Girlfriend wants to use a vibrator. Should I be offended?

I'm having conflicting feelings about my girlfriend wanting to use a vibrator. I'm not a huge guy (5inches long and circ) and I can't get her to orgasm through penetration, however I can make her cum with oral in a heartbeat. What should I do?
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  • I'm not sure why you would be offended by that. A lot of people use sex toys in the bedroom. It's not because their partner can't satisfy them, the sex toys just add some spice to it and can make things more exciting. So what should you do? Offer to use the vibrator on her. That would kind of give you control over her orgasm, it could be fun. :)

    • nah.

    • I totally agree with this opinion. So I won;t repeat it. :-)

  • Nah, it's not offensive. My boyfriend's pretty big and he can get me off, but I still enjoy using toys, he enjoys it too. It was actually his idea, I was opposed to it, but it's really fun. Not much different to using handcuffs or a blindfold or whatever.

  • No, and I'm not sure why you would be offended by that. You could eveb use it on her.
    My guy actually bought me a dildo and he uses it on me sometimes before giving me the real thing 😈
    It's fun and we both enjoy it!

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  • Talk to her openly about your feelings and communicate with her honestly and see what she says!

    If what she says is more offensive, I say let her have that relationship with the vibrator instead, because she would be getting pretty bored of it soon.

  • Not a bit as long as she'll give you control of it! We have a really high en one that we both love, her for its effects and me for the control.

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  • NOT at all, my boyfriend really enjoy when we bring toys into the bedroom, vibrator just makes orgasms more intense, clitoral stimulation is more balanced and you can still be having sex with her. Just have fun

  • Don't be offended. Let her use her toys. They will enhance, not detract, from the experience for her. Keep up the nice oral work too. Oral sex is best! :)

  • masturbation is normal, even in relationships. sex toys are normal for girls to want. don't feel so threatened.
    you can use it on her clit while having sex, or play together in other ways.

  • If you can make her cum via oral, then it isn't the length. Your penis is still longer than your tongue!

    That said, if it makes her happy, go for it.

  • You should do more licking until she reaches orgasm. Contrary to what guys believe very few women reach orgasm through penetration. Maybe 20%

  • you should give more oral

  • Uh no... not even remotely offended. She wants pleasure. Give it to her however she needs it.

  • Don't worry.
    She is not replacing you. And you didn't do anything wrong. Women need something more than men can give. This is not about size. It is about a way stimulating thing that can't be done with penetration.

    Don't let it bother you. Just have fun with it.

  • Nothing. Let her use her vibrator.

  • I would not care as long as I can watch and she gets off then let me fuck her and fill her pussy with cum

  • So many girls use sex toys in the bedroom, and its not cos they're not satisfied with their lover they just wanna try new stuff

  • Relax. Both of you should use whatever works for you.
    A vibrator is also a great way for her to get release when you are not around.

  • Let her use her vibrator on her pussy if she lets you fuck her ass.

  • No you shouldn't lol, there is nothing wrong with that you aren't being replaced.

  • I see no problem with that honesty it can make your time alone more fun.

  • I introduced vibrators into our bedroom... she doesn't have an interest though. But it isn't unusual.

  • Unless she wants the rubber schlong attached to the vibrator you're still in good waters. She wants to experience you and finish. Since from what you've described she only gets that sweet O-face with a flick of the bean. Two birds one stone if you will, since yo (and everyone else for that matter) sweet summer sausage ain't packin' a button clicker; if you catch my drift ;)

  • Only 25% of women can consistently come from vaginal penetration...

    www.psychologytoday.com/.../the-most-important-sexual-statistic

    Especially since most guys thing it's thrust thrust, not thrust in/grind on her clit. So, don't worry about it.

  • Hey at least it isn't another guy.

    Don't be offended.

  • no reason to be offended unless your dick can vibrate too

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