Why Men Watch Porn and Look at Other Women
Okay. Let's take a major step back and try to not make this all about you, shall we? When a man engages in sex with a woman, it's a complicated affair, pun intended. He has to take into account her needs, boundaries, stated preferences, feelings and a host of other factors. All this before he even gets to the part about his needs and trying to achieve the closeness he seeks. You wouldn't have it any other way. You want a considerate, caring lover, no doubt.
When he watches porn, it's all about two things: fantasy and convenience. If you really, honestly expect him t never lust after another woman in his head, you sadly mistaken. He was a girl watcher when he found you and finding you, no matter how satisfying, doesn't kill that desire to look. There's an old saw that is absolutely true: when a guy's through looking, he's through. He is, to put a point on it, NEVER going to stop looking at other women. Nor do you want him to.
It's that sexual desire that's the engine of your intimate relationship. Nor do you stop looking at attractive men nor does he want you to for the same reason. That he looks at other women and porn says nothing about how he feels about you.
So porn is about him fantasizing. It's also where he likely finds new ideas to bring to your conjugal bed that you'll hopefully find very entertaining.
The other reason men watch porn is convenience. He doesn't have to take all those factors I mentioned into consideration. It's just him and his dick.
Bottom line: fear not!! Just relax and enjoy the man in your life and ignore the porn. Or better yet, offer to watch it with him. It makes a great warm up.
Married, have sex with my wife 1-2x a week, watch porn daily, masturbate to orgasm 3-4 times a week. I watch it as a stress relief as well as arousal and exploring fetishes that she isn't as GGG about. Sometimes I can use videos I've found to show her what I want to do with her and sometimes she gets aroused watching as well, but not as much. We have a pre-schooler and she takes up a lot of time and energy from both of us, but it impacts my wife more since I am working full time and she is part time and doing more at home and with our daughter.
Males have a natural urge for variety, and they are very visual. Porn is often their way of satisfying that urge. Like, a guy could have a beautiful, sexy girlfriend with blonde hair and big boobs, but he'd still like to watch some porn and check out the pretty Asian lady with tiny boobs. In other words, you can be the most beautiful, perfect, sexiest, best-in-bed woman in the world to him, but he will still have that urge for variety. It's in their DNA (spreading their seed and all of that). Wouldn't we much rather our guys indulge with some hypothetical women on porn than seeking it out with real live women? :-) It's only a problem when a man would choose porn over sex with a real live woman (most guys would definitely have the real thing). So since he's still having sex with you regularly, I don't think you have anything to worry about.
My husband doesn't watch porn, when we first got together he did. I used to find it in the history and he had videos on his phone too. After a while the subject of porn came up and he said he hadn't watched it for a long time now because he didn't feel right anymore. He says he still watched it with his ex's or me when we were together at first but now he's married and in love it doesn't turn him on and he feels wrong for watching it. Every time I've used his phone or our computer I've never found anything on there. We have sex as often as we can and im open to pretty much anything (with the exception of involving someone else) he wants to try. Maybe that's why?
People watch porn because it's so perfect and it's a way people could express their deepest darkest or even vanilla desires! So having sex is way better but sometimes you just want to watch someone getting fisted (because you probably can't see that in real life) lol hope this helped
Lol it did help! Thank you!
No problem girl ;D
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What's Your Opinion? Sign Up Now!Well you can't always be there every minute of everyday... every beckon call that his baloney pony engorges. So they gotta do what they gotta do plus if they don't empty out there fuel tank regularly he probably won't last as long leaving you unsatisfied with a jumbo sticky situation... key word here JUMBO.
My guess is his drive is fairly high or she's not around at that moment. It's probably supplementary and just fun.
In my relationship, it's to be a beast in bed.
He uses media and porn to get some new ideas and bring it into the bedroom. Besides what harm does porn do to you, basically there's a very very tiny risk that he ever sees one of the women from the screen in real life so to me idc.
Besides if he uses his tricks on me, i'm more thank ok with it.. ;)
Sometimes people are not looking for intimacy, don't want to risk rejection, or perhaps don't want to go through what can sometimes be a lengthy endeavor.
p. s. 4 times a week for many guys is not a lot.
When you said four times a week I thought to myself... What about the other three days and the moments in between.
We both work and go to college full time so it's little challenging!
I'm not judging you... however, that in and of itself is a reason for a guy to watch porn. Even couples who live together often find it difficult to link up their time schedules when it comes to sex, availability, or simply when they have an urge they want scratched. The perfect sex life is only theoretical. It's always going to have flaws and cracks. That's what porn is for when used in a healthy and constructive way... it's just a snack to tie you over until your next meal.
Mot guys get off once a day. So those days when the girlfriend isn't there, we have to go to porn, unless we had some pics of our girl, but some guys like to add some variety to their fantasy. It's not that they need someone else, but porn may inspire different scenarios the guy can play in his head.
If I had a live in girlfriend I probably would never watch porn, but I generally have active sex life in a relationship. If I didn't have that for whatever reason, then I would probably watch porn to get off every now and then. Solely because sex isn't going to happen soon enough for me.
When I had a girlfriend I tended to jerk off and watch porn less when we would fuck. Still watched it because I get horny. that simple
because they are getting sex regularly, threrefore horny more ofetn
Ohhhh okay that makes sense! Thanks!
I don't think that's correct because it's hard for some guys to get hard after climaxing... so guys are more horny when they have no sex at all...
@MahHa03 something a 19 year old would say.
I have no idea. If I had a girlfriend, I wouldn't need to watch porn.
Because porn is a drug, and just quitting it is extremely hard, even with a girlfriend. Most guys that watch porn are so hooked on it that they couldn't go 3 days of their miserable lives without watching it, trust me because I've experienced it myself.
in my opinion porn is poison and should never be brought into a relationship, but that's just my opinion...
she's not available, not in the mood, get new ideas, just to get quickly off, etc
When I was in a relationship I watched it because I was too afraid to tell my partner about some of my fetishes m. It had nothing to do with me not being attracted to her though
I like to watch porn, its a nice way to have a release, even if you're in a relationship!
May be he learning from it to apply on you?
I don't know, I only watch it when I'm single or not dating. If I have a girl I like in my life , I find no need to watch it. When I dont, I watch it a lot.
If I only saw her every few days then maybe I'd save my sexual energies for when I get to see her. But if we live together and I felt the urge I feel like I'd probably just rub one out instead of saving it. Maybe I just don't want to make it into a big thing. Maybe want to see some other interesting stuff. Maybe I want to focus on the fantasy element.
Women and porn are just different. You can't really compare them. Apples and oranges. Music and Movies and Books. They're just different.
Because we are wired to follow the herd and spread our seed.
girls can't pleasure guys these days
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