. I am not going to treat her differently than anybody else.

  • First off, your weight NEVER makes you worthless... weight goes up and down, skin wrinkles hair turn gray with age.

    What do you consider obese? Some guys like BIG girls... and Ironically it's usually small/skinny guys. If your losing weight, just focus on you and strengthening your self image. The only thing that can make you Ugly is your attitude and how you treat others. I personally have a wide range of girls I find attractive. My girls range from (melanie iglesias size to Kim K/sunny Leone/alexis texas size) You sound like a beautiful girl and some guy will see it too.

  • Weight doesn't define a person. Overweight/obese women are not disgusting or worthless and they deserve love as much as any other person.

    I'll be honest and a person's weight will affect how attracted I am to them. I am more attracted to women that are physically fit (but not anoxeric). That said, that does not make any woman that isn't what I would call fit worthless.

    Any guy that says a woman is worthless because she doesn't turn him on is a total sh! t.

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