Should I ignore him or call him out on his shit?

Anonymous

We've been hooking up for a month and a half and I lost my virginity to him. He wanted to hangout on his birthday and says all this cute stuff when were together and then he was too tired/drunk so he said we'd celebrate this weekend and he never reached out and spent the whole weekend with this random girl and posted it all over snapchat. Then today I looked a post in a group we're in together and immediately after that he commented on his own post saying him and this chick were taking there dogs to the dog park together. It's a huge slap in the face and fuck you to me or at least that's how I see it. Should I ignore him or tell him he's being awful to me?

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bomba78 Xper 7
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well, if you are supposed to be a couple, you HAVE to call him out on his shit.
Are you going to keep quiet, while he openly disses and disrespects you? fuck that.
My best guess is, he wants to break up and doesn't have the balls to do it, so he is just blatantly acting like a dick, so you do it for him
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- Asker
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  we aren't necessarily a couple.. we've been hooking up for over a month and decided we're friends with benefits which is okay... but its hella disrespectful to say we'll hangout and then never follow through and to post ab the over girls you're seeing and then to rub it in my face when i try to reach out. even if we're just friends its still really fucked up. I just don't know if i should just never speak to him again or try and reach out and tell him he fucked up and hurt me
- bomba78
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  ahhh the plot thickens... you are not a couple, you are fuck buddies, you have no agreement of being exclusive whatsoverer... Of course it is shitty to not follow up on a "friend" but let's be real, he got what he wanted from you, no strings attached, and now if slipping you the bill. Maybe he digs this chick more than you. Who knows. There is nothing stopping you from going on dates with other people, so go out. Ignore the idiot and next time, be clear with the next dude about what you actually want (meaning, exclusive or not, date others or not, etc) If I where you, I'd send this one a last "fuck you" message and be done with it.

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bestadviceguy Xper 6
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I'm curious what if you had not looked up in the group and not seen the photos.

So he did change his mind and not select you to be with him during his birthday.

It's your choice next time he wants to have sex.

I would just move on. But I understand you gave your virginity to him.
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- Asker
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  he hasn't talked to me since Thursday night, aka his birthday... I just want to basically ask him how he has such an easy time forgetting about the friends he already has when something new comes along but I don't know how to I just find it really offensive that he would treat a "friend" let alone a friend that you hook up with and have been hooking up with for a month and a half like this when you all the sudden find someone you like better.. like at least give me the respect and courtesy that I deserve to tell me that you don't want to hangout again
- bestadviceguy
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  I completely agree. I'm like you, I want to know where I stand and he's giving you mixed signals or bad information (unclear intentions). Sorry you're hurting.
- Asker
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  it just sucks cause i don't think there is anything i can do about this situation or say to him that would make him acknowledge that he's been a dick or just leave me alone and stop flaunting this girl in my face
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- bestadviceguy
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  That's right. You can't change him but you can change you. Are there no other choices for guys? Surely you can find another. You sound great!!
- Asker
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  I guess thats true. I just seem to find guys who are all the same in this aspect
- bestadviceguy
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  What do you mean? Sex only?
- Asker
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  well a few things i guess 1) they only seem interested until you hook up even if you wait for a while 2) they're always interested in other people, sometimes my best friends 3) its never consistent 4) I usually end up hurt even if its a casual friends thing bc friends should still talk to friends
- Asker
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  also a little more sad that he has an adorable little puppy and I don't get to see him anymore :(
- bestadviceguy
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  I'm sorry to hear that. You were really specific and I understand now. I understand too the hurt of being picked over for others, friends, and it sounds like this has happened to you several times, yes. Any chance we can be friends or do you want only Anon?
- Asker
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  how do you do that?
- bestadviceguy
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  You would have to follow me and not be Anon so we can private message. So we can write more...
- Asker
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  i followed you
Anonymous
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Yea that's super rude. Even if he didn't do anything with her it's still rude. And you need to tell him.
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- Asker
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  what do i say?
- Opinion Owner
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  jus tell him how u feel. That your pissed off that you were to tired to hang out with me but then you go to the dog park and hanging with this other girl.
- Asker
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  i just don't think i can say that bc technically we aren't dating and its been more than just a day its been like 6

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PizzaPrincess Xper 7
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Always call people out on their shit.
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  but how do i do it? we haven't talked since his birthday when he told me we would hangout and he told me how great and pretty and lucky he was to have me... but now he doesn't talk to me :(