Why do girls hate virgin guys so much?

[Anonymous]

When I told my first girlfriend I was a virgin, she was shocked. We were getting very intimate in bed for the first time. We took all our clothes off and I told her. It almost killed the mood. She was like "Why? You're not ugly." And I couldn't think of an answer to give her. Honestly, I did not have much dating experience prior to her at all. We were in our early 20s at the time, and we had been dating for only a couple months. After she calmed down from her freak-out, she convinced me that she should go on birth control and lose it without the condom and wait 5 days. So we just fooled around and did oral (first time with a girl). 5 days later she said, "I think we should see other people. I can't handle this responsibility of sleeping with and dating a virgin." It was devastating. I made sure to keep quiet about my virginity to the next girl who actually took it a couple years later. I didn't form a relationship with that girl in the end. To this day I wish I would've told my girlfriend the reason I was still a virgin was because I am extremely picky, and she was the first girl to ever meet my criteria to give my virginity to (which is semi-true). I haven't been in a serious relationship ever since. Why do girls hate virgins?

[GingerGuy]

I think for some women, they get it in their heads sometimes (to the point they expect it) that guys have more experience then they do and therefor can teach them things and/or want them to. Or maybe she was experienced and didn't want a virgin thinking you'll cum too fast? This was a pretty extreme reaction from her in my opinion and a ridiculous reason to break it off. She obviously doesn't care much about you to end it over this. Find a girlfriend that is really into you for you. Then tell her. You don't want to keep secrets (they will break up with you for that to) so just be sure she really wants you for you.

[DrGtheMD]

The word isn't "hate." If we could interpret the word dumbfounded that would be the answer. Girls expect the guy to be experienced because society portrays the male as the aggressor so the assumption is that the guy is the least likely of the pad to be a virgin. When reality hits, they are dumbfounded

[Asker]

I think you're right. She did like me when we first met and dated for a while when I just showed her my tough cool guy side. But when I told her I was a virgin she was shocked. At one point she told me that she wanted to know everything about me and she'd accept me regardless; maybe I told her too much that she didn't need to know. I don't know. This was many years ago and it still bugs me to this day.

[DrGtheMD]

You are letting her live in your head rent-free. I say screw it

[Checkers82]

Eh I could understand it. I wouldn't throw someone I cared about it away but I know for me I would worry that I would be a terrible first time experience. I was someone's first kiss and I feel horribly guilty about that, even though they say they loved it because a little part of my brain says "Maybe I pressured him into it?" or "He probably hated it and I have ruined something that's meant to be a great memory."

[usernameidgaf]

lots of girls want a dominant guy and not being experienced doesn't really mesh well with that, but at the same time i don't think that breaking up was the right answer as it wouldn't be a problem for long.

[itsallover]

I do not hate men who are virgins, I have no problem with them. What I do hate is virgin men who believe they are entitled to sex, and become bitter and angry about the fact that they haven't lost it yet.

[This_is_my_username]

where did this come from?

A guy being a virgin is hot in my opinion

[Asker]

Read my story. My girlfriend dumped me because I was one.

[LukeReason]

i'm 28 and still a virgin

[DasVoz]

Certain girls do not prefer virgins, but when you dig deeper you realize that these types of girls are either delusional dreamers or completely incompatible in terms of lifestyle and attitude.

In other words, don't worry about it. You're not missing much. Virginity only matters in instances that don't matter.

[lumos]

Lol, you think that is hateful? You have a skewed perception of what hate actually is.

[Asker]

Breaking up with someone for something superficial like that is cruel and hateful to me.

[lumos]

She said it's too much responsibility, not "ew virgin guys fucking suck".

[Asker]

She broke up with me right when her birth control pills kicked in, on the very day we planned on having sex the first time. It was very mean spirited to build me up like that just to take it away from me.

[lumos]

There are no guarantees in life.

[dvegef]

Please check up what happens with a womans's sexual preferences when she is on birth control pills. "... while women are usually attracted to the scent of men who are genetically different from them, women on the Pill are attracted to the scent of men who are more genetically similar." Also take into consideration that it can be scary for a girl to take command in bed. (You can blame the gender roles for that). Would you really have preferred that this girl would have forced herself to have sex with you? Then what? Should she also have forced herself to have a relationship with you? Sooner or later you would have been hurt. Everybody gets burned sooner or later and when it happens it HURTS (like hell). It is understandable that you got sad, angry and depressed, but for your own sake you need to let it go and move on. You would also be happier if you decided to see people as humans, not only as males or females, long or short, red or blue etcetera. [english is my 2nd language]

[Offthelist]

Honestly virgins are really attractive in my eyes. Theyre still pure.. well as much as a guy can be, and i feel itd be more special being his first.

[dvegef]

Purity talk is sex shaming and sex shaming does more harm than good. Having sex for the first time is like riding a bike for the first time: it is quite non-funny and you only want to learn, then the fun begins.

[jaxxten]

They really don't in general. i was a virgin with my current girlfriend. first time we had sex, she said to me she was afraid i was a virgin, but after our lovemaking, she was convinced i was experienced and really good.
2nd time we did it, afterwards i told her 'last week was my first time ever'
she was shocked, told me i was incredible, and hoped that i stayed with her forever.
I have been given several remarks by her that if i ever become unemployed, i could make big bank being a pornstar.

[Troyana123]

Hate the virgins guys? Ahaha I'm virgin :p but I but love kiss the people haha and dance someday I will have with my future boyfriend and be virgin not is bad all my people loves me and I loves they

[RedThread]

Because y'all smell bad.

[Scrambledagain]

Always lie to women!! That's how guys get laid. Don't say you are a virgin. You have had several relationships in the past. Nobody can prove shit.

[Asker]

Sounds good. I'm mostly a teller of white lies here and there, but I never felt good about it. How extreme should the lies go (as long as they are believable of course)?

[Scrambledagain]

As extreme as the situation dictates. There's no rules. All's fair in love n war. Just don't be one of those dudes who overtly lie. Like you this thin, untrained man and you say you do MMA or something like that. The best are half truths, something that is kinda true, but not.

[Asker]

I get ya. One thing I learned about lying is that once you lie, you gotta remember that lie and stick with it. Otherwise the other person will catch you saying something contradictory and your cover is blown.

[Decentguy]

im a virgin but i never experienced hate towards me because of being a virgin,

[Asker]

You might not experience hate, but you're subject to ridicule. How many people have you told?

[Decentguy]

ahan, i told a lot of people.

[Tiffanymax]

BS i like to take guys virginity lol

[Asker]

That's nice, but you must be a one-of-a-kind exception.

[Tiffanymax]

No there are many girls like me

[Asker]

But why would my exgirlfriend treat me like that? Did I throw it away for nothing?

[Tiffanymax]

Everyone is different. Don't over think this you'll be fine

[Anonymous]

It’s because they don’t realize how impossible it is for guys to get any sex, I’m only 22 and I don’t see a point bothering with it anymore because men and women hate guys who didn’t lose their virginity in high school or college

[Anonymous]

I don't hate them, I think virgin guys are cute.

[Anonymous]

My first two boyfriends were virgins, I was their first ;)

[Anonymous]

I am attracted to virgins ☺

[Anonymous]

If i were virgin i want to date a virgin guy too it's not a problem for me.

[Asker]

But if you're not a virgin, then what?

[Opinion Owner]

Still would date one

[Anonymous]

becuz i said so

[Anonymous]

I love virgins 💜

[Anonymous]

cause women can be beasts. well you chose that girl in the first place so you have some responsibility as well. you should choose a same minded religious wacko and not some loose bimbo. the later category is used to different things than what you offer... .

[Opinion Owner]

why didn't you use the picky line back then?