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Girlfriend wants a threesome with another woman, what should I do?

I was completely surprised yesterday when my girlfriend said that she wants to have a threesome with one of her friends. My girlfriend lives in Colombia and we have been together for over a year and have known each other for longer and are planning to get married next year. I talk to her mother almost mom every day, her brother every week, her little sister, her father keeps asking when I will be visiting next. Except for the long-distance thing, it is a very normal relationship. My girlfriend has never been comfortable talking about sex, a few days ago sent me a video of her masturbating which was unexpected. Yesterday, without any conversation leading to this, my girlfriend sent a video of her friend masturbating and told me that her friend is a lesbian, wants my girlfriend to be her girlfriend, and is obsessed with her. My girlfriend explained that she has a boyfriend, then her friend asked to have a threesome with me. She initially seemed upset at the proposition by her friend. I asked my girlfriend if I knew her friend, she said no... then sent a picture (she is drop dead gorgeous and so is my girlfriend, both are modeling). I said that she is very pretty, then my girlfriend asked if I liked her and if I wanted to try (excited and not upset now). I said, she is pretty, I don't know her; but every man dreams of being with two women. She asked again if I wanted to try and I said, yes; why not, and she said she wanted to try too. She said that she will take care of all the arrangements and she was already talking to her friend about it. I told her I would only do it if that is what she wanted and as long as I don't lose her to 'the other side'. She said don't worry, she only likes men. My dilemma is that if I don't say yes, she may go ahead and experiment with her friend without me. If I do say yes, it would be the opportunity every man dreams about, but could also cause jealousy/resentment in our relationship or her friend will keep trying to 'steal' my girlfriend away. What should I do?
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Most Helpful Guys

  • I would be careful if I were you. Threesomes when you are single and when you are dating are completely different and in your case you are dating. Threesomes for people that are dating are very trick because a lot of feeling is involved and things can get out of hand. When chosing the third person it's good that both you and your girlfriend desire this person sexually, but it's also advisable that there are no feeling attached with that person, like that person should not be an ex boyfriend or a past crush. You say that this girl is already obssed with your girlfriend, if this is just carnal, if she only want to have sex, than it's ok, but if she has feelings for your girlfriend that might be a problem.

    • That is a very good point. My concern is that her friend has feelings for my girlfriend and she will use this to gain an emotional advantage over me. Also, I go to Colombia about 6 times a year, so I naturally have less in person contact with my girlfriend that this other woman. That could put me at a disadvantage in the future; even though we want to get married next year, this could definitely complicate things.

    • I see. Well, you could try to talk to your girlfriend, seems like you can be open and talk to her about everything. Tell her what you think, that it might not be a good idea to have a threesome with someone that has feelings for you, because this could also put their friendship at risck. I mean, if the other girl wants to be more than friends later and your girlfriend refuses, they probably won't be friends anymore. And please, don't go for a threesome unless you are 100% sure you want it. In your situation I think that there's a chance that you might get jealous when the other girl plays with your girlfriend. The threesome must be enjoyable for everyone.

  • Is this something your interested in and can your heart handle seeing her with someone else? Is this truly what she wants and do you want to make her happy? Do you believe in your bond and your love? If the answer is yes to all of those than go for it and enjoy yourself if you say your not into it and she sneaks off and cheats on you she's probably not the wife you want unless you OK with her being with others in your absence. While the friend might try and steal her are you confident in your sex life that your women is satisfied because if you are there is nothing to worry about.

    • All good questions that I don't know how to answer. The thing I worry about, and this is the difference between most men and women, is that a man can emotionally detach from the situation. She is the type of woman that loves to be the center of attention, but up until this point it was attention from other men. It is surprising that she wants to do this with another woman. As for the sex life, there is only so much I can do in 1 week visits every couple of months. So it is the other 7 weeks that I have no control over. I bought her a couple of different toys, she said that she does't think about sex that much and doesn't like them as much as the real thing.

    • If she doesn't like toys and likes dick a lesbian relationship isn't a real threat but the friendship itself could cause a problem

Most Helpful Girls

  • Do it. Just make sure you pay enough attention to each one of them.
    my friend and I it with a guy who didn't pay attention to her AT ALL. She didn't talk to me for 5 weeks because of it.

    If your girlfriend is not a jealous type of person and you're good with it, you've nothing to lose! Have fun

  • i say go for it, it's a lot of fun. i did this with my partner and nothing bad ever has come of it. just make sure you aren't friends with the other girl, you really don't want to be seeing them in your every day life, that is where problems start.

    • Good advice, I do not know the other woman... just a picture and what my girlfriend just told me about her. From what I understand, she is a new friend that became obsessed with my girlfriend to the point that my girlfriend said she was crazy and she was scared of her. I get to go home to the US, so I won't be seeing the other woman every day, but I am most worried about what will happen when I am not there and they are together. It think that it is not cheating when we both agree and participate, it is cheating if one of us does not participate.

    • i don't like the sound of this woman, she sounds dangerous. maybe try to find someone else if you can or just make sure she is safe and won't get emotionally attached to your girlfriend. i agree with you though, it is cheating if she were to fool around with the other girl without you there or without your consent.

    • nothing bad came of it yet but many men will no longer date you because of it.

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  • I didn't read your whole synopsis, only the question.

    All I can say is if you've actually found a girl who's willing (and even asking!) to do this you're every man's envy.

    Umm... you should do it.

    • Good advice; frankly it surprised me because she is definitely shy sexually.

  • Watch this movie.

    https://youtu.be/a6ImDMA2yzI

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  • If you are up to it go ahead... But if she ever asks for a threesome with a man, do not ever accept... The other guy might be more dominant than you and you will end up losing your girlfriend...

    • I completely agree, that is off the table for me and she will know that reciprocity is not going to occur MFM.

  • If you say no she will certainly do it behind your back. Saying yes at least keeps you involved for the time being. You can insist on fucking her friend.

    • I completely agree, I feel like I have to say yes for that exact point. And yes, I did tell her that everything is on the table if she wants to go through with it. Frankly, I don't really care if it happens or not, I am past that stage of my life. I just don't want to jeopardize my relationship.

  • You already said yes and she didn't get angry and said she would take care of the arrangements so you're in the clear. Now of course there may be drama afterwards, but there's nothing you can do right now to prevent that.

  • I would advise staying far away from this other girl. It doesn't sound healthy at all to allow her to join you if she's "obsessed" with your girlfriend. You're lucky that your girlfriend would be into a threesome - obviously that's a fantasy for any guy. Try to find a different girl to join you?

  • Grab the opportunity, and think about it later.

  • Definitely do it dude, you'll all have fun, but keep in mind her friend is mainly gonna focus solely on her. As for how it'll be after well I don't know, if she loves you that'll be it but her friend will definitely keep trying and probably will fuck her a few more times, but maybe that will be good for you both, while you're separated her friend can keep her sexually satisfied. You definitely better try visiting way more often though.

    • I completely agree with you. I will be visiting for 10 days in a couple of weeks; she lives in Cartagena and we are going to visit her grandparents in Medellin for a few days. If it does happen, I hope it happens early during my visit so we can avoid any drama when we go to Medellin.

  • I suggest do it.

  • She might ask for mfm later, or use it as a pass for something else

  • Enjoy it.

  • Go for it

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