I'm ashamed of being a virgin?

[Anonymous]

Anyone else like this? I really regret not losing it when I had the chance, I feel so undesirable and unattractive for being one at 18. I actually think I'm going to have to lie to girls about not being a virgin to save face. Guys do you feel like this?

[CosmicallyCombined]

There is nothing wrong with being a virgin. You have nothing to be ashamed about. There are plenty of people who truly regret the way they lost their virginity and the link of sexual choices that came afterwards. Not only that, but virginity guarantees you the privilege to be carefree and stress-free when it comes to unplanned pregnancy and having to disconnect/detach/unhook yourself from a female in another way when things don't work out.

If the amount of activity your genital does or does not see determines your ability to feel desirable and attractive, then your confidence is broken and you need to fix that first and foremost before you pursue a sex life.

[Asker]

There's a difference between being a girl virgin and a guy virgin

[ImDeadpoolBaby]

Nope. No difference, both are judged. Both have there own worries of not knowing of how to have sex or wondering if the other more experienced partner will be satisfied.

[CosmicallyCombined]

Asker, there really isn't. The main difference between male virgins and female virgins is that the guys are more likely to succumb to peer pressure and make their decision based on social validation. Whereas females will often grasp the bigger picture and not be driven by peer pressure because they know they can get pregnant and they've heard so many hurtful stories of women who give it away to the wrong guy. Virginity is the one, guaranteed, sure way to stay out of irreversible, painful, sometimes outright destructible trouble. Society's got it wrong.

[CosmicallyCombined]

@ImDeadpoolBaby What's funny about that is even some experienced partners are lame and unsatisfying in bed. Being a good lover isn't about experience; it's about your ability to humbly learn, observe, and take note. It's silly when people assume that just because someone is more "experienced" they will have all the tips and tricks to make your toes curl. That's just not the case.

[ImDeadpoolBaby]

@CosmicallyCombined Very valid point. Experience at times means nothing, people with experience in a certain field of work are not always better than those who are less experience but more practical. For example a programmer with experience doesn't make that programmer a good programmer, for all we know he may be a shitty programmer lucky enough to be working at a small size company.

[CosmicallyCombined]

@ImDeadpoolBaby EXACTLY! Which is why you'll come across tons of posts online about people who are in relationships with very non-virgins and they feel incredibly unsatisfied.

[ImDeadpoolBaby]

@CosmicallyCombined People often forget that sex is more than just trying variety of poses and shit. I had sex with my EX, I can't say it was best sex. She was more experience than me at the time with her being with eh, 10 or so guys and she was my 1st. I often think that I would have enjoyed sex more with a girl who I knew loved me, otherwise sex is rather useless thing. And then you have many posts about people getting all pissy and ape shit that they are still virgins, not many people understand that Sex you see in porn and in real life are different. Real life sex isn't as amazing as one may think, sure it's nice but it's an overhyped thing.

[Asker]

It's not like I was being pressured to do it at 15, but now as an 18 year old I feel undesirable my girls and to make it worse I'm super horny and crave sex and who knows when I'm actually going to have it

[Mimiclarissa]

It's fine, why does everyone worry so much about it? I know a guy who's 26 and the furthest he's gone is touching a girls boobs. Don't be ashamed, that's crazy. I'm so sick of guys who have sex casually and are basically just perverted and only after one thing. I'm so much more drawn to guys who are virgins, and you're only 18. You're about to go to college, no doubt you'll lose it then.

[Asker]

I just finished my first year of college. Also that guy is fucked as a lover. You don't know what being a virgin MALE at my age is like

[Mimiclarissa]

You're right, I don't know what it's like to be in your shoes because I'm not a male. But I can't possibly know, the only thing I can do is give you my opinion and try to lessen your grief over something so unimportant in the grand scheme of things (:

[helloitsmethere]

Eighteen? EIGHTEEN?
Is this really what we have come to? Being ashamed of being a virgin by 18? You are still young, complain again when you reach 40...(okay i'm exaggerating, but still, you get the point).
Bruh, I haven't kissed a guy yet and I am 16, and I really do not mind at all. It is gonna happen one day. Do not rush into things. It will eventually happen...

[Asker]

I should've just fucked my ex girlfriend when I was 15, and if I'm a virgin at 40 I'm killing myself tbh

[ImDeadpoolBaby]

Killing yourself because you are a 40 year old virgin? Aye? So you never watched the movie then did ya?

[Asker]

@ImDeadpoolBaby Yes, like how much of a loser with the opposite sex can one be to be a virgin at that age

[helloitsmethere]

Look, you have already decided that you weren't ready at fifteen, you can't change that now... and hopefully you are still not a virgin by the time you are 40, which is very unlikely. You will find someone soon. Don't worry about it too much. It is better to wait for the right person than to rush and regret it later.

[ImDeadpoolBaby]

Jesus fucking christ. What is it with guys or girls going all ape shit about there virginity? For fucks sakes, is that like a #firstworldproblem or shit?

I lost my virginity at 22, it never ate away at me that I was a virgin by the end of highschool nor did I ever give enough of a shit to care. There is way more to life then bragging that you got to fuck a pussy.

[Asker]

It makes me feel like less of a man

[ImDeadpoolBaby]

Why? Who cares how many girls you slept with. Less like a man? Are you fucking kidding me? Sex isn't a standard to dictate one's manhood.

[Asker]

In today's world it does, open your eyes

[ImDeadpoolBaby]

Man you have such fucked up views of caring what society thinks and shit that it's funny. Oh my eyes are open, see Forest Fires are problems, someone being a Virgin ain't a problem its a mental handicap brought on by that very individual. Society makes retarded rules and people try to obey them for some magical reason in fear of being different. And then are people like me who stick a big middle finger at society and act differently. Remember society standards and views aren't always valid ways to go about life.

[Asker]

This website is so PC...

[ImDeadpoolBaby]

Okay, this website may be PC. But how the fuck is my answer a PC. Me telling you not to give a fuck is PC? LOL. Well then fuck this shit, do whatever you want really. People often are blinded by their own delusions and fears. Not much I can do about that.

[Asker]

I don't care about what other guys say. I care about the way the opposite sex sees me, and they see me as undesirable, because 'wow he's a virgin? He must be creepy if hasn't gotten laid'

[ImDeadpoolBaby]

Are you a mind reader? Do you know what this girls actually think? Probably not. Stop assuming and stop this "I'm a virgin" shit. When you roll around on a motorcycle or a nice car people don't question your sexual experience.

[Asker]

Don't have to be, I see it all the time in the real world AND the Internet. There's a reason there's so many male virgins at a high age. Those guys are unwanted

[ImDeadpoolBaby]

Whatever you say. It's not like I lived longer and see shit for what it is. Fucked my 1st girl at age of 22, nothing changed othe then this little bragging fact. You have a very warped perception on reality, I doubt people judge you in real life as much as you think in your own mind and sorry but there is no way to tell if someone is a virgin or not is there : I don't really think you understand that most people on here are saying to chill the fuck down and just date girls and shit. You don't have to mention your a virgin or shit. Fuck I like riding motorcycle more then sex or looking for a girlfriend that's my outlet in life to ride and to have mad fun while riding. Sex is overhyped it's not like porn, just saying.

[idiotmanchild]

I'm 26 and I haven't kissed a girl yet, but I'm generally proud of who I am because of everything else I've done with my life. You've got a long way to go, when I was 18, most of the other guys I knew were virgins and they weren't by the time they were out of college.

[kedslover]

Don't worry. Consider yourself a late bloomer. You'll get your chance in time and hopefully with one that will be with you for the rest of your life.

[KattFeesh]

You make too big a deal about this virgin thing. Relax.

[DarkHumorRUs]

I don't really care about people knowing I'm a virgin or anything. I'm just really fucking curious as to how it feels and what the whole experience is like.

[NedfromtheNed]

Bro, Ur 18. you'll be FiNe MaTE.
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But seriously, your fine.

[Bigclit]

Don't be... would you rather be ashamed of being a virgin or having an std? just saying.

[Asker]

Just because I have sex doesn't mean I'm going to get an STD

[ImDeadpoolBaby]

Just because you don't have STD doesn't mean the other person doesn't or is not aware that they have it.

[Bigclit]

I know that... but i just saying a lot of stds aren't always detectable from the human eye.

[Bigclit]

There are millions of people with hpv and they don't even know that they have it

[Bigclit]

@ImDeadpoolBaby my point exactly... my friend had a friends with benefits and he gave her something then questioned if she was clean then told her he had an std. Rather be a virgin and not worry about it

[ImDeadpoolBaby]

I would still have sex. People aren't aware you can get Hep B from toilet seat, but I'm also the type who preaches Anal lol you are more likely to find Anal virgin lol then one that ain't.

[Bigclit]

@ImDeadpoolBaby I don't put my ass on the toilet seat I squat and hoover over the seat. But just be careful there are a lot of people I know who regrets getting involved with the wrong person... you aren't only having sex with that one person, but also the people they had sex with and so on. If you have sex get tested and practice safe sex.

[ImDeadpoolBaby]

Or just buy a Onahole, premium ones are like $80 and they are reusable, fully washable and 120% safe :)

[Bigclit]

@ImDeadpoolBaby lol im a girl and that sounds like something for men

[ImDeadpoolBaby]

There are the guy torso things for woman but they are like $120-$160 :) it's a torso and a dong 120% for girls :)

[Bigclit]

@ImDeadpoolBaby I'll stick to my boyfriend

[ImDeadpoolBaby]

Okey :D I don't have a girlfriend so I will stick with my Onahole lol

[Bigclit]

@ImDeadpoolBaby lol im going to look that up

[nojokecarmichael]

Maybe it's just because society makes virginity seem like it's a bad thing when it's not. I'm now 19 and at one point I was ashamed but who cares what others think, I got over it and some people are completely OK with it. You shouldn't rush it.

[Asker]

You're a girl, as a guy if you're a virgin at a certain age people begin to wonder what is wrong with you

[nojokecarmichael]

And some people think I'm a nerd or some boring person...

[Asker]

What does that have to do with anything?

[nojokecarmichael]

Just because I'm a girl doesn't mean anything. Obviously it means you're not the only one/gender that supposedly faces judgment because you're a virgin and in your case can't get anyone to sleep with you.

[Tomboy_Cool]

No cuz I'm young!!!

[ConsultantIsBack]

18 is young man, it's fine/normal. Although you might feel out of place depending on your circle of friends, it's really fine. If you focus on things you can control to be attractive, you can meet a great girl and bang when you both are ready!

[Curiousity12072]

I'm glad to be a virgin. Literally 11 year olds are losing their virginity right now! I'm saving mine. That's dumb to be ashamed. Virgin=good. Virgin= less risk of STD/STI's

[Abe90]

Dude, get over it. I'm 26 and still one. I used to be ashamed of it but I learned that it doesn't matter. What matters is that you find someone who can connect with you on a deep level.

[Asker]

I feel bad for you

[Abe90]

Why?

[Asker]

You're 26...

[Abe90]

Ok? You can get laid if you want but it won't mean that much once you get order. Trust me. Unless you hit 40 and are still one, then that's a different story lol

[MasterofPlebs]

Nope.

[YoungJuice]

I'm a 15 year old virgin if that makes you happier.

[scooogy]

24 yo. virgin over here, and i don't mind.

[jesusnicolas768]

I feel yeah bro but maybe there will be a girl who doesn't care and get lucky

[Anonymous]

It's totally normal to be a virgin at 18 don't worry! And don't believe any of that 'you'll be a freak if you don't lose it before college' shit. I was randomly placed in a flat with 4 other people when I started college (2 guys, 2 girls), and 4 out of 5 of us were virgins.

I know there's a lot of pressure to have sex tied up with masculinity. But you really aren't at all abnormal. And it's best to wait and lose it to someone you really want to be with so you can have the best experience

[Anonymous]

Being a virgin is nothing to be ashamed of or to be proud of. It doesn't define your character.
Does this shame come from peer pressure? If yes then know that none of those people really gives a fuck about your virginity. Also, how is it related with your attractiveness?
You'd probably be thankful in future that you didn't lose your virginity to some random girl.