Girls, do you think men are scared of female sexuality?

[Fortheholidays]

1. Do think its generally men that have a distorted vision on female sexuality or society as a whole? 2. If you could make changes to how female sexuality is viewed what would it be? 3. Have you ever felt you couldn't talk about all aspects of your sexuality with a S/O and why? 4. Have you ever felt an S/O valued their orgasm over yours? 5. Would you say on average of men you have been with; men have a lack of/satisfactory/high education about sex? 6. How do you feel after "bad dick" / bad sex? 7. How do you feel after "good dick" / good sex? 8. Do you believe good and regular orgasms are linked to your temperament? 9. Do you often feel comfortable during sex? 10. What makes you feel confident during sex? 11. "Foreplay should start from the moment women wake up". What do you think about this comment? 12. Do believe the average men you encounter have the capability to mentally stimulate you? 13. If no, why? 14. Have any comments you'd like to share in relation to female sexuality? Thanks for answering the questions if you did :)

[LittleMissCuriousity]

1. Do think its generally men that have a distorted vision on female sexuality or society as a whole? I think at this point it's society as a whole, but it's just more extreme in men.

2. If you could make changes to how female sexuality is viewed what would it be? Sex is not supposed to hurt her, consent is important, not every woman wants have a threesome, not every woman is secretly attracted to other women, orgasms are not necessary for conception, women have naturally higher libidos than men... I could keep going.

3. Have you ever felt you couldn't talk about all aspects of your sexuality with a S/O and why? My ex didn't much care about what I did and didn't like. He made it fairly clear over the course of our relationship that he had no interest in realizing my fantasies.

4. Have you ever felt an S/O valued their orgasm over yours? With my ex, I had to demand an orgasm before sex or I didn't get one, so yes.

5. Would you say on average of men you have been with; men have a lack of/satisfactory/high education about sex? Most guys use porn to educate themselves, which doesn't help when it's porn that's geared towards men.

6. How do you feel after "bad dick" / bad sex? Irritated.

7. How do you feel after "good dick" / good sex? Elated.

8. Do you believe good and regular orgasms are linked to your temperament? Oh, without a doubt. I tend to masturbate a lot more when I'm stressed as well, and it definitely helps.

9. Do you often feel comfortable during sex? Most often, yes.

10. What makes you feel confident during sex? Knowing that the guy is into it, and me.

11. "Foreplay should start from the moment women wake up". What do you think about this comment? I agree. My emotions aren't automatically linked to my libido, but they do affect it. If a guy is warm and affectionate, I'm always ready for sex.

12. Do believe the average men you encounter have the capability to mentally stimulate you? I used to think so.

13. If no, why? Honestly, this site. So many of the men on here are closed minded, judgmental, and misogynistic.

14. Have any comments you'd like to share in relation to female sexuality? If you don't have a vagina, you don't understand female sexuality. I don't have a penis, I don't understand male sexuality. It's basic common sense.

[Fortheholidays]

In relation to question, would you say im asking the right questions to make an attempt of understanding? Would you say this is a step in the right direction?

[Fortheholidays]

Also thank you very much, another perfect reply :)

[LittleMissCuriousity]

Definitely! I appreciate that your questions are more open and not loaded. You seem to be avoiding a lot of the assumptions people make when they ask women about sex. Honestly, the biggest thing you need to know about female sexuality is that everyone is different. We all have different tastes, and that's natural.

[Fortheholidays]

Good to know I'm heading in the right direction. All the people who had the sexual lives even relationships outside sex always taught me to listen to women. That it'd turn out better for me if I did, I'd like to think that this will work out good for me too haha

[LittleMissCuriousity]

Believe it or not, we like it when people admit they don't know what we want. It means that we can clear the air without feeling like we're being judged.

[Fortheholidays]

I'll make sure to keep this in mind, anything else at all?

[LittleMissCuriousity]

Yeah, ignore guys who claim they know what women want. Ask women.

[hollygoeslightly]

1. Do think its generally men that have a distorted vision on female sexuality or society as a whole?

Society as a whole.

2. If you could make changes to how female sexuality is viewed what would it be?

That it is far more "fluid" than people think... and I think the same goes for guys. Less labels more about experiences at certain points in time because of how you feel.

3. Have you ever felt you couldn't talk about all aspects of your sexuality with a S/O and why?

Yes - LTR for 10 years and he was very vanilla. Towards the end I realised I was less so.

4. Have you ever felt an S/O valued their orgasm over yours?

Yes - my LTR pretty much demanded sex of me when I'd driven him 4 hours one way and 4 hours back to visit family and he couldn't understand I was tired. Genuinely!

5. Would you say on average of men you have been with; men have a lack of/satisfactory/high education about sex?

I'd say men seem pretty knowledgable - but whether that knowledge works in "real world" terms I'm not convinced (porn attitudes, porn speak... check the boundaries first.)

6. How do you feel after "bad dick" / bad sex?

Disappointed!

7. How do you feel after "good dick" / good sex?

Euphoric. Like the whole world is warm. Can last weeks after if he was good.

8. Do you believe good and regular orgasms are linked to your temperament?

Yes - masturbation as a form of stress relief is a must.

9. Do you often feel comfortable during sex?

Yes very.

10. What makes you feel confident during sex?

Knowing that the person is into me and that I can be who I want to be with them.

11. "Foreplay should start from the moment women wake up". What do you think about this comment?

Not always - sometimes you want a nice quickie!

12. Do believe the average men you encounter have the capability to mentally stimulate you?

I tend to seek these ones out - intelligence is an aphrodisiac for me.

13. If no, why?

n/a

14. Have any comments you'd like to share in relation to female sexuality?

Women are just as sexual as men - despite what we are led to believe.

[Fortheholidays]

Thanks for sharing, you were very helpful :)

[hollygoeslightly]

No problem!

[Rocket_Queen]

So I don't knoe I'm a good one for this, but lets see..

1) definitely society as a whole

2) contrary to popular belief... we actually love it... and need it... at every age

3) I have never felt like that. But I dated 3 guys who had 10 years on me at least, so being open about discussing sex wasn't so taboo

4) Never. I guess I'm lucky huh?

5)

[Rocket_Queen]

Sorry didn't get to finish... 5) No I think they knew what they were doing, some better than others, but all more than some horror stories I've heard other ladies had 6) Bad sex... bad sex to me is different because the only bad sex I've had was angry sex with an ex. Which felt like please just hurry up and get off me 7) Good sex... like your body is floating and you have the most amazing sleep ever, also walkingis difficult 8) No, but you have to ve willing t explore your own body and figure out what gets you to orgasm and a lot of it is mental 9) pleasantly uncomfortable 10) my husband is awesome about letting me know what he likes and what he really enjoyed. That makes me confident 11) So true, and mind foreplay is even better, but also just general comversation, I really love you honey, you look beautiful today helps build up to the moment 12) hmmm... no. The ones who are better at that are those older fellas and they are dang good at it

[Rocket_Queen]

13) young guys are cocky and think they are hot and their physical appearance plus a little lick is all that is needed to provide a woman with orgasm. Older men are confident and know how to work the entire game from the mind to the body. The mindis so much sexier than someones body 14) i think thats it! Sorry I clicked submit too soon

[Fortheholidays]

Thank you, your answers were perfect. I learn't a lot

[Felinegirl]

1. Yes, I do think some people have a distorted view on the other gender's sexuality. This goes both ways. Stereotypes everywhere.
2. Idealy, women should get the same reaction as guys do when they have sex. At some points that means our opinion about female sexuality should change (slut vs player), at some points afjusting our views at men would be better in my opinion (anticonception)

[Felinegirl]

Damn I was gonna change that but accidentally clicked submit. I hate some parts of this site -.- (Contraception was the word I was looking for) 3. Yeah, I once felt like something was wrong with me for wanting it more than my boyfriend did. 4. Nope 5. I usually only date smart guys, so nah most I dated were high here. 6. Disappointed and slightly crappy/dirty. 7. Satisfied and blissful. How do you feel? 8. They're mostly linked to mood and mental connection. 9. Usually 10. The guy being nice, considerate and mostly enthousiastic. Him being someone I like of course, otherwise it's a waste of time. 11. It "should" start ehenever both partners are happy with it to start. 12. No. I find most people nice but only a few are (mentally) interesting to me in a sexual/romantic way. 13. See 12 14. I think I already did :p oh and if anyone actually reads this, please don't hate if I sound too much like a feminist. Which I am. Also Im slightly scared to post this, but I accidentally did already anyways.

[Fortheholidays]

You provided a lot of helpful information, thanks :)

[Felinegirl]

No problem, you asked

[AzureGirl]

Before I answer this, do you mean sexuality as in sex itself or sexual orientation? I just wanted to be sure! My brain isn't totally working yet😅

[Fortheholidays]

Sexuality itself, also if its morning no need to rush lol

[fauchelevent]

1. I'd say it's probably society as a whole.

2. I'd scrap the idea some people have that women only have sex to please their partners or that sex isn't important to us.

3. Nah, I'm pretty comfortable with it.

4. Hmm, perhaps towards the beginning of our relationship but we were both super young and it was the first sexual relationship for either of us. It picked up when we started trying new things and became more comfortable.

5. I've only been with the one guy so I can't really say much but he was pretty knowledgeable and knew the basics when we first got together, just obviously hadn't had chance to actually do them.

6. Disappointed, I guess.

7. Pretty damn happy :P

8. Not sure, possibly, I guess?

9. Yeah, usually.

10. I guess it's more that I know this guy, y'know? I've known him for like 9 years, I'm pretty much completely comfortable and confident around him. I guess verbal reassurance would be the most important for me, I like subtlety but, to feel comfortable, I really do need the real spoken times when he tells me that I look good or he enjoys what's happening.

11. Sure, I guess. If you've been building up to it all day, then it does feel even better.

12. Possibly. Most of the people I meet are people I'd be cool being friends with so they have to be mentally stimulating, I think, to keep me interested in that.

13. N/A

14. Not really.

[Fortheholidays]

Thanks for answering, your comments were valuable :)

[Luci92]

1. Definitely society as a whole.

2. Make views of male and female sexuality equal.

3. No, but I'm only 16 and don't have that much experience with S/Os

4. No I think we're both more focused on getting the other off than ourselves.

5. 6. 7. 8. 9. & 10. Not really applicable.

11. How about "foreplay should start from the moment men and women wake up." Both can participate equally in foreplay or as desired then.

12. No because the only guys I encounter that are socially acceptable for me to date are teenage boys. Sorry but it's true lol

13. If no, why?

[alor1an]

1) society as a whole 2) i would drop the double standards and say people f*ck whoever they want. and before anyone starts calling me a feminist, please note that i am pagan. and in the pagan culture, men and women have open expression of sexuality and they can f*ck whomever they choose, whenever they choose. 3) yes. because i feel as though i would be looked down on for certain aspects 4) always. almost every guy i've met felt their orgasm was more important. 5) high education 6) i don't chase bad dick. if the sex is bad, then they're is no point 7) refreshed in a manner of speaking 8) for the most part, yes. but i have found it's easier to give myself an orgasm due to number 4. 9) sure, but i don't think that's the same thing as relaxed 10) knowing that my partner is just as pleased as i am 11) i do not agree. i do not desire constant sex, so this is unnecessary 12) no. 13) it would appear most of the men i encounter do not favor intelligence, and i often feel like i'm smarter than them. however, there are some that i meet that are smarter than me, or do favor intelligence. that's when it gets fun. 14) yes. sh*t the f*ck up and realize we are all human. every human is a sexual being, not just you. your sex is not the only important one, so try not to be so selfish. p. s. society is not always right about everything, so stop trying to push those standards on men and women because it's crap. cheers.

[alor1an]

there... oops.

[Bigclit]

I don't think men are scared of women I think they are scared of getting rejected and everyone doesn't like being rejected. We as a society slut shame not only men but women too Taylor Swift is known to be a serial dater and have multiple boyfriends both men and women are tough on her because of that but if she were a man no one would say a thing expect he's a playboy/player. I'd definitely change that view slut shaming; women should be free to have sex if she'd like and not worry about having sex with too many people. Yes I have certain friends who are prudes and they wouldn't understand so I can't share everything sexual and non sexual things with certain people. No my boyfriend make sure I cum before he cums; sex ends when the male comes so it's really up to someone's partner to make that decision. A lot of guys think they know about sex and how to please a women but most don't i have to teach them what I like and how to get me off every women is different. For me there is bad sex/bad dick when I'm having sex it's an emotional thing for me... we have to have a connection. I had an ex boyfriend and I loved him some much and we broke up I had sex with him after the break up and it was horrible. And before the break the sex was amazing so for my it's about having a connection that's good sex for me. I have no idea maybe temperature has something to do with it.. don't want the room to be boiling hot or freezing cold. Yes very comfortable during sex. I feel confident when a guy says dirty things in my ear like your pussy feels good etc. Hm well foreplay should start before sex how about that? That's better. Well I have a boyfriend and he stimulates my mind I like that i'm a huge history need i love to learn about history. Nope that's it. I know my answers are not numbered but hopefully you'll know what's what.

[Fortheholidays]

Not numbering was not a problem at all, you gave a lot of insightful detail. Thanks for helping me :)

[Bigclit]

Yay I helped lol I'm glad your questions were answered. Anything else?

[Fortheholidays]

I'm not sure, do you think there was anything else that would be beneficial for me to ask? I want to be a good lover/good piece of dick lmao

[Bigclit]

Lol just be mindful of her and her needs

[Katie2244]

there are some men out there who understand but a large proportion don't and a lot seem to be very quick to pass judgement on women! it makes me very sad sometimes :(

[Fortheholidays]

I'd really like to be part of the group of some men that do, could you do the questionnaire at all? I'd like to understand this problem and women better

[Katie2244]

I will have a go at it in a minute but a lot of the questions seem to be about male-female relationships and my partner is a girl. I will have a go though

[Fortheholidays]

Sorry for the inconvenience and also thank you for trying :)

[EllenVonWhiskers]

I think there are many men who are afraid of being rejected by girls, I can't imagine any of them being afraid of us being sexual given the massive amounts of them who enjoy porn.

Personally I have had insecurities at times. Am I a slut, should express my full desires, or should I force myself to be less sexual in an attempt to "have more substance" to my life. Society pushes sexual freedom with one hand and admonishes us for indulging with the other. I can choose to handle 10 cocks at once and society says good for you do what you like, but your a fucking cumwhore.

Because of this yes I don't tell men I become involved with how many partners I've been with, nor do I tell them my kinkiest thoughts.

Regardless I do have a lot of confidence in bed because I'm doing something I enjoy, and if I'm honest, very good at😊. It has a natural feel to it that puts me at ease as well.

Yes I've been with a few guys who have either been lost in the moment and turned selfish or somehow thought sex was a race they had to win. I love my partner to orgasm, but it's much better when they feel the same way.

I've only been with one virgin in my life and he was a 14 year old boy stabbing wildly at a 14 year old girl so I can't use that as a good tool to judge, but every guy since then has had at least satisfactory prior experience with girls.

The feeling after bad sex is always frustration, the feeling after good sex is always contentment and warmth.

Stress can definitely keep a girl from having orgasms. I'm not sure if men are affected the same way or if ED is strictly a biological issue.

Foreplay should start when it starts. I'm not one of those selfish needy women who wants her man to leave trails of petals and sweet little notes on my desk, it just comes off as cutesy and not something sexually mature people would need to know what's up when the time comes and to act on it. I guess that's another thing society tells men that's wrong, that we are complex and difficult creatures that need tricking and coddling to get us in the sack. Or maybe I only think that because I'm not a romantic😄

Average guys? Like the kind I see at Walmart or walking around campus? No I don't imagine very many of them at all have the ability to satisfy me personally, given my need for a certain type of sexual and psychological stimulation. That's why I've sought company with men much older than me since I was 16.

Final comments? Maybe but I've run out of space on this post😆

[Fortheholidays]

Thank you, another perfect answer for this question. Thank you for being honest :)

[sicosico]

I dont think they even understand it, it is complicated even for females

[Fortheholidays]

I'm starting to feel this way. Any chance you can do the questionnaire so I have a chance to better myself?