Why don't old guys realize that it is DISGUSTING when they hit on/ catcall young girls? Girls, is it bothering you as much as it is bothering me?

Catcalling is always degrading and innapropriate. If I look nice, I did it for myself, or theoretically for a boy that I want to see that day. I cerainly didn't do my hair and makeup and didn't put my outfit on for random guys on the streets to comment on it. I don't care about their opinion. Whenever somebody states this issue, rednecks be like: "Well you asked for it! You put this revealing outfit!" I didn't put it for you, you idiot! It is even rude to stare, not to mention the catcalling. And when the catcalling comes from young guys 15-25 then it is NOT THAT CREEPY. If that's a decent compliment and not so bad, we might be even flattered a bit. Just MIGHT! But the bigger the age difference is, the more disgusting it gets. Especially 30+ guys. Why can't you find a girl your own age? And there are plenty of gorgeous women that are their age. It is so innapropriate and perverted to catcall a kid. And even though I am sexually active and everythng, I AM A KID. I am freackin 19! And the guys is like 35. Even when I am 30 and he be 46, it will still be as innapropriate as it is today. Not to mention the disgusting old farts who are 40+ and sometimes even in their 50s and older who scream at the top of their lungs and whistle. That makes me feel so bad, to the point where I feel guilty as if I gave them any indication that I might be interested in them, wich I ofcourse, didn't!!! But I know that I cannot let them ruin my day or make me avoid certain dressing styles or certain streets... I always take a deep breath and try to be brave and go my way, but that always affects me. In fact, have you seen that the biggest percentage of kidnapers, rapists and abusers are old fat farts, so whenever I pass a group of them I feel really scared for my safety, one time the screams were so innapropriate that I peed in my pants out of fear. So, bottom line is: girls, be vocal about what bothers you and guys, if u r old, stop catcalling us and hitting on us!
I am a girl and I feel the same way as you do, I wish the catcalling, especially the one from old people would stop. / I am a guy, but I find catcalling disgusting. I never do that and I would try to convince the guys who do that to stop.
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I am a girl and I love being catcalled, even if the guys are old. / I am a guy and I catcall all the time. I don't plan on stopping.
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I am a girl and I didn't recognize this issue untill reading this. Thank you. / I am a guy who used to do it, but I will stop from this moment, because I never knew how scary it is. Thank you.
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  • While I agree that catcalling is often rude and crude, you have to recognize that you don't live in a vacuum, or in a bubble with only the people you like. You live in the real world, and that world is full of other people, many of whom weren't raised with good manners or morals or good parents.

    You can argue "I should be able to carry cash or wear jewelry in any neighborhood and not worry about being robbed" or "I should be able to drive a nice, expensive car and not worry about being car-jacked" or "I should be able to go to a party, get black-out drunk, and not worry about getting raped" - and I'd say - "you're right - you SHOULD - in an IDEAL WORLD. But you don't live in an ideal world, you live in the real world, and in the real world, there are rude, creepy, evil, and even violent people, and you need to recognize that all of YOUR decisions will have consequences."

    You can't change other people, you can only change YOURSELF. The solution to you not liking catcalls isn't to try to get hundreds of random guys to change - that is never going to happen. The solution is to change YOURSELF and your own decisions and behaviors to not encourage catcalls - or to accept them for what they are and not let it bother you.

    I agree that those options suck, but again, we don't live in an ideal world. Recently in my area, a guy was shot because he was mistaken for someone else who was in a gang - they drove similar cars - so the completely innocent and uninvolved guy gets hurt because some criminal made a poor association. That's not fair or right either, but it's the world we live in. We do what we can to fix it, but there have always been criminals (and rude people), and there always will be.

    • Encourage? My decisions? Only a man could say such a thing... Should I just stay permanently at home then to avoid street harassment? And it's not a matter of how one is dressed, I was wearing plain tshirt and pants and I still was catcalled. Yes, you can't change them, but you can make it punishable (i. e. with fines), like any other form of sexual harassment, that will stop them from doing that or at least make them think twice. It's already a crime in Peru.

    • The odd thing I've found is how nice you're dressed has more of an effect than how revealing your clothing is. Like, when I had a job where I had to dress in nice clothes and put on makeup and all that sort of stuff, I got way more catcalls and harassment. But if I threw on a tank top to go to the store I wouldn't get as much.

    • @SunsetStar if you want to ban all catcalling like I think they should then they have to ban under 25 doing as well has people over 30 but thats not what she stated in the post she does not have a problem with younger guys doing it

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  • As someone who was molested by my best friend's grandfather, and then again by my brother's grandfather I know exactly how you feel. I despise catcalling in general, but it is particularly disturbing when the person in question is old enough to be my father, or is even older. The one thing that I have discovered that has helped me is to call them on their bulls*it in public. For example, a customer at the gas station where I work, who is also too old for me, hit on me for a very long time. He hit on all the girls though, especially when he was drunk. First I told him not to talk to me like that. He started to listen, but he was also mad about it so he started being aggressive towards me. Finally I told him, in front of my boss and all the customers in the store, to cut the bullshit "I know what you're trying to do. I don't like it, and you will never get any p*ssy from me in this life or the next. So cut the sh*t, pay for your item, and get the hell out of my line." He still comes in the store, but he has never hit on me in such a vulgar and aggressive manner ever again.

  • I am always saying hi to people I pass on the street.
    Hi how are you.
    Good morning.
    Good afternoon.
    Etc.

    I've heard some people complain about random guys saying stuff like this, well, okay not people as such, mainly just pissed off women who think theyre entitled to the world, but because Im a girl. Its fine.

    I can say whatever the hell I want because Im a woman and its my right.

    If I were a man and tried to smile at the people I pass on the street, I would get taken down by some entitled shit telling me that im some kind of wannabe rapist.

    You need to cool it lady. These men who are 'catcalling' you are most likely just wishing you a good day. They aren't calling out in hopes that hearing them say good morning will get your motor running so much that you will just strip then and there. They aren't calling you beautiful to get you to fuck them. They are dishing out an honest compliment, now either take that compliment, or fuck off and take another street if it bothers you so much.

    • Come back when you've had some guy yelling about how much he wants to touch you out his car window, or been followed around by a man masturbating, or had older guys demand to know what you're doing later and try to ask you to go to a party with them. A lot of it is quite obviously not complimentary.

    • @SunsetStar Ignore it and walk away. I have had people yell out to me from their car, and yeah in the moment it scared me. But later i just laughed it off because it only spoke of their lack of intelligence. The guy walking behind you masturbating? Yeah that shit needs to stop but that isn't catcalling. Thats some mentally retarded idiot who needs the cops called on him. And the older guys just need a kick in the balls so they understand what no means. Still not catcalling by the way.

    • Yeah, more common is stuff like "hey baby, nice ass. Hey, hey lady, yeah, I'm talking to you! What's wrong bitch, why won't you answer me?"

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  • This is the reason I'm glad I do not live in a city. If you haven't noticed, it seems like this occurs more often in cities than in small towns (which makes sense, considering there are more people around). I live in a town with less than 2500 people, so I've NEVER seen anyone be catcalled. Now, if you go to a hugely populated place like New York, you're likely to see it every single day (assuming you walk on the sidewalk instead of drive/catch a cab).

    Since the population around me is so small, I was not aware of this issue. If you don't like being hit on all the time, I suggest moving someplace else.

  • I totally agree with you! I had a businessman ask me to have an 'affair' with him in the middle of day on a really busy street in London and that guy was at least 50 and another time a 40 something man on the tram just randomly put his bloody hand on my thigh, I was DISGUSTED.
    Not to even mention all the catcalling from those old-ass-morons.. 😪

    • You're so ungrateful..

    • @Goldenn-Rose And you're such an immature brat

    • How?

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  • It makes it creepier when old men do it. They should be the wisest, more respectful elders of our society, yet they treat the new generation of women like meat. They likely have a wife at home they're also disrespecting. It's disgusting.

  • Honestly its more likely the girls have the daddy complex in their minds. So they are attracted to guys like their own father as a result they are attracted to older guys. Its kinda weird phenomenon that occurs. its one that is considered to be a sub set of fixation or a old habit that starts as little kid but if not extinguished or goes "extinct" it can linger into adulthood.

    • ? ?~?~?

    • How is that at all relevant to the question wtf.

    • @frozenhorizon Its an explanation for why young girls like older guys duh?

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  • I get this quite a lot from middle aged guys and sometimes older guys. I'll be quite civil with them first and tell them to back off. If they still pester me I end up telling them "f**k off! Your ages with my dad! " get lost grandpa!" Its all some of them seem to understand.

  • Doesn't bother me one bit.
    I understand why it bothers some women, but I just feel as if the age of the man is irrelevant. If you feel it is wrong for an older man, it should be just as wrong for a younger man.

  • I never do that no matter the age, I think it is disgusting behavior. It needs eliminated from our society... start the marketing campaign, get the laws passed to punish the offenders...

    But if 1000's of 20 yr old girls will "date" Hugh Hefner and several marry him up to and including his 80's, and that is repeated by other people... in other words girls do go for older guys, then women are giving a clear message that younger girls are viable for any age male.

    • It is disgusting chicks like them that are disgrace to all the womenkind.

  • part of your rant is correct. it is rude and disgusting behaviour by low iq morons.
    however, age is only relavent (to a point) at the young and old end.
    a 35 yr old man with a 19 yr old woman is kinda gross. it is obv only for sex.
    But a 46 yr old man (or woman) with a 30 yr old woman (or man) is fine. The common formula to figure out the lowest age to avoid "creepyness" in your words is Half your age plus 7.
    in the middle ages, a 15 ish yr difference is not as significant. it will catch up later though.
    Also, as a woman, you know that there are morons out there. So when your dressed up like that your going to get idiots yelling. You know that when you get dressed up. It doesn't mean it is right and it doesn't validate it. But don't act like your surprised about it.

  • Learn to live in society. Learn to tolerate things other people do if you want people to tolerate yours. You have the right to wear whatever you want. They have the right to say whatever they want.

    • And everyone has the right to call them assholes for it too :D

    • @frozenhorizon They can, but it's useless. She can't expect things to change just because she doesn't like it. You do not have a right to not be offended.

  • I see what your trying to say on this its your opinion your Intitled to it if you feel creeped out by it then your right to show your not comfortable with it not everyone is the same!! but not every over 30 plus guys are rapists and kidnappers guys In there teens and 20's can do that stuff as well but also some girls like creepy old men especially if they have money and a playboy mansion 😎

    • I am disgusted to the very core by that. 😡

    • I have never catcalled in my life and probably would never do it 😱

    • Guys will do this wether it's wrong or right until they create a law to ban it - it will probably keep happening people will find you attractive catcalling is the wrong way to go about it though you are pretty but I don't think your anything special though 😔😔😔😔

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  • HEEELLOOOOOOOOOOOOOO NURSE!

  • I don't really care... It happens, as long as their comments are harassment I'll just smile and walk off. Life is too short to be bothered by some things.

  • so u don't care if guys catcall as long as they're young? 30 isn't even that old..

  • It seems inappropriate so I never did it.

  • Whaaaaaaaat? I thought girls were always going on and on about how much they like older guys. This is really bothering you? :O

  • I abstain
    except when flirting with wife privately and if
    she appears to like it

  • The truth is you look like more physically mature than an average 18 year old. I thought just by looking at your other pictures you can pass for someone who is 25.

  • I really don't think age should be apart of this. Catcalling is rude and disgusting end of story. Just ignore it. Giving them attention is what they want so don't.
    But I think some women need to realize if you wear booty shorts and a crop top, you're more likely to get cat called then if you're wearing a hoodie and sweats. Is that your fault? It's debatable and depends on the situation but the cat caller is always at fault. It's kinda like provoking a serial killer (a bad analogy but first thing I thought of), sure he pulled the trigger or stabbed you but you didn't help the situation.

    • Oddly, I've found how nice you look has more effect on it than how revealing you look. Like, I'd get more catcalls when I was dressed up professionally for work, than if I threw on skinny jeans and a tank to go to the grocery store.

    • @SunsetStar what's funny about that is that I was dressed in jeans, tennis shoes, a sweater, and a zipped up hoodie one day when I was coming back from school. This guy followed me out of the Family Dollar and, not only did he try to stop me from leaving, he tried to talk me into going back to his apartment with him. I guess some people are just more persistent than others.

  • If you're 19 then you're not a kid, not physically anyway. But mentally, you're definitely still a kid, evident by the fact that you're 19 years old and still refer to yourself as a kid... quite sad really.

  • The fact that many marriages have a decade or more age difference, many being 20 and 30 year Olds and so on.. leads me to believe a lot of people don't feel it's disgusting. a lot of younger women like older men who are already established in their career. They want the finished product. Also, a lot of women that are successful at a young age tend to want a guy of similar success if not more successful. Another situation where she's more likely to date an older guy. Friend of mine started a new job making 70k a year. She's 24. She's already stated she doesn't want to date someone her age unless they're in the same stage of life as she is. Most guys her age are in college or working a low paying job, still figuring out their life. She wants to be a business owner. She pretty much exclusively dates guys in the mid 30s. New guy is 33. It's very common

  • I saw it as life and got use rto it

  • Its just soo dumb to read how everygirl likes when a boy approaches to them or give them a signal.

    But if im in my car and you walk by me, if i say something is degrading. Dumb

    You would accept it if it comes from a younger guy lol... the ones WHO trully just want to bang you... so it doesn't really bother you, its more likely who does it to you

    I guess if the old fart is brad pitt/tom cruise, would be acceptable huh?

    Again... plenty of women smile back when i call them pretty.. i just think they are, if you think im disrespectful and disgusting sincr im 28... poor me.

    • Even if it was Brad Pitt or Tom Cruise it still won't be acceptable. And the young guys that "only want to bang me" are great, because I only want to bang them, too. What the hell would I be doing with a guy who is 30+. You are young, but old for me. Do you not think that "appreciating somebody's beauty" is smth girls do to hot guys just by smiling and giggling, not by treating them as a piece of meat. What the hell? Yes, girls would like to hear that they are pretty (not me, though), but if you came up to her, introduced yourself and said that she is pretty, that would be cute. But if an old man screams from a car: "Hey, nice ass!" that is straight up disgusting. Am I not saying it right? Stop catcalling!

    • I am not saying catcalling is good.. and "you have a nice ass" is completely different than throwing a smile to see if she smiles back. Oh ok you dont like to be called pretty and what not, ok got it. Anyway... so you like catcalling. Dont say you dont.

    • 😲😲😲😲😲😲😲😲

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