Why do so many teen girls have "crushes" on older men?

When I was in jr high & high school, nearly every girl had a crush on our Math and Science teachers. One was 24 yo & the other in his 40's. Both of them were extremely handsome and only the 40 yo was married. Today I was at the mall buying a new bikini and overheard 4 girls going on & on about older guys, especially how one of the girl's single dad was so "hot and a major hunk". I got curious so I followed them around til they went to the food court. I eavesdropped & it blew my mind the stuff they talked about. (From their conversation, Abby the 11yo is the one with the "hot" single dad, Juanita is 14 yo, Destiny is 13yo, & Heidi is almost 14yo.) I won't repeat what they asked Abby about her dad, but I was really shocked to hear the older ones go on & on about sexual stuff and what they hoped to do "if Teacher so and so or if girl X's older brother would like the sexy bikinis they bought?" Where I grew up in Decatur, GA, most teen girls might talk about a hot guy teacher, but when it came to dating, making out, and sex, we did it with guys our age or just out of high school. I live in CA now and from what I overheard, Juanita and Heidi both have had sex with guys over 20 yo & Destiny has had sex with a 40 yo guy that she baby sits for on a pretty regular basis. Seeing all these girls. I was tempted to believe this is all made up, except for the stuff they were telling Abby what they would do with her dad. WHAT IS OUR SOCIETY COMING TO? To me, it felt like this was just girls doing "who can make up the best lie", but based upon the clothes they bought and how they dressed, they were serious. Is this Society going back to the 1800's where 12 yo to 14yo girls were married to 30 to 50 yo men? Or is this just the Media's influence on teens that says we are to sexualizes ourselves to attract men, no matter what social mores used to be? I admit I was no teen saint or am now.
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  • Sounds like their making it all up just to seem cool or their either over-exaggerating the situation :P In my personal opinion, I think its all about who can lose their virginity the fastest and who can appear more "mature" at their age. Girls tend to go after older guys because their more experienced and they look more masculine than teenage guys. Not only that but a lot older guys (30s+) are a lot more mature than guys that are under 30.
    But as I said before; they are just SAYING that - nobody has ever caught them walking off to the closest bedroom with an older guy, they don't have proof that they have had sex with an older guy. Don't worry, a lot of girls my age always talk about having sex with older guys and I doubt they've actually done it - it's all talk :P

    • its not all talk.. not ALL of it anyway ;)

  • Those kids are fucked up in the head, and it's pretty creepy. Honestly I'm not surprise those chicks are that fucked up if they are from California.

    I guess it's all thanks to tv and glamming it up on how being with dudes in their 20's is awesome. Then those chick ignore how the women that get with the 20 year old are 20 themselves. So then they get lost in their sick fantasy and probably will try to act on it.

  • i have never known any but one. maybe its the type of people one gravitate towards?

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  • those girls are young and probably just talking, but that isn't a shock. I've seen that over the years where students go for their teachers. teachers are figure heads and can make quite an impression. It is easy for students to be attracted to a teacher, doesn't mean they are going to do something with them.

    In HS, there were teachers and students that "hooked" up both male and female teachers, one got fired. I know of a college professor that divorced his wife to marry a 20yr old student, 12yrs younger (lasted 2-3 years marriage).
    Why? They are role models, figure heads? Make an impression on young minds. appear more confident and stable and established and attractive than an immature person?

    • Lollillol yea I had a crush on my history teacher last year not a huge but I found him attractive he was like in he's 20's by the way

  • I didn't read anything but the headline but I can tell you that the maturity, dominance, and charisma of older men is very attractive to young, sexually submissive women.

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  • Older guys are more attractive sometimes. They have their life more sorted out and they don't have voice cracks and peach fuzz beards. It's super attractive especially if they are still athletic. I don't ever talk too much about it with friends, we just all mutually agree that they're hot. None of us think it's weird, either.

  • Please tell me where I can find these girls... so I can give them a lesson they will never forget...

  • Girls fall for us older guys because we are such good lovers! :)

    • my lawyer. *daps*

    • @orphan :) :) :)

    • thats so true

  • Girls are turned on by experience, the Unknown, fantasy... also because boys are usually shy whereas experienced men get right to it. Could be a lot to do with social taboos as well like to shows etc

  • Girls at that age talk a lot. It's just talk at the end of the day.

  • 12 is a bit young.. need some grass on that field before i can play ball.

    • by the way... don't believe everything you hear. sounds like an arena begging for lies just to 1 up their friends.

    • that is the way i feel... trying to out do each other

    • 13yo year old having sex w/ the father of who she babysits. typical fantasies.

  • Girls mature faster than boys, so I know that plays a big part in this. And Id be willing to bet a lot of girls never had a father in their lives.

  • This is media's influence as well as the availability of porn in the internet. combine that with feminism that promotes slut walks... Nobody is setting boundaries for these children.

    And, who the Fuck names their daughter Destiny. In four years she'll be stripping her way through college if she is lucky enough to get in

  • Too many teen guys too immature? 😗

  • Because older people are more mature

  • Daddy issues?

  • It is safe to fantasize about a older guy that is out of reach. Since it is highly improbably to actually lead to a relationship, they can fulfill the social expectation of liking guys, without the risk of actually having to start seeing guys.

  • I've never noticed... or at least I wasn't so lucky :(

    • Y would u want that doe?

    • @Tomboy_Cool What do you mean by that?

    • Y would u want a 12 year old to hav interest in u

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