Wife's Handjob for a Stranger; Grounds for Divorce?

[AllessioV]

After 7 years of marriage, my wife gave another guy a hand job. It happened in a limo ride from the church to the reception hall as many in the wedding party cheered her on. Unfortunately for my wife, her female cousin was in the limo & was NOT cheering, and as soon as they arrived at the reception, where I was dutifully waiting for me wife, her cousin ran up to me and said, "You need to speak to your wife. She did something that is definitely grounds for divorce." But she would not give me specifics and asked that I did not say anything, and she emphasized that, "You need to speak to your wife." Well, my wife ran up to us and said, "Don't listen to that, she's just kidding, nothing happened". I asked my wife later that night what had happened in the limo and "why was your cousin so adamant that something occurred?". She became angry and again denied anything happened. Long story short, her cousin later told me that my wife had had 3 glasses of wine, was flirting with this guy who she thought was "hotter than hell", and several people in the limo egged her on, saying, "Kiss him.. kiss him.. rub it.. rub it.. pull it out.. pull it out... make him cum, make him cum...". Basically, she jerked him off until he came. Several people later corroborated the event, but my wife simply will not admit it. Several years and children later, we are still married, and from time to time I bring it up, but she just won't go there. Was this cheating? Is it grounds for divorce after all of these years? We do love each other and we have a great sex life, but still, it's there. What would you do?

[Relentless_Hippie]

That was cheating, and no offense but she was a bitch for that. How tf can she do that on her way to your wedding reception? And especially with these "friends" invited to the wedding cheering it on. It's up to you to decide but obviously it's hurt you deeply if you're still bringing this up. Sometimes things like this don't ever heal properly and it is best to walk away. Who is to say she hasn't done anything afterward? Especially considering she was fine doing it the day of your wedding. I'm sorry but it wouldn't be me. I would've left her ass that same day. She proved herself an unworthy woman that night and I'm certain she's done much more after. You need to decide what to do for yourself but there's a lot of things I would like to call her that gag would have taken down in an instant. She's selfish and doesn't care about anyone who isn't her. Especially considering she doesn't even respect you enough to talk about it.

[Allessia]

thanks for your reply. To clarify, it was her sister's wedding and we had already been married for about 7 years or so. There were two other "suspected" incidents after that but no corroborated stories like this one, where besides her female cousin, 3 other people that were in the limo each corroborated the exact events. They called me a week or so after her sister's wedding, each independently. The other two "suspicions" were: 1) About 2 years after we had our first child, she just became annoyed with me, out of the blue, and decided to go away for a week to visit her mom, but, I found out she was not at her min's place 2) After 3 major surgeries I put on weight; I am normally 185-190lbs at 5'10", great physical shape, and after I had gained the weight she admitted to me that she was "disgusted" by my body and she would get uncharacteristically mad. She left one night, cane back nxt day, & said she spent the night in the car at a park. Don't think so

[Relentless_Hippie]

@Allessia I just saw your opinion about how you let another man rub is penis and balls against your vagina and then ejaculate between your butt cheeks. You talked about it like it was the best time of your life, not like you were remorseful. My goodness you're a terrible wife! And your ages make no sense. How have you been married for a total of 33 years and you guys are in your 20s? None of this makes any sense

[soupfairy]

I mean at the time that it happened it would have been grounds for a divorce, but if its been years I guess it wouldn't make sense to divorce now. My concern would be if she refuses to admit when she was caught red handed (person the pun) I would be afraid she has done worse as well

[JuicyCat04]

I simply wouldn't forgive a thing as small as an ass-grab. But that is just me. You gotta follow your heart and see what you want to do.

One thing is for sure: NEVER BE PHYSICALLY VIOLENT TO A GIRL!

[lightbulb27]

wow, amazing the stuff that goes on. so she was weak and bowed to social pressure.
yes grounds for divorce, but I'd think I'd try to go to counseling and work through that. Basically, she did something, is harboring it and it hurt you. You need to talk about it, she needs to forgive herself and you need to try and forgive her. Easier said than done I know. But if everything is going great right now, try to heal up and move forward.
The risk is this isn't the only incident so that's why it should go into cousneling. I don't think you can stop a woman from being interested in other guys anymore than she can stop you from looking at an attractive woman. But messing with them is another issue.

A part of being married is loving someone in spite of their flaws so hope you can work through it and be healthier in the end. My gut says she doesn't want to deal with it. Well, she needs to.

[Allessia]

thanks for the thoughtful reply.

[Pac-Man]

Your story makes no sense.

How can you already be married for 7 years and then your wife, who isn't your wife cause you two weren't married, jerked of a guy and you wanted a divorce, but again you weren't married cause it happened before the wedding. But the wedding happened recently, so you haven't been married for 7 years? So she didn't give the hand job after 7 years of marriage, so you can't get divorced cause you've already been married. And who the hell doesn't travel with his bride to the reception?
https://i.imgur.com/RZ0lo7x.gif
Man your question reeks of bullshit so badly that even I need a shower after reading.

[Allessia]

Read it again. It was her sister's wedding; my wife was in the wedding party.

[AllessioV]

OMG, how can you be so stupid. We had been married for about 7 years when this happened during her sister's wedding. Is that so difficult to understand? Jeez, I mean she jerked a guy off inna limo as they (the wedding party) drove from the church to the reception (it was her SISTER's wedding). I mean Jesus, this is not a complex story.

[SensualScribe]

It was seven years ago. If you were going to divorce her for it, you probably should have done so back then. Not saying you still shouldn't, but why now?

[redeyemindtricks]

it was a lot longer'n that... ahahahahha omg babe i just can't.

[SensualScribe]

@redeyemindtricks Oh wow... I just saw the link you posted... what the hell... seriously? No way... get over it already. Should have divorced her long ago!

[SarahsSummer]

According to his age here, he wasn't even born when it happened.

[SensualScribe]

@SarahsSummer Yeah, I saw that. He is either lying about his age or this whole thing.

[redeyemindtricks]

Yeah wut lol... Doesn't add up, literally (at the other link, he SHOULD say she's been lying for 26 years, not 33). That's not a mistake someone would make if he were real-world bitter. Ahahah internet cuckolds wtf? I swear, the only things missing are "He was, like, soooo black you could only see eyes, teeth, and insides of hands" and "he had a 12 inch cock, and she made me suck it [even though I wasn't there, but I forgot I said that]". ahaah I swear.

[SarahsSummer]

Who's wedding? And how many years ago did this happen?

[redeyemindtricks]

lmaoooo close yr eyes and bet on a number

then click this

www.girlsaskguys.com/.../q1213245-my-wife-masturbated-a-guy-when-we-were-married-for-7-years-during-a

[SarahsSummer]

@redeyemindtricks oh brother! What's the point of asking again now? He's already given her his approval by not leaving that day. This is either an excercise in wasting everybody's time or s way for this cuck

[SarahsSummer]

.. of a husband to get off by posting it.

[redeyemindtricks]

ikr? Too bad we can't post third party updates. "OH BY THE WAY THIS HAPPENED IN 1989, SUCKAZ"

[SarahsSummer]

@redeyemindtricks and he's listed as 25 years old. What a fuck wad.

[redeyemindtricks]

Hey, the prophet Muhammad married a 7-year-old... ANYTHING IS POSSIBLE. Who's to say he couldn't have gotten hitched at –8 and suffered such indignities at –1

[redeyemindtricks]

Positive ages are for wimps

[Intraluminal]

@redeyemindtricks LOL. He's a cuck wannabe.

[Lion0128]

That is cheating, and on top of it she won't admit it, I would leave her

[JuicyBrain]

There is no law that makes it mandatory to divorce or leave someone who cheated on you. You decided long ago that you would look past that momentary lapse of judgment. If you want a chance to be happy with her, you should put it behind you and forgive her once and for all. You will feel much better once you have done that.

[Allessia]

thanks, yes, that's the direction I'm leaning toward, although that memory just sticks with me. Probably will forever.

[JuicyBrain]

@Allessia Why did you use a male account?

[coachTanthony]

She sounds kind of kinky. You didn't know this side of her before you married her? How is this possible. I would embrace it as her being the kinky wild vixen that she is and that you love.. or kick my self in the pants for being an idiot that didn't see this before a wedding night. Either way I need a drink.

[Blondemaureen]

I think it’s a bit of an overreaction. She was drinking, having a good time. She sounds like a fun girl honestly. Maybe you should cut her some slack. We all slip up. Maybe you should just be happy you have a fun wife.

[JoeCensored]

At this point you need to let it go. If you were going to do something about it you should have done it at the time. You're just purposely damaging your marriage by bringing it up years later, which is irresponsible to do after having children in the meantime.

[Allessia]

I think you are righ, tx.

[AidenBlue]

Let it go. It's not worth giving up everything else. Clearly it's not a pattern and it's not like it's something she did in private or was expressing any sort of love.

Bringing it up is not helping either. She can't undo it. It's done. Torturing her with it will only drive you apart. It's something you should just file in the very back of your mind and make peace with it.

If you want her to apologize and promise not to do it again for your sanity then fine - but also commit you will never mention it again.

On the other hand - your wife is pretty naughty. Nice selection. :-)

[Allessia]

Agree, tx.

[bubbakong2006]

Tell her if she wants to jerk a guy off to do it so you can watch it will probably turn you on and she will enjoy it to

[loveskittens]

Wow. That was interesting.

Divorce. Divorce so many times over. You should be with someone who is honest with you.

[HGStebbins]

Sorry bro, but the statute of limitations is up on this one. Time to move on, forgive, and forget.

[Bossmorr]

I wouldn't trust her. Point blank,.. and without trust u have nothing.

[MrMafioso]

She is being dishonest. It's just sad and unfair for me.

[MasterofYou]

Well it is your turn to have some young hot honey to jerk you off...

[abc--123]

You should have del with this year's ago

[Anonymous]

Finger her cousin.

[Anonymous]

Stop feeding the TROLL!
www.girlsaskguys.com/.../q1213245-my-wife-masturbated-a-guy-when-we-were-married-for-7-years-during-a