Do you think slut shaming is good or bad for society?

[BuchitaBuchys]

I'm talking about slut shaming men AND women.

We here in the states are quite prudish in my opinion, myself included.
Men don't realize how easy it is to get a "whore" label.
It can after people find out you masturbate, after you reject a guy, if you have big boobs and wear a tight shirt, wearing a bikini, sending nudes to your husband, homemade porn, even breastfeeding, and even for being a victim of rape.
Oh, and also being promiscuous of course.

Here's a story of a mother being harassed for breastfeeding. The man told her to go somewhere else and even called her a whore.
https://www.usatoday.com/story/news/nation-now/2016/06/16/new-mom-verbally-attacked-breastfeeding-public-target-connecticut/85972164/

Here's a story of a 15yr old girl who's "friend" took a pic of her without her consent and uploaded it on Snapchat. The girl was harassed and called names and she ended up killing herself:
https://wgntv.com/2016/06/10/girl-15-commits-suicide-after-nude-snapchat-video-leak/

I never understood why men slut shame women. I'm not saying women don't, we do. But it's usually out of competition or jealousy. This does not make it right or acceptable by any means though.
But don't men benefit from promiscuous women? On this site alone, so many guys throw fits that they can't get girls. Some even saying that all they want is sex but women make them jump through hoops. Why call her a slut then for enjoying the same act you wanted, with you? Don't you also enjoy seeing a woman's silhouette in her tight dress or whatever? Why discourage it by calling her a slut or saying "she asked for it"?
I'm not saying men don't get slut shamed (and no, player/fuckboy shaming IS NOT the same thing), and I'm not saying it's good to encourage men to be shamed. But this affects women a lot more.

Anyways, do you think slut shaming benefits or harms society overall?

[Rawrzz]

"It's usually out of competition or jealousy." Yeah, no, that justifies it

Slut shaming is an instinctual way to derive the greatest genetic value to add to our species development and survival. If you want to understand slut shaming, then understand human nature. Our instincts are like 100,000 years old. At least more than 20,000. To our instincts, our population is not almost 8 billion people clogging up the works. It is like a couple thousand. So, reproduction is a very, very important issue to the survival of the human race--our instincts think. So. Then we get to reproductive methods. Women have eggs; men have sperm. Sperm is effectively infinite; eggs are quite finite. So how would you best use these resources?

Well, think of it as products. If you had something very expensive and something very cheap to sell, how would you use them? Well, you'd try to get the most money you could for the expensive item, and try to sell as much of the cheap stuff as possible. It's the same thing with sperm and eggs. Sperm is cheap; eggs are expensive. This makes females the more important biological entity, and 90% of males disposable, incidentally

For ideal population growth, you would try to use as much sperm as possible, while targeting which eggs get used with which sperm donor. After all, to make the best use of the eggs, you have to use the best possible sperm. So, when a woman is viewed as using her eggs improperly, she is considered to be actively harming human population growth. If a woman doesn't consider the best potential sperm for her eggs and just gives it up to any guy that comes along, then she is perceived to be harming humanity

Naturally, if she picks a subpar mate and then gets pregnant, she loses 9 months of potential reproduction with a better male

As for slut shaming, if human population falls back to dangerous levels, then this idea of slut shaming will become very important to humanity in order to develop the best possible humans. Currently, with contraception and abortion--which our instincts are unaware of--and the vast human population, slut shaming might contribute to a more desirable genepool.

But really. Calling it "bad" is a bit of a stretch, in my opinion. Cancer is bad for society. Tobacco is bad for society. Pervasive fast food is bad for society. Slut shaming is just like any other kind of shaming. It might have a negative effect, but I think it's often overstated. Literally everyone gets shamed for everything

[Rawrzz]

I changed my mind halfway through that sentence. With abortion and contraception, slut shaming is less important. But the idea enforces a sort of eugenics. If females are careless with their eggs, then they will give birth to worse humans than if they had picked a better mate. If they use contraception and abortion, then it's irrelevant, and only the psychological effects remain, which is negative for society. But overall, I would say slut shaming is 50/50 good and bad.

[VinciLee]

Well human beings have evolved so many years to overcome the rule of nature. Animals do everything in order to reproduce, while humans pursue something more meaningful to them. Humans reproduce not only for increasing population, but many other meanings like love towards their partner etc. If, as you said, we should maximize the usability of ova, a woman should have sex with elite men and get pregnant once she reaches reproductive age, give birth, get pregnant, give birth, until her menopause. Men who are categorised as non-elite will never be able to have their own kids because their sperm is valueless and disposable. Do you think this is a society you want to live it? Doesn't it sound like jungle rules? By the way now the world population is exploding, what people really should do is try to control it. Slut shaming isn't a tool to encourage better quality reproduction, contraception and education are. Slut shaming is a tool created by patriarchy (not men) to control women's sexuality

[Rawrzz]

@VinciLee Mmmm. No. Humans that exist today are the exact same humans that existed 100,000 years ago. The only thing that has changed is our access to knowledge. Humans are made up of conscious, rational thought *and* instinct. But instinct wins most of the time. Humans are not geared towards rationality; in fact, a big priority of the frontal lobe--the rational center--is to rationalize instinctual impulses. E. g. "I really want some cake, but it will make me fat. Well, I can just run tomorrow." Whatever "love" means to you, it's simply a measurement of male value contrasted to egg value. Sometimes thought can transcend that, but only very rarely. I'm not saying this is how it "should" be; I'm saying this is how it is. Ha. Well. The "patriarchy". You and I inherently differ in our opinions, as I believe from the dawn of humanity, a men's purpose has always been to protect and provide for women. I don't believe in this "patriarchy" nonsense. Men live for women.

[front2back]

I think both slut shaming and slut praising is dumb. Find people who's sexuality you're compatible with and leave it at that.
Don't expect someone more conservative to like your slutiness and don't expect someone slutty to be okay with your conservativeness.

[Anonymous]

Women get slut shamed all the time and it's disgusting. I've been slut shamed before just for wearing shorts. It does nothing to help society in any way so why can't people just keep it to themselves? I mean there are girls who are ACTUALLY sluts out there (but they still don't really deserve to be shamed for it) but i could ask almost any girl at my school if she's been called a slut before and I guarantee 97% of them have probably been called it. It's actually the most disgusting thing I've ever seen. There are girls I know who get called a slut just because they have a curvy figure and have dated two guys in the course of a year. And from my experience there's girls who date guys three years older than them (realize I'm in high school still) and get called a whore for it but the guys can sleep with a college student and people don't bat an eye? I mean guys still get called gross things like manwhores or dogs or f*ckboys and whatnot but not nearly as much and i feel like it doesn't have a deep meaning as much as being called a slut does (but then again I'm not a guy and I've only been in a few situations where men have been called these things).

Regardless I don't understand why we can't just drop these hurtful words. It would make the world a lot less problematic and maybe we could focus on more important things.

[Nyx_85]

Everyone has a different opinion as to what constitutes being a slut. To many it means having a lot of a casual sex with many different partners. To some it's more about your attitude. To some sleeping with more than one or a few people makes you a slut. And to some having sex outside of marriage makes you a slut. Shaming someone because their lifestyle doesn't reflect your own personal beliefs isn't right. If you want to believe it's wrong to have sex before marriage then fine. That is your right. But that doesn't mean you have to make people feel bad about it.

Should we try to prevent people from engaging in unsafe behaviors and passing on diseases that are already prevalent in our society? Yes. However there are better ways to go about this that don't involve making others feel like shit.

[lumos]

It's bad. This is the kind of stuff teen girls kill themselves over. Adult women too, as a matter of fact. How can something that literally kills people, or at the VERY least kills people's confidence and self-esteem, be good for society?
Sex is not shameful. Feeling sexy is not shameful. Enjoying sex is not shameful. Having protected and consented sex is not shameful. Dressing a certain way that shows off some parts of your body is not shameful. What goes on behind closed doors is nobody else's business (assuming laws aren't being broken or partners aren't being cheated on etc). Slut-shaming is for losers who are more concerned about other people's lives than their own. They should maybe spend a bit less time on other people, and more time sorting out their fucked up issues and priorities.

[karahiri]

It's terrible. I don't know why we're all concerned with what other people do, I'm totally guilty of this as well... I wonder why some men are completely comfortable with women having full sex lives and others think those women are sirens hell-bent on destroying morality.

by the way. I just read your take from a year ago on why you don't hate men. Dude. DUDE... you are amazing. I don't have the words to describe everything that I thought and felt as I read your story. You are a force to be reckoned with. You've also given me a tremendous amount of hope. So... thank you for sharing :)

[BuchitaBuchys]

I know. I used to be a horrible slut shamer. I am not proud of it. I'm still by no means perfect, but I try to not to think so negative of them. And lol thanks. :)

[karahiri]

Yeah I get it. I just met a girl at my gym today, part time stripper who apparently is a fan of fisting :x Lol. I made so. many negative assumptions just based off of that. Then we started chatting and she's actually going to PA school, super sweet persona, etc. I gotta stop jumping the gun lol. You're welcome :)

[JMghow]

Why is it terrible? Sluts are literally the plague rats of the modern age. Having lots of sexual partners both increases one's chances to catch an STD and the number of those whom one can give it too after, and we have reached the point where the CDC reported 36% of women now have genital herpes (which causes cancer) and many STDs are becoming resistant or even immune to treatment (including AIDS). Further, condoms are only realistically about 83% effective, and most "sluts" don't use them. They have already done irreversible damage, and soon our entire species may fall to their foul behavior.

[ak666]

I think we're in a transitioning stage in society where too many women already sleep with their suitors too quickly to make slut shaming practical anymore. Hardly any young man is going to be able to wait until marriage to have sex when there's an army of women available who will have sex much sooner.

I realize this seems to put accountability more on women. I don't think of this in terms of accountability, just what tends to happen. Men approach women usually, men are still the ones generally asking on a date, the aggressors, etc., and young men are horny as hell (maybe young women too, I don't know). The ball is in the woman's court as far as I see in most scenarios as to how soon they can have sex.

Today it just makes sense for women to be able to have many partners along their male counterparts. To shame that behavior no longer seems to do anything positive for society, only negative.

My reasoning ultimately boils down to something like, "Everyone is doing it, so now it's okay" which might seem flawed but it's not based on principle, I'm just trying to look at how we can progress as a society in a way that doesn't leave behind all sorts of depressed people with serious insecurities, waiting for prince charmings or dream girls for their entire lives and dying alone.

So I think it's best now to just stop slut shaming and let every woman embrace her inner slut. It seems the best option now is not abstinence until marriage, but promiscuity before marriage and hopefully finding a way to actually use that to an advantage to help people find the right person.

[ak666]

... and same goes for men. I think we can end "players" who manipulate and lie to women to get in their pants and bring back "playboys" if promiscuity became more socially acceptable. Then horny men could still get into women's pants just as quickly potentially, but without any deceit involved.

[ak666]

Basically a very sexually-open (but hopefully responsible when it comes to STDs and pregnancy) society seems like the next step. I'm thinking legalized prostitution, women being able to openly admit to a guy that she wants sex, more people sleeping around before they settle for the right one -- kind of opposite of our classical virtues, but made practical through contraceptives, professional outlets, better and more realistic sexual education.

[JMghow]

Having lots of sexual partners both increases one's chances to catch an STD and the number of those whom one can give it too after, and we have reached the point where the CDC reported 36% of women now have genital herpes (which causes cancer) and many STDs are becoming resistant or even immune to treatment (including AIDS). Further, condoms are only realistically about 83% effective, and most "sluts" don't use them. Everyone doing it is literally going to kill our species.

[theshewolf]

lets not start praising people for being slutty... i mean both men and women, if my daughter or son ever did something slutty i sure as heck won't be patting her or him on the back and buying her a new purse or him a new game system for it...

[vonasaurus]

a lot of people don't realize that it's retrograde to label someone as a slut because s/he enjoys sex. while i would never take nude pics (or let anyone take them of me), maybe my friend does because it makes her feel beautiful, and no one should be able to deprive her of that.

as long as *insert sex act here* is between consenting adults, then keep calm and sexy-time on.

[sjoes006]

Girls get slut shamed for how they look, physical features they can't even help. If you have a large bust, plump lips, round bum with a skinny waste...

And because slut shaming happens so young it has an immense amount of impact on a girl's self image. She's still figuring all that stuff out and as soon as she gets her period certain societies provide her with these shame labels. So it is hard. It isn't helpful.

The fact is that in many societies young early teen aged girls get labeled sluts for how they have filled out and for maybe not having money to buy larger clothes. A shirt that covered them completely before their period now shows cleavage 3 months later= slut.

[hellionthesage]

Considering the overall negative consequences of promiscuity on the individual and the society in general, yes it is good for the society in fact that is why we do it. Being expected to act in a decent manner is not bad, having standards for the people within a society isn't bad, demanding that you be allowed to do as you will even when it has negative consequences is bad. Its why we shame people who do these things because its unhealthy, its societies immune system acting out against a negative behavior that will if allowed to run rampant be damaging to the society. Every single time promiscuity has been allowed to run unchecked it has resulted in sever damage to the society, it happened in japan, in germany, in rome, in russia and it will inevitablly happen again. Eventually the damage done will be so severe that people will become incredibly conservative but until that happens shaming promiscuity is the only response. Just because some one couldn't handle being shamed or was unjustly shamed doesn't mean its not serving a function it just means it was an unfortunate situation. As for affects, yes it affects women a lot more becaues promiscuity affects women a lot more. They are the ones who raise children in fatherless homes get abortions etc if they are promiscuis so obviously it will be geared towards them because they have the most to lose. Men get shamed for not being promiscuis, in fact you argue with a woman and her immediate response is to attack your sexuality, insult your ability to acquire sex/women. So men do get shamed just as much, more in fact then women its just not in this particular way because again them being promiscuis isn't the issue as they are not the ones who suffer the consequences of it women are.

[Katerina_Belle]

I said bad, but I think it can be good and bad depending on the context.

The scenarios given in this question suggest that it's overall bad.

[feral_shade]

I think the concept in general is good, and it's not new... it goes back thousands of years and spans dozens, if not hundreds of cultures, (remember The Scarlet Letter?)... but the issue is bigger than this question. It's about social standards. Sex is sex... that hasn't changed in 50,000 years however, standards change all the time, well, gradually some things are "public" other things are "private" 2 things are at play here: 1. society is pushing for more of the private things to be considered public 2. the essence of "slutiness" is for someone to do in public what most others consider private. So slut-shaming SEEMS bad because some people are merely going with the flow... so it's unfair that they be treated badly for doing so. I get that. The problem is the flow. If society lowers the standard for decency, that doesn't mean we need to support it... supporting "sluttiness" may seem liberating, but it's really just dehumanizing and makes objectification and sexism more excusable.

[Katerina_Belle]

@feral_shade I agree, like the example you gave about breastfreeding is not bad at all, the woman is not acting in a promiscuous or sexual way. Tbh I think fuck the society, as long you are not harming yourself or anyone around you then do whatever you want. And if there are sluts then there are also fuckboys.

[OlderAndWiser]

It would be helpful if you gave definitions for "slut" and "shaming." Everyone has their own definitions for these terms and they aren't all the same set of definitions.

[BuchitaBuchys]

That's the thing. Everyone makes up their own definitions and then you have old men telling young women to stop doing "whore things" like breastfeeding at Target.

[Antimillennial]

then people say its okay to have your ass out and sit on sinks, and to learn to twerk when theyre 12. slut society

[OlderAndWiser]

@Antimillennial I am not an advocate for an immoral or amoral society.

[Antimillennial]

nice cop out lel

[OlderAndWiser]

@Antimillennial I have no idea what you are talking about.

[madhatters4]

my feeling is a person's promiscuity doesn't effect me so why should i shame them for a behavior that doesn't effect me

[Mustachekitteh]

Due to how easy it is to have others call you that, it's a bad thing.

[mrfoox]

You shouldn't shame anyone in general, slut shaming is bad, directed at both genders.

[juliaaa]

why the fuck do people care about other people's sex lives so much? If I want to sleep with 5 guys in one week, how does that affect anyone else? I'd never do it personally, but if someone else wants to why should I give a fuck. I hate hate hate when people call clothing slutty especially. My mom has told me a couple times that I'm dressed 'sleazy', which is her word for slutty and that I'm 'giving off the wrong vibe'. If a guy thinks he is getting sex based off the clothes I'm wearing then he's an idiot and I won't be talking to him anyway. If a girl wants to wear a tight dress, let her. I like to wear tight clothes and show a little more skin when I go out at night (not over the top, but more skin than would be appropriate during the day) and I don't think that speaks negatively about my character nor does it say anything about my sex life. I dress that way because it makes me feel attractive. I like to CELEBRATE my body and that should be prized, not shamed. End rant.

[19blondie76]

You should RESPECT your body.

[juliaaa]

@19blondie76 So I don't respect my body because I like to show how beautiful it is? Wow that's a fucked up view.

[madiangel]

the concept should not exists :)

[19blondie76]

It serves a purpose. It should exist.

[SarahsSummer]

anytime you publicly shame someone for their personal and private decisions and activities its bad for society... Laissez-faire.

[SweetHomicidalQueen]

Shaming is bad in general unless you're a pedo/rapist/murderer

[CheerGirl38139]

Outside of child abusers or sex offenders... I can't see where ANY sort of shaming is EVER helpful... and even those two extreme examples we could live without tbh.

[19blondie76]

Shame is a good thing. Far too little of it going on today. It can correct bad behavior and deter it from happening in the future. That is a GOOD thing! Slutty behavior is risky behavior. Causes problems. Health and relationship. shame SHām/ noun noun: shame 1. a painful feeling of humiliation or distress caused by the consciousness of wrong or foolish behavior.

[BuchitaBuchys]

Lol that @19blondie76 chick is annoying af with her anti slut crusade. She even thinks breastfeeding is slutty. My god is that how annoying my prudish ways seem? I hope I never become that hateful towards women's bodies that I even shame breastfeeding.

[CheerGirl38139]

@19blondie76 What a ridiculous thing to say. What you do is your business, what other people do in the sex life, is NOT. "slut" is a foul and ambiguous word. People should choose not to use it. Shamers like yourself insist of defining it, and when you point out that it can't really be quantified, they're too obtuse to face the facts. And for this reason ma'am... you are blocked from my GaG life. Have a nice day. :)

[godfatherfan]

I think it is a myth. If it exists, it is mostly among women. Once your out of high school, men don't go around calling women names. I have only heard women calling women things like slut. So it is not the issue most people make it out to be. Sure there are juvenile men out there. but a very small amount and not enough to make it an issue.

[BuchitaBuchys]

The guy called a woman a whore for breastfeeding in public. On this site alone, you see many men, yes older than 18, calling women sluts all the time. Personally, I can honestly say I've never, ever been called a slut by a woman. But trust me, men are more than happy to use that as an insult. "You approach men? Lol you're a desperate slut. Women don't approach men." Male age about 40-50. He said this after I mentioned that I prefer to be the one to ask men out, than to get approached. "You don't want to go out with me? It's because you want to stay single to be a hoe and do hoe things." Male 35-40 was a co-worker who told me this because I refused to date him when I was 17,18. "Whatever hoe, you're not even that cute. You're just another slut I thought I could fuck. Bye bitch." Various men, ages 20-40 when I reject them. Not a single woman has ever called me a slut.

[godfatherfan]

when a guy gets rejected, esp if alcohol is involved, is going to say something like that because he is mad and embarrassed. he isn't going around to other people and screaming it. What you described is very different then 'slut shamming" I also, the majority of men and women on this site are immature morons that create false accounts. So when you have both underage and the bottom of the barrel idiots. again, can hardly use this site for statistics sake. I am talking in every day life with those you interact with. I would certainly hope a 35-40 yr old would not date a 17-18 yr old. It would be strictly for sex and there is nothing you would have in common. and now that I have written this much I see that you must be one of those trolling idiots as well. Since you simply wrote all the things that would cause someone to get steamed up. Grow up moron...

[BuchitaBuchys]

How am I a trolling idiot? I'm just telling you that's what happened in my life. The 40-50yr old up did not ask me out. He wasn't interested in me. He just didn't feel that women should approach men and said they're sluts if they do. I don't understand why you throw insults when I'm merely trying to have a sensible discussion.

[godfatherfan]

I wasn't going to bother replying because I think you just a guy with a woman account. but if your not, the reason is that IF someone was going to say anything nasty, there are just a few reasons they would. You happen to list every reason that someone would do that. rejection, asking someone out that is WAY too old for you, etc. it is too convenient that you hit every 'exception to the rule'. so not buying it.

[BuchitaBuchys]

Lol do I look like a man? Yes, that pic is of me. I'm not trying to troll anyone. And they're not as much "exceptions" as you think.

[JuicyBrain]

People should start minding their own business. People have a right to like sex and they have the right to lead their lives the way they intend to. Nobody is forcing you to be friends with these people. Just stay away from them if you disaprove. I am sure they won't mind.

[Antimillennial]

they try to force thier slut selves on to people, and get butt hurt when you dont want to bother with them. especially females. theyll make up stuff and call you gay

[JuicyBrain]

@Antimillennial There are assholes everywhere. Are you one? If you are not, treat people how you would want to be treated. Those who are assholes Will meet their karma.

[JuicyBrain]

@Antimillennial "especially females. theyll make up stuff and call you gay" Funny because I have been called gay here by a guy lol. Look at Prof_Don's thread. I just think it was funny. It didn't hurt me at all. If this gets to you, you need a thicker skin.

[somebodysaycheese]

Your polls are a little too generalized
A mon being slut shamed is laughable and dumb. Men would be thrilled to see a womans ass and titties only when they are used to entertain them but not for their biological reasons, thats male logic for you. And its at a target? They allow trans people into the bathrooms they identify with but they really have a problem with biology doing what its supposed to do? Humans are so backwards and confused. And if your a hoe your a hoe. Male or female, a spade is a spade. I have dont go out of my way to tell the truth. If you dont feel like what your doing in wrong slut shaming shouldn't hurt your feelings. And if i was 15 and sending nudes my parents would kick my ass, that's what kids are missing getting discipline. And i find it funny some if the guys say men dont slut shame... yea sure they dont. Instragram models say they get slut shamed by men more than women.

[BuchitaBuchys]

No, not generalized. I'm merely showing exactly how easy it is to get the "slut" label. You're a bit flawed. The staff, who yes allow trans people to use the bathroom, were supporting the breastfeeding mother. The person against public breastfeeding was a customer, NOT Target nor their employees. And you're, again, misinformed. She didn't take nudes. Her "friend" snuck a pic of her when she was in the shower, picture taken without her consent and uploaded without her consent. Please read the articles before making judgments and assumptions.

[somebodysaycheese]

Im very aware the women was shamed by a customer, but more than 70 percent of americans support trans people using the bathrooms they identify with. Breast feeding being scandalous isn't knew, hence why i compared to the bathroom law. And a friend snapping a pic of the girl, is just not believable.

[BuchitaBuchys]

Another girl had her "friend" recording and uploading her rape. It's not that unbelievable.

[Berethor]

Slut-shaming is a good thing, but some people are taking it little too far, but by trying to generalize slut-shaming you help them with that, woman who breastfeeding is not slut, promiscuous woman is a slut. Yes yes who looking for one night stand should not have too much problem with sluts, while guys who are looking for series relationship should know that a slut is not wife material, unless they want to rise an other man child, without knowing it, sluts can't be trusted, easy girls are good only for one night stand, if a girl us okey with being good only for one night stand, then by all means, she free to be a slut, but being a slut has it's price.

tvtropes.org/.../MamasBabyPapasMaybe

[BuchitaBuchys]

Many women and girls get the label far too easy. I can honestly say no woman has ever called me a slut. But countless men have called me a slut, even before I had my first kiss or boyfriend. I was called a slut like at 13,14 because they found out I masturbated. Some coworker guy in his 30s kept asking me out when I was 17,18 even went so far as to stalk me and I couldn't take it and told him to leave me alone. He said I wanted to be single to "hoe around" and called me a slut, whore, etc. I did not even have my first boyfriend nor first kiss until I was 19. It's way too easy to be labeled a slut. And I'll admit it doesn't feel good.

[Berethor]

I am not sure how it's not, but you was not deserve to be called a slut because you was 19, some people call girls sluts only as insult, even if a girl is not slutty at all, and some people should better think about other insults next time. Some people are too conservative, so for them even a girl who just masturbating is a slut. Anyway slut-shaming is right when it's used for real sluts, those who behave badly, deserve to be shamed for it.

[Antimillennial]

too easy to be labeled a victim.. bet some other key factors are being left out.. like ho you present yourself

[desidoll]

@asker: Ah this happened to me too. I remember I get called a slut countless times when I was 24, virgin. Some men throw degrading words to women just to make us feel ashamed and bad, for not wanting to sleep with them.

[BuchitaBuchys]

@desidoll yes. It's like they throw it around for the most silly reasons. I know women do slut shame, but no woman has personally ever to me. Not to my face at least. The most hilariously ironic way I get called a slut is because I'm so selective aka picky when it comes to dates. I don't say yes to nearly anyone. And then I get the "you just want to stay a single whore/slut/thot" and I'm like what? How does that even make sense? My sisters are busty and they used to get called hoes simply for wearing a tank top. And my older sister was also single and a kissless virgin until about 18yrs old, never had a boyfriend. She was an early bloomer and grown disgusting men would cat call her and call her degrading names simply because she was an overly developed teen girl.

[BuchitaBuchys]

@desidoll do you still get it? And have women ever slut shamed you?

[desidoll]

@Asker: They called you slut for being picky which means in order to avoid being labelled as one, you HAVE to accept their advance, regardless of your willingness. So if we're about to take this alternative to stop getting the label, how many men are we suppose to sleep with? Because it is like "you're slut if you rejected me" What's the difference here? When we're not easy, we're sluts. When we give up too easy, we are also sluts. I never understand some men's mentality. Their ownership and possessive attitudes disgust me. Curvy women like your sister definitely can't run away from this label, though she doesn't show much skin. Her assets are enough to make people judge her sexuality. I haven't come across any women who throw this word to me. That's why I wonder whenever people say women shame each other more than men because my experiences have been showing the opposite.

[Berethor]

@desidoll those are different men, those who call you slut for rejecting them are not using the word slut properly and they just trying to manipulate you into giving them sex, many of those men are likely to be womanizers as well, so that's why they are trying to twist the meaning of slutiness. They a woman is too easy then she is a true slut, not the other way around, unless if the reason that a woman is turning down a man because he didn't have enough, then she is a gold digger, which is a kind of whore. It's not that men don't know what they want, is that different men looking for different women, men who are looking for one night stand are looking for sluts, and men who are looking for serious relationship are looking for good women.

[19blondie76]

How does it become 'found out' that a person masturbates? If you are chatting about it, that is slutty, crude, crass behavior!

[BuchitaBuchys]

@19blondie76 I have no idea how they found out about her tbh. But see, that's my point, it's really easy to get the label. I thought slut just means promiscuity? People throw the label to anyone.

[Berethor]

True slut has to be promiscuous, but some people label a girl slut even for the smallest sigh of sexuality, I guess that for them, all women should be total prudes.

tvtropes.org/.../AllWomenArePrudes

[DarkHumorRUs]

Being a slut is super trivial to me. So I think shaming anyone for something so trivial is bullshit.
But on the other hand, as a virgin, I DON'T believe virginity is trivial.