Congratulations you boyfriend is an introvert - sort of. He will always wear his armor. He will never show you his vulnerable side unless he has absolute trust in you. The kind you trust that can kill him the moment you fail.
Guys like that takes time. They don't fall in love easily but when they do, it's the deepest love you will ever get. They tend to take their time and spend it slow. There is no explosive or steamingly hot passion love. It's the gradual build up.
If you want a guy to connect with the look of the eye then this is not your guy. This guy is pure logic. You will never get what he is thinking. You can keep guessing but there won't be a connection. You have to use your brain and out think him, not your heart. It's like a chess game where two people just know what the other person will do.0 0 0 0Its weird, because he's quite an extrovert in life. I don't know if I am deserving of that trust because I have not felt deep "in love" feelings toward him and don't know if we will last. How can I get through to him? I want to see some hope.
If he is an extrovert and having that closed off feeling then don't touch him with a ten foot pole. He can be unstable. Extrovert people needs external stimulus like praises or words or expressions to be themselves. An introvert can be a loner and doesn't need assurance from other people, in fact, he can go for days without speaking to anyone and still be normal. A closed off introvert is normal but a closed off extrovert is problematic. For a normal guy, you just wait. He either comes out of his shell or he doesn't and you move on. It's not something you can do on your end.
Go into relationship counseling.
Assess after a period of time if he can come out of his shell. This may be a big project over the span of several girlfriends for him to learn.
I've seen this post several times in different flavors lately, maybe same person, but same answer. Girls often think like you do... what can I do to change him, make him feel and give me what I need. You can't do it anymore than you can pull a turtle out of its shell after it has retracted. He has to be coached out by processing his emotional blocks and pain and that will be some tears and years probably...0 0 0 0
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