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The guy im talking to wants me to finger his anus? Is he gay?

This guy puts off a weird vibe for me. He acts gay, dresses like he is gay, but he is in the army and very manly. He always plays around and acts gay but when I confronted him about it he started laughing like I was crazy. Yes, we have had sex.. And no, he didn't have a probably getting hard at all.. He's very into it.. And practically obsessed with my boobs.. So I know for a fact he is attracted to me. However, I felt like he was possibly bi so I asked and he said no. That he had never done anything with a guy and wasn't gay at all that he just thinks it's funny and it's his sense of humor. He always talks about his but and twerks.. And he cuts his jeans off as booty shorts and always talks about his tight clothing.. and when we have sex if he pulls out for longer than 5 seconds he gets soft. Which made me think maybe he isn't attracted to me? Now today.. He asked me to stick my pinky in his Anus while giving him head. I spoke with some guy friends and they were also like "wtf". Is this normal? Do STRAIGHTS guys like this? And why would a straight guy always act gay?
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Also, if I was to do this... How would I even go about it? I've never even done it before.
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It's not just the fingering that made me think that. I question him before he even asked me to! FOR THOSE WHO ARE FREAKING OUT ON ME.
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  • I've been there and, based on my experience, can tell you that he sounds to have strong gay tendencies. It could very well be that he nevertheless harbors some interest in women, which would put him somewhere in the continuous scale of sexuality where the two extremes are gay and straight.

    However, it sounds like he is really not at the "straight" extreme, and probably closer to the "gay" end of the scale. There are many men who just cannot accept that for a long time, often for a lifetime... Saying you're crazy for asking if he's gay does not make him straight!.. However, asking you to finger his asshole, and the fact that he goes soft on you during sex are strong indicators of his gay tendencies...

    • Thank you. That exactly what I was getting at. Not just the fingering thing. It's his entire set. I feel like he would tell me if he was attracted to guys at all though?

    • He might tell you, if he can tell himself first. This is not only about being gay or straight... Think about anything else in life people have trouble coming in terms with, which is not limited to sex. In order to admit anything to other people, one has got to admit it to himself/herself first. And, very often, it is not an easy task. The hardest person with whom to be honest in life is one's own self.

  • I've read some of these comments and I'm just going to tell it to you straight: It doesn't make him gay. I can't say anything about the booty shorts, but straight men are just as capable of being aroused by their prostate as gay men. Plenty of straight men get their prostates played with by their girlfriend or wife.
    You can look up online how other people do it (I'm not an expert on playing with the prostate)

  • I can tell you LOTS of straight men like a finger in their butt. Or like just the edge of their butthole massaged. Some straight guys even like to be pegged. It doesn't make you gay to like your prostate massaged.

  • Yes straight guys like this. The male g-spot is in the anus so it isn't uncommon and it doesn't make them gay

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  • He's probably not. Ever heard of a prostate massage?

  • If you thinks he's gay, what are you with him?

  • Most men (who have experienced it) enjoy anal stimulation. The prostate is just inside the man's anus, and is very sensitive to stimulation. So no, that doesn't make him gay.

  • He's at least bi

  • nah girl, some dudes like that shit.

  • He's not gay, it has nothing at all to do with sexual orientation...

  • Go for it. A guy can cum even more with anal stimulation. It's where a guys g spot is.
    I'm 100% straight but let my fiancé do this while she sucks me. Makes me cum harder and more onto her

  • No! That's just silly!

    • It's not just the fingering that made me think that. I question him before he even asked me to!

    • What was his reply?

    • " wtf hahahahah" "no wtf" "why would you say that hahahahahah" then said i owed him for thinking that.

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  • Are you a guy? If so, it's gay. If you're a female, then it's not. People these days😒😒😒

    • Along with every other way he acts and the things he does... Him asking me to do this is deff WEIRD and leans me toward homosexuality because of the other things. If he would have asked me to do it without the other accusation I wouldn't even be here. So it's not "people these days"

    • Do you understand what the definition of "gay" is? He would only enjoy it if it were to be done by a male for him to be gay.

    • And that could be possible? He could be bi? Which still is gay if he does like guys.

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  • Yea apparently that's what these nerds getting in these days, smh this world need a big jaxked athletic dude to save em

  • Most guys dont like this but funnily enough to achieve the best orgasm there is a little thing in your arse which will trigger an amazing orgasm personaly I've never tried it but its supposed to be much better than fapping

  • No dont mean he's gay

  • Yeah I would love if a woman stuck her fingers in my ass.

  • he's not gay and it feels good

  • No, he's not gay.

  • Two different issues.
    First acts gay etc.

    2nd putting a finger or licking a guys or girls ass feels amazing and girls always think a guys gay if he likes it but I don't want a guy doing it lol. Some girls are into it and love it and even initiate it. Why not do it if he likes it.

  • No he is not gay. He loves women and your boobs. He just has a hard time staying hard with out stimulation on his dick. Most straight men love getting their prostate played with.

  • There are pleasure sensors back there he could just have a kink for it and wants to have a bigger experience. As for him being gay I don't know. He could be bi it's completely likely. I wouldn't say it's normal for straight guys , but for bi men it's natural.

  • Many heterosexual people do that to one another, and enjoy that.
    It has nothing to do with homosexuality.
    This doesn't mean he can't be homosexual, still.

  • Ask him to finger your anus

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