Guys, would you be satisfied with just a handjob? Aaand how do I give my boyfriend a handjob, anyway?

I'm completely inexperienced, which he knows, and is okay with. He's already told me that he never wants to pressure me, and he'll never be frustrated or grumpy with me for saying no. We've only made out once, but he got really hard, and asked me if I wanted to take things to his bedroom. I said no, he said that was okay, and we resumed. While I'm still completely nervous about doing anything past making out and general fondling right now, I also feel bad for getting him excited (inadvertently), and not doing anything to help him. I don't want to disappoint him. So at some point soon I feel like I'm gonna need to take it to that point. Questions are 1. D'you think he'd be satisfied with just a handjob? And 2. How do I go about doing it?
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+1 y
So then just stick to making out and touching each other above the belt if I'm not gonna be okay taking it all the way?
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  • To me, there's a lot more pressure to go from the 'nothing' stage to the 'handjob' stage then from the handjob stage to sex. Most guys are pretty happy to be with a virgin who is enthusiastically sexual with them in some way, and can wait a long time for specific things like PiV sex. Most guys like handjobs, there are a core number of guys who are like 'uh handjobs suck i can do them myself'. I can't understand that view - the goal of sex shouldn't be slightly better sensation, it should be the excitement of shared sexuality. Well, to me anyway.

    2: you sort of grip it like you'd grab a tennis racket, and move your hand up and down. Now the specifics:P
    - if he's uncircumcised, you can probably grab tightly over top of the skin, and glide your hand up and down, the skin moving with you, using the loose skin to stimulate his whole penis
    - if he's circumcised, you can grip a little less tightly so your hand slides over the shaft and head... this works best when your hands are totally dry, being a little sweaty can make this harder... OR... you need things slippery enough to slide over his skin. Easiest way is to use some sort of lubricant.

    Note that in either case, the head is the most sensitive part, but stimulation right to the base feels good.

    You can explore early, but as he gets more excited, settle into a steady up/down rhythm.

    Men are typically speed-sensitive. So start slow so your arm doesn't fall off, speed up when he's getting really excited to put him over the top.

    Don't stop till the cum STOPS coming out.

  • Handjobs are amazing. Especially if your laying next to him while u do it and your intimate. Don't think to hard about it, if he's not happy with it, tell him there's people starving around the world and stop being an ungrateful man when he as the blessing of a women taking time out of her life to satisfy him.

Most Helpful Girls

  • Take your top off, but keep your pants on. Be happy, smiling, positive, encouraging, eager, excited and extremely enthusiastic! Then just ask him how to do it! Every guy is different. He'll know what works best for him and should be as willing and eager to teach you as you should be to learn. Ask him for lots of extra feedback. Have fun! Enjoy yourself! Enjoy the cum too as it spurts out of his cock, but take extra special care that none of it goes anywhere near your entire crotch area.

  • I'm a virgin and i do only handjobs for my boyfriend. He's satisfied.

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  • Thats foreplay... unless you are willing to go all the way... i wouldn't recommend starting it.
    "don't start nothing, there won't be nothing"

  • yeah any guy would be if his girl did that and as for how unless you and him feel odd about it i would google instructions on how t do that. not saying how i know that at my age though. lol

  • Here's the thing about a lot of these "How to?" questions when it comes to sexual things: You have a free and voluminous treasure trove of videos available online that shows a girl giving a handjob to a guy. Just go to Google Videos and type in something like: girlfriend gives boyfriend handjob You'll get to watch it being done and learn that it's not rocket science.

  • It's okay to start with, especially to get to know his man parts better, but it is not going to be enough in the long run.

  • I would for a while, as for giving one, if you have a dildo practice on it while watching videos of guys masturbating and videos where women are giving handjobs, hands on experience is the quickest way to learn, no pun intended

  • No it's a pain. Oral will work better. Just find the right time in the right place and go for it ;( make him surprised

  • A) Don't feel like you NEED to, this guy sounds like a decent guy if he was OK with you declining his other, I think he'll understand if you wanna take things slow

    B) YES! hand jobs feel awesome and are a great next step from making out

    C) try and do it while making out, just start touching his body while making out, slip your hands down his pants and go for it :)

  • A hand job is a lot better than nothing.

    Wank his cock up and down till he cums. Hold it quite tight. As soon as he cums slow right down so you have almost stopped. Ask for feedback during ie faster/slower, tighter etc. Every guy is different x

  • Mutual hand play can carry a relationship for quite a while. What is crucial is that you give him an orgasm happily and eagerly. A little planning goes a long way. All he need do for you is develop some skill and have clean hands and clipped nails. You need to do a little more. You need to have a discreet travel size of lotion or lube and a face cloth to tidy up after. A hand job is not difficult. A milking motion will do the trick. Just remember that as he closes in on orgasm, you want to concentrate on rapidly stroking the shaft and not getting tired and slowing down. Gently cupping him when he comes will keep it off clothes, skin and hair.

  • Nope.. I'd never be satisfied with just that.

  • No, never.. need more