I'm attracted to my Stepsister. I think she is too?

[Anonymous]

Before I go into detail, I'm not a troll. Please believe me cause nobody else does. My parents divorced right before I turned 11. 3 years ago my mom met a guy she really liked. He had 2 daughters, one 1 year older than me and one 4 years older. I have a sister that's 3 years older than me. Anyway, they ended up moving in with us this past January. Living at the house is my mom, her husband, and his daughter. When I first met her I instantly found her attractive, but I knew I couldn't do anything. She was really nice, but when they moved in things changed. She started flirting with me a little. The reason I'm confused is because when we're out, she acts like we're not brother and sister. I'm mixed so I look black while she is white. Because of this when the two of us go out we look like boyfriend and girlfriend. Me and her went to an amusement park last Saturday and things were weird. While we walked through the park she would put my arm around her shoulders. When we stood in line for a ride she was standing in front of me. She stepped back so her butt was pretty much touching my private area. She stood there for like a minute then the line started moving. We rode this log ride and she was laying in front of me. When we were about to drop she acted like she was scared and said "Hold me" and she put my arms around her under her breasts. The whole day was awkward. She hasn't been too weird since then, but a couple days ago she did something a little strange. Me and her stayed up all night to watch movies and we slept on the floor of our family room. Nothing weird happened that night, but the next morning I work up and we were spooning. I had an erection so I jumped up and got breakfast. I thought she was sleeping when I woke up, but when she woke up she said "You were excited this morning weren't you?". I just laughed and tried to play it off. I like her, but we're brother and sister. I'm 16 and she is 17. How could I make things less weird? Please help me out.

[madhatters4]

just to play devil's advocate
"she would put my arm around her shoulders."
- that isn't all to romantic. i know guys who do this with guys, girls who do this with girls and girls and guys who do it with each other. i do it with my female cousins sometimes

"when we stood in line for a ride she was standing in front of me. She stepped back so her butt was pretty much touching my private area. She stood there for like a minute then the line started moving. "
-- perhaps this was a matter of pure circumstance. you were in a confined area. she probably preferred to be closer to you than a stranger?

the sleeping thing... i mean the spooning is interesting. but some women don't necessarily see it as romantic but rather just comforting and since it occurred in the night who knows who moved closer

all that said I don't think the evidence here says she's into you. you are attracted to her so you may look for things to validate your feelings. but certainly keep being on the look out for stuff.

[Anonymous]

You two technically aren't related, so in general, I don't think it would be wrong for you two to be together. However, you are treading dangerous waters if you two try to get together while living under the same roof. If you have a nasty breakup, or anything of the sort, it'll be hell living together.

Luckily, you both are in your late teens, and will probably both be outta the house in a couple years. Then its free game. Once you no longer live under your parents' roof, i don't see why you couldn't be with her. However, you risk the disapproval of your family, and possible even being disowned. Its up to you whether you think the risk is worth it.

[crimsonqueen]

You're not brother and sister, biologically, and you clearly don't really see her as your sister. And you don't have to, you didn't decide for your parents to marry each other, they did.

I think these are normal impulses for hormonal teenagers. Especially when you live together and spend a lot of time together and in each other's physical space. So you are not weird or creepy or perverted and it falls on your parents for never thinking of or discussing this.

My advice is to leave it to get it out there. Just bring it up to your parents. Say it was a difficult adjustment and you can't control your feelings. Do not act on them. That is just asking for trouble.

You're fine. You guys are just teenagers. Don't feel bad or ashamed or weird.

[crimsonqueen]

*or get it out

[Anonymous]

I was in that situation my parents divorced when I was younger my dad hasbt remarried but he has a girlfriend and she has a son ( 1 year younger than me I'm just going to call him B ) and two daughters my dad considers them to be step siblings of my brother and I. anyway I met him when i was 13 and I dismissed any idea of a romantic relationship with him. Then one day he started asking personal questions which I answered then when my brother and i stayed the night we all hangout in my bros. room B started groping my boob and lying ontop of me and then he started pressuring me into sleeping with him and I have in to this day it's my biggest regret in life enen though I had a crush in him. I was 16 and B was 15 by the way.

[nerms123]

Although it's not technically wrong because you're not related, I would say your stepsister has issues and her behavior is pretty dumb. It's bad judgement for her to come on to you so much while you have to live together. I would suggest trying to avoid her and when she tries to make you act like her boyfriend in public, refuse to do it and try not to let her touch you. Also don't flirt back with her.

[Jaye234]

Oh wow! Ok well have you talked to her about this? You need to. If she's acting in this way she could get braver and really try something with you. From what you wrote she shouldn't be behaving like that in the first place. And if things get worse and she knows what she's doing is extremely inappropriate tell your mom.

[Blink101]

I think you should talk to your mom in private about this. It might be something she and the father need to address with your step sister as the parents. She might just be teasing you but it's not harmless and it is inappropriate.

[BuchitaBuchys]

She's family bro.

[ravidricha96]

I've always wondered how one should go about this.
In terms of a morality thing, or whether it's incest or not, I would not consider it incest or anything immoral. She is not related to you.
However, the reason I would avoid it personally is because you live with her. Like, you can't escape if something goes awry like a friendship or relationship.
If you're weirded out, I suggest talking to your mom about this.

[hollymc]

um. talk to her about it?

[Asker]

I was going to but I'm not sure how to.

[hollymc]

Well she obviously is all over you in a sexual way on purpose. So ask her about it, tell her how you feel and then see what she wants to do about it. Be straight up.

[CheerGirl38139]

It happens man. Don't over think it. 🙋

[sassygirl13]

It's normal. You are not related. Didn't grow up togather. She is basically an attractive stranger till now.
Try to talk to you mom about it. Otherwise it will be complicated soon.

[helloitsmethere]

Just remember that she is family.

[BusinessBasketball]

Go for it. It's your life

[Am1625]

Its fine and cool you can go and atrract her and have fun with her she really wants to have it so enjoy

[Anonymous]

You guys are too young. If you were older the two of you deciding to establish a relationship whether it’s sexual or not is all up to you & would be OKAY. Tell her it makes you uncomfortable & you don’t want to do anything with her because it jeopardizes your relationship & new family.

[Anonymous]

she's your step sister... no blood relations and she is not your real sister. If you're parents got divorced, she would no longer be a "step sister" just another person. It's not incest.

Go for it, man.

[Anonymous]

Y'alls hormones are raging. Young kids these days.. Quit messin w each other. Family is family