Saw my BF's penis for the first time, was my reaction "normal"?

[Anonymous]

I've never seen a penis before, and to keep it short my boyfriend and I have been talking about seeing each other naked for awhile. He finally sent me a pic, over snapchat, and I was surprised. It was only 2 seconds but in all honesty I was still a little nervous. My boyfriend never pressures me into anything, so that's not what I'm nervous about. I was surprised by how it looked. I wasn't disgusted, I was kind of attracted to it; but I was still nervous seeing it! In my mind it was like "op! There it is!" And then the image disappeared. I guess I just want to know if it's normal for me to still be nervous about seeing it and whatnot. If I tell my boyfriend he wouldn't even question it and wouldn't push it any further! So that's not the issue, I'm wondering if me still not being ready is an issue. My boyfriend has kissed me in my private area, with my clothes on, and he truly spoils me. So I wanted to be able to do the same to him, but he also insists that he just wants to spoil me for now. He doesn't want to rush me and he is aware of my nervousness, but I still feel a little bad. Even though he hasn't shown any signs of him being disappointed. I know it takes people time and I guess my other (and last) question is, is my reaction normal. So basic sum up of Q's •Is it normal for me to still be nervous with seeing his penis? •Is it an issue if I'm still not ready? •Is me still wanting to take my time a bad thing? And I'll repeat this, my boyfriend is fine with waiting and everything. So it's not affecting our relationship in any bad way. These questions are applying to my reaction

[JuicyBrain]

It's normal that you are nervous. Feeling ready is not what you think. Feeling ready doesn't mean that one day, suddenly, you won't be nervous at all anymore. Being ready means being ready to trust yourself and jump despite being nervous.
When i was young, I hated making presentations in front of the class. I would always try everything I could to delay it as much as possible. Delaying it never made me nervous. The only moment I stopped being nervous was once I was done doing it. Don't expect to stop being nervous by waiting for it. If you feel you are ready for the implications of having sex and the nefgousness is the only thing holding you back, then jump ! Nothing so bad will happen. Oh it probably won't be great and you will probably laugh at yourself in retrospect, but you will be glad you had the courage to overcome your nervousness. It can only be great with experience.

[JuicyBrain]

Delaying it never made me *less* nervous.

[Anonymous]

I think so.

And to be honest I think most guys... Would like your reaction. If you were straigh up like not liking it that would be bad. But that little mix of nervous but kind of attracted? That's pretty hot

I'm not sure the kind of nervous will magically disappear till you take the next step. So when you think it's time, go for it. It's fine for you to wait a while. The hope is that you take the plunge well before it's an issue, having never felt pressured by him, and he never felt hurt by your reluctance lasting too long. I'm optimistic that's possible.

Final suggestion? The more you think about his penis in a positive way, think if it when you are aroused, think of what youcould do with it, think of how you could make him groan with pleasure... I think if you do that you will be wanting the next step soon.

[obiwansmistress]

Everything is normal. It's normal to be nervous, to not be ready, and to want to take your time. None of these are bad things. Even if you were completely ready it would still be normal to be nervous.

[abundantlyrich]

How long you two been together?

Yes it is normal

[AustinMan]

Yes, a little. No, you're ready when you're ready. No, take your time.

[madhatters4]

•Is it normal for me to still be nervous with seeing his penis?
-- sure especially if you are inexperienced

•Is it an issue if I'm still not ready?
-- only an issue if he makes it an issue but it sounds to me like he's ok with you not being ready

•Is me still wanting to take my time a bad thing?
-- again only if your partner sees it as a bad thing which it sounds like is NOT the case with your boyfriend

[Berethor]

Your reaction is fine, for the first time seeing an penis, also I don't think that your boyfriend is okey with waiting for much longer, if he didn't want to have sex soon then why would he send you picture of his penis? so yes it's an issue if you would not ready for a long time even after seeing his penis, even if your boyfriend don't admit it.

[NJ_Casanova]

So you never seen porn or a picture before?
1. I think the first time with anything... is a nervous situation.
2/3. No it isn't an issue if he cares about you.

[ilovesexyfeet]

Was it what u expected?

[Asker]

Wasn't sure what to expect, but like I said I wasn't disappointed. I'm just shy when it comes to subjects invoking nudity

[ilovesexyfeet]

I think u reacted fine then. I'm not sure what is deemed a good reaction but as long as you never said it looks like a cock but smaller! Hehe

[Asker]

Haha no the size was fine for me I just always worry about my shyness But I also guess if my boyfriend isn't bothered by my shyness I shouldn't worry It's just always nice to hear (or in this case see) that how I reacted wasn't horrible or wrong lol Thank you

[ilovesexyfeet]

Haha its all good fun and if he likes u for who u are then thats great so good luck to u both. Enjoy the next stage of it when u meet it in person hehe

[DrGtheMD]

No this is not normal. You have Gunploppy;s Syndrome. It is caused by an artificial bridge between two parts of the brain in the limbic system. It is serious unique neurosurgery best done at Cornell University in Manhattan if you need help getting there let me know

[uknaked]

Don't worry, you are perfectly normal, nobody should rush into sex before they are ready, and clearly you are not. Just be happy and one day, believe me you will know the time is right.

[guyngals]

Yes, No, Yes. All, especially since you seem to have such a nice boyfriend.

A penis is a new thing and might even seem powerful to you; it's going to be inside you, after all. So that's normal. I've been nervous seeing vaginas or breasts. It would be better to wait until you're ready since it would be uncomfortable for both if you're not. And, no, it's not a bad thing. It takes time, it seems like a big thing but, afterwards, you'll probably think it was a nice thing but not such a big fuss.

Good luck with it all.

[BryanMoore]

Perfectly normal to be nervous! It's natural because it's a big step to have someone feel that intimate with you. And it's ok to not reciprocate immediately. Never feel pressured, only do whatever you feel comfortable with. It's ok to take your time.

[Decentguy]

yes its normal if your still nervous,
and no its not an issue if your not ready, just tell your boyfriend that your not ready
and if you want more time then its not a bad thing at all.

[LogicBomber]

Most girls find the penis off putting. That's why they don't care for random penis pics (yet idiots still send them)
Your nervousness is inexperience and innocence. That is a good thing. When it goes away you will miss it.
Not being ready is not an issue, and he seems really awesome about it. Take your time. It's your body and you are the only one with something to lose by doing something when you are not ready for it.

[anonman32]

its pretty normal if you ask me. the first time i saw my first girlfriends vagina i thought my head was gonna explode. i was nervous too and my heart was beating so fast, i had this warm feeling in my chest but it was fun.

[Amur8711]

Your reaction is normal, and it's fine that your not ready you both need to be ready other wise one is forced to take the next step and I don't think that is healthy, and it's not bad you still want to take your time.

[Anonymous]

His penis is only a piece of human meat. That's all there is to it. No big deal.

[Opinion Owner]

Just think about it: ALL men have one. Just like we all have a nose.