Would you hire a pedophile as a babysitter?

Question

So the liberals are trying to make being a pedophile ok... as long as they don't touch the kid.
This article   is about a man that is sexually attracted to little girls, though he claims he will never abuse them.
Here's a small 2:36 minute video of him talking:

 

So considering that he will never abuse your little girl, he'll just go masturbate in the bathroom thinking about her, would you ever hire a man like this to babysit your daughter?

hellionthesage · Accepted Answer

I do think their are some points to what he stated, that said the last thing you want to do is put them near a child, thats like putting herion next to a herion addict turning your back and just hoping everything goes well ie nothing good is going to come of it. I think we should look at it as a condition and as such something they could be able to get help for (for example I was watching a documentary (when the whole church molestation thing came out) where a priest had essentially convinced himself it was a mutual attraction when it in fact wasn't he was arrested at which point he had to let go of his delusion that he did nothing wrong, he got counciling in prison, he got out continued counciling and as he put it he was still a pedophile, so he started chemicly castrating himself (drugs to repress sexual urges) and continued to go to counciling and he was still a pedophile. After a while he got himself surgicly castrated and as he put it, his sexual urges diminished but they where still there and he was still a pedophile. Thats a lot of effort put into trying to get rid of those urges so much so that I cannot see it as a choice (some are, those are mostly those people who go after teenagers, its when they get bored with sex then begin to fetishize teenagers because their taboo, those people choose it since its not an exclusive attraction). But its a screwed up situation so I don't blame anyone for their responses (its a difficult subject filled with a lot of emotion so its kind of hard to see past that initial response), and like I said putting a child in that situation is just a stupid risk to take.

Aizou · Accepted Answer

I initially wanted to just give you a "no" answer. But I started to think.. If I wouldn't hire a pedophile, should I then also not want to hire a homosexual man, if my kid was a boy. Or lesbian woman, if my kid was a girl?

I mean, generally we trust other people.. at least somewhat, no?

Darkfairie17 · Accepted Answer

To me that is a HUGEEEEE Nope!

in my opinion this guy is just trying to justify his behavior. Basically, he's trying to convince everyone he is a good guy simply because he didn't rape a child. No, you don't get bonus points for not raping children. That's just a general rule in society. You don't rape children. You don't rape anyone, that's a pretty standard expectation.

He's sick. He was raped as a child and needs help. He realizes that. It's good that he never did anything. But what is concerning to me is that he allowed himself to be put in that position (a babysitter to a child, when he knew he had an attraction to children and a problem). To me, he was merely lucky that he had the ability to remove himself from the situation when it became too much. But what would have happened had he babysat again?

Eventually I'm sure he would have done something. Also, he did masturbate in their bathroom. I don't think he's fully honest with himself about his problems. To me the whole video was just a big denial. He was trying to rationalize being able to be near children, putting them at risk. Because he thinks he's a great guy.

I'm sure most people think they are great. But he knows he has this problem, so why put himself in the position where he could harm a child? To me that shows me that he is willing to tempt himself. It's not fair to put any child in that position. It's like feeding them to wolves.

popsickle · Accepted Answer

No. I would not. If I strongly suspected someone was a pedophile, I would try to get authorities and medical professionals help to get them under control of their urges not hire them as a babysitter. That's just stupid.

I think you are misinterpreting this guy. He is trying to get pedophilia under control, not trying to make any pedophilic actions or thoughts acceptable enough to allow him to babysit children like a normal person. He is honest about his disturbing feelings instead of pretending they don't exist. That's the first step to dealing with it. Pedophilia is considered a paraphilic mental disorder under DSM V suggesting it is not normal and there is an out of control nature of it that requires help. It doesn't make the actions of the pedophile right, au contraire it's unfathomably HORRIBLE. It just means there are many out there and kids will be harmed if the problem isn't helped in the proper way. You can't just tell a pedophile to stop. It isn't normal, it won't work like it does on us.

Sara413 · Accepted Answer

That guy isn't trying to get gigs as a babysitter. He doesn't want to be around children because he is trying to keep himself from acting on his urges...

Sweeping pedophiles under the rug hasn't been working... we've been doing that for generations and kids keep getting hurt.

SilentShadow · Answer

How is masturbating to the thought of a CHILD any better than actually harming him/her? FUCK NO. I wouldn't want anyone having those thoughts about my future children! Especially not when I am trusting that person to be alone with them.

Cmasterson · Answer

Hell no, words are just words, sometimes people say things and their actions go another way.

Victorianne · Answer

Fuck no!!  The only people who I'd allow to babysit my kids is my immediate family and close friends

samhradh_leannan · Answer

No, of course I would never knowingly hire a pedophile to watch my child. But if this person has such good control over their behavior and appears so normal that I can't tell that they're a pedophile and I have no idea, then I will have no way to avoid hiring them, but the good thing is that if this is the case they probably don't pose any threat at all.

heavenonearth · Answer

Of course not, but just to be clear, no one is trying to make being a pedophile okay.

It's not, and everyone knows that, but the difference is in how you handle it. Do we create an environment where people admit it, get therapy to help control their urges, and keep away from children, before a child gets hurt? Or do we leave it at them being sick monsters, end of story, as we've been doing for ages and watch as none of them admit to it until it's too late?

Liberals, and any conservatives involved in this, aren't trying to make pedophilia fine, they're trying to facilitate practical prevention and solutions.

I'm not sure where the babysitting argument comes into this, since no one is suggesting we trust them near kids (not even this pedophile) - the exact opposite in fact, but if someone's a pedophile, it's better that we know that and do something about it early on.

MikkyLachae · Answer

I'd rather skip whatever it is I'm doing than to let a person who is sexually attracted to kids around the hypothetical baby. Man or woman, I will not allow anyone to put their filthy hands on that baby!!

Afro-dite9 · Answer

I wish... there was a way that I could capture... my facial expression atm... in a gif as I read this question😒😑

Kastinis · Answer

Well, at least he is trying to control himself, and haven't hurt any child until now.

Pac-Man · Answer

You love women. So should we keep you away from women just because you might rape one? isn't that the same thing?

EmpatheticLady · Answer

Hell no. That's too much of a risk.

existing_not_living · Answer

I may find it weird, but I won't discriminate against a pedophile as long as they don't do anything to harm my child or make them feel uncomfortable. Even so, I would not allow one to baby-sit my child. I don't want her to become objectified like that. I don't want to even think there is a possibility that some guy I have baby-sitting my kid will later on use her image to masturbate to. I find that disturbing. I will treat them like a normal human being, but I don't want them around my children like that.

Goldie757 · Answer

Hell no

Jxpxtxr · Answer

No way in hell!

Hopefuldreamer8 · Answer

Nope. If I knew someone was a pedophile I wouldn't even let them interact with my kids with supervision. I wouldn't want them in my life at all. I don't care if they say they'll never act on it. Once I know someone has those thoughts, I wouldn't even be friends with them. I don't have kids but if I did, no way in hell.

mooky06 · Answer

The last option sounds more fitting

Mustachekitteh · Answer

Nope, they can be the nicest person on the planet. Rather not risk them losing self control and end up doing something without meaning to do it.

fauchelevent · Answer

No, but then again I wouldn't even let anyone outside of my immediate family babysit. My grandfather lived with a registered sex offender once and my parents barely even left me in the room with him.