Would any of you wait until marriage for sex?

you love your partner more than anything but your partner wants you to wait for sex until you both get married, what would you do? simply leave him/her? i know many don't want to wait, i actually have no idea why it is so hard when you truly love that person. would you rather leave your lover and have your heartbroken or wait for sex?
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  • They like giving options huh... well then i'll give them one of my own. I can wait for sex with them until marriage... but in the mean time, i'll be getting mine elsewhere. I don't like people putting me in a corner, so if she loves me as much as she claims she does, then she wouldn't put me in that spot... and if she does, its only fair that i let her know what will happen. She gives me an ultimatum, i give her options.
    No offense to guys out there who decide to wait because of some girl... but that is one of the stupidest ideas women ever came up with in regards to relationships and there are a lot of them. Any guy that is going to be stupid enough to wait, well, you better hope that love is just as strong on her end as well. and if they knew women's minds, they wouldn't have that kind of faith.
    Any experienced guy or one that has been with a virgin female knows full well how irritating first times could be... and if the person requesting the wait is not a virgin, thats even worse.
    there's a reason why business/companies give out free samples or test drives, who wants to pay real money for invisible product?
    Lol... if i believed in divorce, i probably won't mind that dumbass idea... but im not a believer and last thing i want is to be stuck with some closed-minded corpse in bed for the rest of my life and have to get my satisfaction outside the marriage.

  • I would leave. No way can you love someone 100% without having sex with them. Why would you marry someone you have never had sex with? You are marrying a sexual stranger! By not having sex with me, you are already breaking my heart, so I would leave. Getting married should not change the way you feel about someone, so I will be forever bewildered as to why people think marriage matters so much regarding this. I also feel people need to fully get know each other before marriage as well. This doesn't happen in a few months. It take several years to get to this point. You also have to live together for at least a year too. You should date for about 4-5 years before marriage. I see lots of couples who choose to not have sex before marriage end up rushing things and only date for a matter of months. Then they get married without fully knowing each other, included their sexual compatibility. Many people ended up divorced simply because they got married too soon and didn't know each other well enough. So do you date for 4-5 years and never have sex? I would never sacrifice that much of my sex life for anyone!!! Or do you rush into marriage and possibly take the biggest gamble of your life?

    • i know many couples that break up who have sex so does that mean every couple breaks up because they have sex? i know a girl that is already 3+ years together with her boyfriend and they still haven't had sex, he respects it and i can see that they truly love eachother. I've seen couples getting in a huge conflict because of sex? she had an injury down there and her boyfriend was mad because they couldn't have sex. sex doesn't determine anything, and most couples have sex after not more than 3 months, do you know that person that well to have sex with? within 3 months! please!

    • Why are you so defensive and against people who have sex. You have absolutely nothing positive to say about people who have sex. If you are biased against having sex and you are not open to hearing other view points, then GAG isn't the place for you.

    • no that's not it but i think all these cruel comments are cruel, i don't get it and i also think the arguments don't make any sense. You also didn't respond to me and you shouldn't care about other peoples opinion right? I am talking to you and not to others right now

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  • I wouldn't. If I find out a guy wants to wait till marriage, it's an instant deal-breaker for me. I wouldn't even get into a relationship and fall in love with a dude before getting to know him pretty well, and learning where he stands on the whole sex topic is a part of that. So there would be no breakup, since I wouldn't be together with someone who wants to wait in the first place.

  • I want to, but we're both really young and I'm a Christian. If I were to have sex outside of marriage, I would like to be a legal age. In case of pregnancy...

  • I would never marry anyone I wasn't sexually compatible with so no sex = no marriage. I'd have to leave over it.

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  • Well I am still a virgin still (by choice), but I would not necessarily mind waiting until marriage because I haven't experienced it yet

  • Yes, no problem.

  • yea, i could wait. it would be hard as a mfer. But i have self control so i can wait.

  • Only if she is virgin, then she might be worth it, no way that I am going to wait for a slut.

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  • I waited... I wanted to marry her so I was cool with waiting.

    Sadly, she had other plans, so that was a wasted 1.5 years without sex, but another 4 years of no sex because of heartbreak. A few weekends of a rebound relationship, but then no sex for another 4 years due to that same heartbreak. Basically, I had almost no sex from July 1989 to November 1999 because of a girl like that and the devestating heartbreak she caused.

    • a heartbreak of 4 years?

    • a heartbreak of 24 years... and counting...

  • As soon as the "wait for marriage" crap got brought up, I'd be on my way out the door. That means "We're never having sex", because I won't do marriage again. I DO usually learn from my mistakes, and this was one that I learned from.

  • Ok it would be hard for me but I would wait.

  • no doubt id wait.. if its part of what makes me love the woman and she desires such a thing than all i can do is respect it..

  • Yes. I would because I am waiting.

  • I would not wait.

  • First of all, when I start dating with someone, this thing must be clear. If she will tell me on the very beginning she wants to wait till marriage, I'll end up that relationship immediately.
    There are pros and cons for sex before marriage. My biggest pros are I want be sure we are "compatible" and our chemistry is working. Also that we have similar sex drive.
    Yes, sex is important in relationship. If it doesn't work, friendship will finish sooner or later.

  • No I wouldn't wait. I think it's stupid. Sex really is a big deal in relationships and you have to be sexually compatible. What if you wait and you find out he's super prude and only does lt in the missionary position under the covers with the lights off and you find out you're into bdsm? Yeah, that'll work

    • if sex determines love then you seriously have a proble, what if you love your girlfriend and find out she's prude in bed? will you leave her just like that? because of sex?

    • Yes I probably would. Being sexually compatible is a big deal. Not being satisfied is what leads to affairs

    • wow that's sad

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  • I could wait if it was important to her. Mind over penis... mind over penis!

  • I want to wait to begin with, but even if I didn't id certainly wait for my partner if he did intend to marry me.

  • fuckkkk no

  • I am waiting.

  • I've realized it does more harm than good to wait until marriage for sex. Not that you shouldn't wait, but if you're both commuted and in love, all waiting until marriage does is give you some imaginary moral compass gold stars.

  • Hell naw

  • I guess I could... But I don't really want to

  • I really want to wait with my next girlfriend, but I doubt it will happen.

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