Would you be ok with your boyfriend/girlfriend wrestling with someone of the opposite sex?

[toast-is-nice]

My boyfriend recently started doing jiu jitsu and MMA and feels that its not wrong for him to wrestle with girls. Personally, the idea makes me feel very uncomfortable. he insists that it's " just for training" and there is nothing sexual about it, but i feel as though some things are inherently sort of sexual. The idea of a girl that is virtually in her underwear ( sports bra and short shorts) touching my boyfriend all over and having him touch her, having them sitting/ laying on each other, having him ( his body, head, arm) in between her thighs makes me feel totally disrespected. I find it hard to believe he/she wouldn't feel it is even a bit sexual, especially if they find each other physically attractive. Am I being overly jealous? How would you feel in my situation? What would you do?

[Azgeda]

You'll have no problem with same-sex wrestling tho?
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It's not gay, it's wrestling.

[toast-is-nice]

I don't think it's gay because he's not attracted to men and the men there aren't attracted to him. For example, if I lay on a bed alone with a girl I don't feel it is wrong, but if i were to do the same thing with a guy while in a relationship it would be totally wrong

[toast-is-nice]

this is because he is not sexually attracted to guys, but he IS sexually attracted to girls

[Azgeda]

It's a wrestling mat , not a bed.

[BotChuck]

I'd feel the exact same way you do. I don't have much help for you, but I definitely feel that if he knows you don't like it (for reasons that are so obvious) and keeps insisting, he takes you for granted..

[Cleverbot99]

You're right about the fact, that it is very sexual.
But if those are his hobbies and if you don't have any concerns about him being unfaithful or anything, then I guess be proud that he does that and still remains loyal to you?
You can ask him to restrict this as much as possible, but in the end it's part of the sport and you shouldn't prevent him from doing his hobbies. Maybe join him?

Also, couples have like a huge mental bonus on each others attractiveness, so I wouldn't worry about anything as long as your relationship is still doing fine.

[CupcakeKiller]

If it was a dude would you be afraid your boyfriend was gay? Or would it just be training then?

[GingerGuy]

Yes a bit overly jealous. I understand how you feel but even if there is attraction between them, the actual sport activity will take the sexuality out of it in their minds. They'll be focused on that, not anything sexual if you get what I'm saying? Especially with jiu jitsu and MMA and that style of wrestling. It will be competition, not sexual.

[GingerGuy]

Also I'm guessing this will occur in public with other people around so nothing is going to happen. If it was private sessions I might be more concerned. Nothing to worry about.

[slimstiffy]

Id feel the same way.
I think there are plaves to train with same sex only.
I wouldn't really put up with that, but then again, im not really into fighter chicks :-D

[derekzoolander]

Yes, but would need to watch it.

[lopflodin]

only if they win

[Anonymous]

I've done sparring work (defense only) with women.

It was not sexy.

I don't think bjj would be either. Fighting is pretty good at pushing thinking about sex out of your mind.