If you do naked dry humping what positions do you do?

[Anonymous]

I saw a question about this on here, but no one mentioned what positions you can do. Is it just like regular dry humping or can you do more? I think the idea sounds really interesting.

[Anonymous]

While my partner has gotten off from missionary dry humping, for me, we need to be either naked or close to it, and I need to dry hump her butt. Easiest is her lying on her belly.

[Asker]

Have you dry humped naked missionary style?

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah, though not that much. Things' don't exactly stay in the right spot, lol. You can kind of have her with her legs together, then thrust into the gap along her labia between her thighs. Or alternatively, she can more pull her knees up, and the guy can be more sitting up and thrusting along the labia and over her clit. It's not exactly 'dry humping' though like that because you need to use your hands to guide things. If we've done that it's just been as a prelude to sex. Her orgasming from dry humping was something more when we were first dating, and she was fully clothed. We were making out and dry humping and she'd have more than one orgasm, and I wouldn't, so... she decided she wanted to start giving me handjobs at that point. It was only later we kind of found I could cum thrusting against her ass.

[Asker]

makes sense. But have you ever just made out naked and without fucking?

[Opinion Owner]

Not if she wanted to get off. Not since we started having sex (before we did, yes). While my partner has a way lower drive than me, she's much more intercourse focused than I am. So if she wants to get off, we're gonna have sex. Nowadays, she's not interested in doing anything if she's not having sex, but when she used to do sometimes stuff because I was in the mood and she wasn't, she'd tend to be at least partly dressed. The closest to us both being naked without having sex would be times where I dry humped her ass, perhaps with her thong still on and her leggings or whatever pulled down, and then pulled her thong down to cum on her ass at the end. Although if she wasn't feeling like sex she'd be not all that excited to do it, once it was happening, she'd get pretty turned on and enjoy it, more than getting me off any other way really.

[Asker]

But did you ever just roll around and makeout naked?

[Opinion Owner]

We rolled around naked rubbing against each other and doing mutual oral, without intercourse, before we first had intercourse. Once we started having sex, if we were both naked sex was probably going to happen. We might have just rolled around and made out naked for a while, but it would lead to sex. I would have been (still would) happy to mix it up and do different things.

[Asker]

So how good was the first part? I'd like to try, but nervous.

[Opinion Owner]

mechanically, face to face, it's really difficult to both get good stimulation. If the guy is grinding it's sort of like... where does the penis go? What angle is it on? How are they getting stimulation beyond just a little incidental rubbing (which is nice, but you're both going to want more)? For the guy, against her ass is easy, the head of the penis is pushing between her cheeks and getting rubbed from both sides, or you sort of lie on her and thrust along her ass. Either face to face or from behind, he can thrust between her thighs, right up against vulva. Not bad for him. But face to face it's going to tend to be stimulating away from her clit. She'd get more clit stimulation if he's behind her, between her thighs, and then her hand is under his penis, pushing up somewhat (holding still). That can force the angle so the head of his penis is rubbing her clit, while the underside is rubbing against her fingers. The other option is he's on his back, penis towards his stomach...

[Opinion Owner]

And she's on top, and can grind against it. Not side to side, but against the length of it.

[Asker]

Yeah, thanks for the awesome descrip. But maybe I'll just have simple sex lol

[Opinion Owner]

I'd say, looking back, it was actually probably easier for my partner to get off from clothed dry humping, because the clothes kind of keep the penis in one spot as a 'bulge' that she's grinding against. With clothes off, the penis can move around more.

[Asker]

So she prefers sex the most or oral? everyone says oral is awesome, but I love how traditional intercourse is.

[Opinion Owner]

Definitely sex. And I think that's pretty normal - any poll I've ever seen, significant majority of women like sex the best. Oral is probably the easiest way for women to orgasm (aside from masturbation) so for women who are learning its best, its great foreplay, and for women who have trouble orgasming, they may rely on it, and that's fine. But -most- women find sex more mentally exciting, and most women find it more physically satisfying to orgasm while feeling deeply penetrated and 'filled up'. Not so different from men in the sense that the head is the most sensitive part, but if you make a guy cum ONLY touching the head, it's annoying, you want that 'thrust deep' sensation of either... actually thrusting deep, or having some stimulation down to the base. It's not the 'best' part but it's an urge.

[Asker]

When you guys made out naked and did oral, how did it feel to finish with oral? Was the orgasm still good I mean.

[Opinion Owner]

Yes, definitely. Sex is in some ways 'better', but an active sex life full of mutual oral and touching and desire is pretty damn good, and beats sex without enthusiasm by a long shot.

[Asker]

Does it feel less romantic and connected with oral only though?

[Asker]

Like do you need the fucking to connect emotionally since it's the ultimate?

[Opinion Owner]

No, and maybe. It can be very satisfying. But feeling like your partner is holding out in some way or holding back can create a chill. So it depends on context. If this is a sometimes thing or even often but other times sex, than not at all. If she's a virgin and excited but not ready for sex, no. If it's to avoid pregnancy, no. If she just stops wanting sex for no obvious reason, or it seems like she is using an excuse but doesn't really have any desire for more, then maybe it creates a slow issue.

[Asker]

You're good at explaining things out, but everyone I know says you need intercourse to feel connected. Can you please explain more on why intercourse might not be needed?

[Opinion Owner]

I mean all of this is going to depend on the people involved. It's NOT about the physical side, it's how these physical acts make us feel emotionally, and that depends on how we FEEL about them. Someone who has it firmly in their head that vaginal intercourse is the best and everything else is a warm up is going to want mainly sex, or they'll feel frustrated - especially knowing that plenty of other couples have lots of vaginal sex. For everyone else, there's a big difference between doing something less often, and doing it never. I -like- blowjobs. But its not my biggest turn on. If I'm watching porn, i'd probably only try to watch blowjob like 5% of the time. If my partner wasn't very into blowjobs, and so we didn't use them often, i'd be fine with it. But 'not often' is different from -never-. Because sure, I do sometimes get the urge for one in particular. And if she's not that into them, I wouldnt' want it to be a core part of what we do all the time. But never?

[Opinion Owner]

... never becomes a problem, for any sex act one person wants. Like... maybe she doesn't like it enough to enjoy, but can't she put up with it like once a year for me? If not, why not? And there could be valid reasons here... if I was dating someone, and she'd been sexually assaulted in a way that focused on oral and oral triggered her, THAT I could understand, and i'd live without them. But if she's just like 'its gross', i'd be thinking... you can't do something gross for me for 5 minutes a year? Really? With sex I'm guessing you're thinking about the case of a virgin? If not, provide me the context. So some guys indeed will be focused on sex. But I -believe- most guys would wait a -long- time for intercourse with a virgin if she was passionate about oral/handjobs/etc. (Don't ignore the etc, some guys love the etc.) Everyone wants to feel desired. Everyone wants to feel their partner wants to please them. Everyone weighs up the 'won't do now' versus the reason why.

[Asker]

Well yes, I've only had one guy beofre. I've had friends get pregnant using bc, so that does make me nervous. But I also like lots of girls have to really focus to cum from sex. I wouldn't mind doing it with a new boyfriend at all, and I really like being dominated sometimes. It's just that sex can be a lot of pressure, and risking pregancy all the time is stressful to me. So the majority of the time, I'd just like to do things stress free. And to me that is making out and oral. I'd totally give my boyfriend oral every day or even multiple times if he wanted. If you got bjs like twice a day would you still need intercourse? And of course he'd give me oral back, and I know from experience I can feel satisfiesd with oral once or twice a day. It's just that everyone says you need sex to make the relationship deeper, and I kind of agree because having him inside is really intimate. So if you had a mainly oral sex life, would the romance during sex still be there you think? That's all I really want.

[Asker]

Thta's why I like the naked makeout idea so much. Like it's the ultimate for intimacy in a away, but no stress for anyone. It's just that i haven't really tried it before. My previous boyfriend was only there for a few months, so we just did standard things. So how initmate did you feel with the naked makeouts and oral after?

[Opinion Owner]

Assuming a non-virgin who more easily orgasms from non-penetrative sex and is pregnancy averse, I would be very happy with -regular mutual non-penetrative sex, and infrequent vaginal sex. Zero vaginal sex might bother me a little, I think, in that scenario. In terms of things other than intercourse, you can sometimes do things to each other at the same time, but basically, non-intercourse stuff is generally you getting him off, and him getting you off. Guys who adore oral would want lots and lots and lots of oral. Most other guys would probably want a variety of stuff. They might even want mainly something other than oral, with oral only like 20% of the time. Depends on what turns them on, what body parts they are into. If you don't know what I mean, ask away. Finally it's probably worth throwing out there that if he is turned on a lot by anal, and you're open to it, that one is the one that's most likely going to be a 100% vaginal alternative for him.

[Asker]

Did you see my first reply? I really want things that feel romantic but sure oral everyday or multiple times for both of us is fine by me.

[Opinion Owner]

I don't think vaginal intercourse is dramatically more or less romantic or connecting than some other forms of sex. Some people may indeed find it the 'most'. But others might find something else the most connecting. What's more concerning here, potentially, is if one partner wants something, and the other partner refuses to engage in it, ever, then that is 'disconnecting'. And tripling up on some other sex act won't make up for it. It's like if I asked 'do you feel it's more romantic and shows connection to curl up on a couch together watching a show, or going to a family event where you are proud to be with each other?' you might say both, or one, or whichever. And if I said 'what if your partner was much more into one than the other, would that be okay?' you'd probably say yes, unless you REALLY loved one. But if I then went to 'what if your partner would never sit with you at home' or 'what if your partner would never be out with you in public', ...

[Opinion Owner]

... now you'd probably feel hurt. And tripling up on the other wouldn't change that. It's kind of the same idea, unless there's a real reason for it.

[Asker]

Oh no, like I said we could still have sex sometimes. I like him being dominate anyway.

[Opinion Owner]

... by the way we have now written a massive anon-anon discussion on this, if you want to message me so you can keep asking stuff, let me know and i'll drop anon long enough for you to contact me. just let me know.

[SleepingSnorlax]

The best is when she's reverse cowgirl style and just grinds her butt on it the peen
Thats my favorite way

[MysticIntent]

Missionary always worked best for me.

[Asker]

What did it feel like, grinding naked instead of fucking?

[MysticIntent]

Well obviously it felt good. I'd just grind the shaft against the labia. It was a bit awkward on account of how un-traditional that kinda thing is. As a result it was rather difficult to cum from it so she usually finished me off with a handjob. But there was still the thrill of us both being naked and messing around.

[NJ_Casanova]

She usually rides me while I'm sitting.

[aftermath]

Missionary or girl on guy cause doggy is too much effort tbh

[SatyricLord]

Never tried it.

[Belomichael]

Just girl on guy